Hey guys zapped here im going to give you the lo-down on a serious fuck up im in you guys are the only ones that can help me because i cant even trust myself thats how far into this stupid situation im in, im trusting you guys completely and what you are about to say I am going to do.so here we go-------------------





About 4 months ago I met a girl and this was about the time i was fairly new to the game but also being aware of this I used some tactics but not enough to set the right foundation. I had never talked to this girl before in my life so it was fucked and it was some harmless talking and next thing you know shes at my house the next day. we chilled watched a movie got some IOI's but at this point I didnt think to move in on any of it (looking back now I know I should of). Next day she wants to come over again but that night as we were talking on the computer she tells me she wants to kiss me. I dont remember my response but i remember not giving into it all at the time. Anyways she comes over and as youd guessed i made her work for it but we did end up making out. After that we hung out once more but nothing very serious happened at all. After this period of about a week or so things kind of died down and we really didnt hang out much ,more after that. Then we started talking again and got into things and at this point i was starting to get feelings for her but i didnt confess them because lets face it shes about a 9 but def a 8 and a half so she prob gets guys doing that shit all the time so it would seem insincere doing this especially considering the degree to whick i knew her but all the same i let it go and carried on. Then she started mentioning questions to me like whaat i thought of a secret relationship and things of that sort and by the way about this far into the situationits been about a month and a half and we are starting to talk lots over the phone almost for hours on end i know this is a bad thing now but at the time i was still a rookie and didnt know so i thought it was good sign but as im about to mention im a newbie and as all newbies do we miss judge certain signs anyways she says she wants to talk about this over a lunch so we go out and in my head im thinking yes i like her i want this this is going to happen. she told me over lunch she pritty much didnt have the time and i was thinking about trying to convince her but corrected my thoughts knowing this was the wrong thing to do she has the earn me not me earn her anyways so this goes a little back and forth with her saying she wants it but doesnt want it so we decide that we are seeing eachother the next week she hooks up with TWO diff guy at a party because she didnt think i was coming and apparently was sad that i didnt make it earlier and in her saddnes of not having a chance to do something with me she goes and did what she did. I acted as if i really didnt care a whole lot becasue there were really no rules of this seeing eachother situation so oi let it go but after she finally got it out of me how much i really cared and liked her so now im fucked she has complete controll and im just a fucking mouse on a leshe waithing to be thrown to dirt but somehow this semi-fucked relationship continues but with me constantly obsessing about her in my head this go good for about a two month period and then about a week ago she calls me and tells me she did shit with another guy a guy i really fucking hate and i really saw it coming but i decided to ignor it i let it go once again being the idiot i am anyways she keeps playing this hot and cold game with me and its causing extreeme paranoia and frustration to the point of almost suicide lol i really dont have much trust for her and she stopped hooking up hefty with me cuz she feels weird that were not going out and at this time im thinking she does have the time so why arent we going out and why am i still here even after all shes put me though i like her too much that im scared to let her go but i really dont think its ever going to be more than how things are i cant rationalize a serious form of action you guys are the only help i have im begging you to get me through this one cuz its eating me alive




thanks all

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dude, cut this chick off and get out looking for other girls quickly. dont stay at home waiting and thinking about some chick.

ok man thats what im going to do how should i go about doing telling her do i get mad throw all the shit i put up with in her face or do i just say im done with it

No reason to get mad. There are way too many gorgeous women on this earth for you get so trifled about just one.

As a PUA neophyte the two hardest hurdles to get over are one-itis and AA (approach anxiety). I personally feel that the two are rather connected. If you are not able to approach women without feelings of fear and anxiety, you're probably going to lionize any woman you meet that you can make a connection with or too put it as so many often do, "putting the pussy on a pedestal".

Go out and approach as many women as you can and you're bound to see that the same thing you're so attracted to in that one girl is abundant in so many others.

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"Now put your clothes back on, and I'll buy you an ice cream."

ya i believe your right with the relation between the two in this case i was lucky thatg she approached me i dont think i would of approached her if i thought of the idea i reall got to work on my AA and i think the one itis will start to fade with my growing confidence in the approach cuz when you think about it if your too scared to approach you wont be able to let go of what you had because you dont want to have the fear of appoaching something new when you can struggle to hold on to whats old



thanks bro
zapped

Dude don't ever rely on any girl to make you happy. I figured this out after my first girlfriend left me. You have to be happy with yourself otherwise you will be insecure and you will only be happy when you have a girlfriend.

The reason i can be happy without a girl is because i look around at all my mates who have had girlfriends for years and years, and i see how they have been held back. They are all boring because they sit at home with their girlfriends. I run free, do what I like and have a really good time.

So my advice is to just completely ignore her. You don't need her to be happy. All you need is yourself. Be happy with yourself and just have some god damn fun!

Who knows maybe if you ignore her it will make her run around after you, after all absence makes the heart grow stronger. Use this to your advantage, don't be insecure!!

hey guys just an update i stoped texting her and doing alot of the shit thats outtung her in controll pritty much just simulated leaving her for good and she calls me randomly in a frantic begging me to hang out so i guess the cat string theory is very applyable to her maybe ill use it to get some last min control and maybe get some pussy then drop her and i notice that when i act more confident and dont say sorry to her she comes on to me alot more so thats working too i developed a new sence of game from you guys i no longer listen to what her mouth is really saying when i act funny cockey but more of what her actions say cuz one minute shes beaking me about my hair and i say you really dont hate my hair your just attracted to me of corse she says no and about 20 sec later shes giving me some heavey iois if you know what i mean i owe you guys big time thanks

im also wel,come to anymore responses

peace zapppped