So i have this ex girlfriend, HB7, who was talking with me about the possibility of a threesome with her best friend. Wanting everyone to feel comfortable, i started hanging out with her best friend, HB8.5. I found out that she had a boyfriend in the army and she was just looking for something physical until he got out. I thought it would be awesome, but HB7 broke up with me before i could make it happen. I got pretty close too with a game of strip poker leading to a threeway make out, but i didn't have enough time to pull the trigger.

Anyway, fast forward six months. HB8.5 wants to move in with me. She still has the boyfriend in the army, and he found her a place to stay with an ex of his. Needless to say, she felt like it would be awkward, and she decided to give me a call since she had almost moved in with HB7 six months ago. Anyway, she's moving in Jan, 10 and i need a few pearls of knowledge to be ready for her.

1) Can someone please explain the concept of a boyfriend destroyer? Is the objective to try to DLV him in his absence, or just to drive a wedge to make a gap between them just big enough for her to see? I don't necessarily want her to give up on him, but i will need to overcome her LMR. Which brings me to question 2...

2) This girl is smart. Is there any way to tackle LMR verbally without a freezeout? I find that when i freeze a girl out, she doesn't feel compelled to escalate again.

3) Clearly i'll have to talk to her to find out how she feels about this next one. How can i bring home other women without making her jealous? What should i tell her that conveys that what we have is special, but she is committed to a relationship and i'm going to continue my search for my own?