Ok so here’s a (not so) quick resume of my relationship.

Basically I met this girl in class in September, I could tell she was giving me IOI’s but I wasn’t feeling it and ignored her. One day we came to go out to the bar together for work and I got superbly smashed. I invited her home and she went with it even though I lived far out and she was living close by. She had no trouble sleeping in my bed but wouldn’t let me do anything except hold her.

I though I’d blew it.

It ends up we get along quite well and so I invite her for dinner a few weeks later, She comes over, we get along fine, laugh a bit, she goes up to my room, slips into one of my dress shirts and into my bed and we fool around, no sex. This similar type of thing happens about four or five more times in the span of a week or two (I invite her for dinner and she comes with all her stuff for the next morning), notably there are always people sleeping in the same room as us or close by as we do this.

I feel like a relationship is starting to build and she’s acting weird so we decide to go to a bar for a drink. She pulls the, I don’t know if I’m willing to build a relationship with you, you leave for ever in 4 months and I want blah blah blah….but I want us to stay intimate and close! So basically she’s calling quits but not really? Then she jumps into my arms and cuddles very affectionately. We end up going back to my place and sleeping in the same bed again, even though this was NOT planned at all, I was calling quits but can’t resist her, she’s hot I got to admit.

I stop calling her afterwards thinking she’s just shit testing me or doesn’t care. I show up one weekend and she’s waiting at my door to set up Christmas stuff in my apartment. Ok so I broke and I don’t know what to do. I feel like in her mind she’s just being a friend (who enjoys getting physical but doesn’t want to have sex because she’s afraid of something apparently) I want her, bad.

I stopped calling her for the last like week, but I met her leaving a night club I was arriving at and she just follows me back in and starts dancing holding my hand and getting close enough for everyone to know something is up.

So I was an idiot and got her a Christmas gift because I knew she would be alone for Xmas and I felt bad (a fur scarf that costs a fucking arm but I have some connections) I show up, give it to her, she cries jumps into my arms and starts kissing my neck and being super seductive, I walk away and leave town. Within two hours she’s texting me that she is so thankful for my gift and gives me tons of signs of tenderness.

I hope all this made sense and wasn’t too long guys. It boils down to I want this girl to be my GF but I don’t know if she’s for real or if she’s just shit testing. What should I do? Not call (I’ve been doing this), blow her off, avoid her. We wont see each other for 3 weeks BTW unless I make the effort to go see her or vice versa.

while in bed with her are you too kissing and that, did you actually ask her why you guys are not fucking, is she a virgin???.

we are well past just kissing, shes naked in my bed and touching generously each other, dry sex, full massage, sucking on her tits. to be crude I've got her yelping with pleasure. my roomate (asshole major) came in last time to high five me while she was sleeping literally on top of me. (yep I did it). I havent really asked her straight up why we aren't going further., I'm a bit afraid to be honest. Everytime I try she just pushes me away a bit and asks me "how do you want me to resist" and I don't want to be pushy. I may also party blame my lack of sex on the fact that people sleep in very close proximity to me, My roomie is crashing at my place and we sleep in the same room, not great for privacy but we can't do better.

haha. That's funny as fuck! Made me laugh.

Not trying to be a dick, but could you use paragraphs please? It makes things alot easier to read.

Anyway...

It sounds like she is game, man.

Earlier on when you wrote, "She pulls the, I don’t know if I’m willing to build a relationship with you, you leave for ever in 4 months and I want blah blah blah….but I want us to stay intimate and close!"

I would have said, "Well, lets make the most of it!". Or something similar.

I don't think you should freeze her out otherwise she'll think you're not interested in her because she won't put out...

Sorry I'm not much help.
Keep us posted, man.

How do you expect a girl will be into having sex with you for the first time with your weirdo roommate hanging around? You have to at least do your best to control the aspects of this game that can be easily arranged.

Get your damn roommate to crash in some other room for a night! What is he your older brother? Tell him to stay the fuck out until you're done. This is a cinch . . . Change your sheets . . . make her feel clean and safe . . . all that crap . . .

As for the sex, just ask, to the tune of "What's wrong?" . . . "Are you OK?" . . ."Is everything OK with you?"

I've even pointed my finger down at her punanai once saying, Are you OK down there? (with a serious voice)

Not sure what her answer will be but barring any serious physical problems, you're probably not sexually teasing her enough. Instead of going for the kill at a steady pace, you have to think more in terms of her needs. So you rub her, before SHE can move your hand, you take it back. When you go back, it's not your hand, it's your dick. Rub her, you pull away. "Are you OK down there? Is there a problem?" The idea is you keep teasing that carrot in front of the rabbit to make it continue hopping towards you.

On, off, on, off, on, off . . . Then you just roll on a condom like you're putting your socks on in the morning and watch her spread her legs in glee.

Well I'll give you the fact that Its a little complicated to have sex her with the constant fear of weirdos barging in drunk off their asses with some whorish girl they found god knows where. (yes my life is fucked up).

Ill pay them a movie or cover their bar tab next time I guess.


as for cleansiness, its all clean and comfy except once again for psychos and their whorish fiends.

She has no apparent reason thats physical for not wanting sex, I've touched thouroughly and didnt feel anything wrong, lol, shes not a guy I'm sure of that.

the thing about teasing her is that when she can no longer really resist and feels like I'm taking complete control shes pushes me away while panting and whispering into my ear she can't resist anymore and goes cold, I feel bad for pushing further you know.

thanks for the insight xeroxed88

Ill avoid blocking her out too much but ill wait for her call, I know with certainty she'll call. And ill work on the whole Paragraph thng, sorry guys. thanks for all the info BTW. any more help would be appreciated, or if you just want to make fun of me its cool, i get a lot of shit for it already and it makes me a little less sensitive which in turn gives me more game.

This is why you ask the questions . . . (It's a tiny bit embarrassing and it's acknowledgment that there's no apparent reason to NOT have sex)

sorry to bump but I'm bringing more or less relevant news.

First off a few quick questions,
is it odd that this girl decides to wear my sweaters when she's with her family, I mean, I may be old school but how does she justify that?

is it strange she steals my sweaters in the first place? and she picked like the most horrendous one, an old barbour I wear around the appartment when its cold.

and marks my coat with her perfume?

anyways to continue the story, well I called her the other night for christmas, she was really happy, I could tell she was busy so I kept in brief and we talked for like 15 minutes.

I then called her again today, she works at a franchise and I wanted to know if it was open (in another city, not her workplace) to buy stuff. I dont think she believed me because she got into this whole conversation mode in a rush (she was rushing off somewhere I guess) but kept saying sorry, Im not really sure how to interpret this, is this girl in the LJBF zoning me and Im being blind or is she into me and seriously shit testing me?

She hasnt called me BTW, it always seems to be my initiative (although she does always seem to comply) , which was different in the past but I can't recall because frankly I didn't give a fuck about her.

I may be suffering from I want what I can't have syndrome, perhaps I should give up and see if she comes back later or something, I'm just afraid we won't even be friends if I do that.

Thanks for the help and for your time guys.

Some girls are shy sexually, very shy, and expect the man to do most of the work. This could be the case here. I believe she likes you, but is unsure how you can provide for her sexually. Maybe she's been with men that have just always taken the initiative, and therefore she expects the same from you. My advice? I'd go for broke... invite her over to your place for dinner or something (making sure your roommates won't show), when she gets there, make sure she knows that the roomies won't come in in a subtle way, forget about dinner and just build sexually until you are having sex. If she stops and asks u questions, don't answer them, listen, slow down, then begin to kiss her more and ramp up your pressure. These could be shit-tests on their own. Don't answer her until you just blatently tells you to stop... at this point, you know she's not interested in you. If she's nervous and trying to slow you down, slow down, but never stop and never idle, always build.