Jurupa, I have seriously been working on my social anxiety and looking or being more confident in the last 3 months. The problem is these guys get intimidated by my height and then react with bumping into me, and even looking for a fight, or threatening me with a weapon - happened in one case about two months ago.

This kind of thing seriously drags my confidence back down. I want to work my inner game, but I live in a not nice part of London and have to deal with these idiot guys looking for trouble seemingly every few weeks, and of course the more subtle but aggressive, what are you looking at type staring contests happen every day.

OK, thanks Hurley and Jurupa for making the point about body language standing out. I have definitely been noticed for my body language in the past. I have this social anxiety nonsense, which is just another word for no confidence or self belief; and even had a bunch of 14 year old school kids see that I was uncomfortable walking past them when they were being rowdy. One of them made a joke about me being nervous. I didn't realise up until that point how much my body language evinced my feelings of nervousness in public. Again, I have been working on walking tall since then.

With regards to Lithuania, you wouldn't believe the amount of European women I have seen in London who seem to be 6ft and above. Some of them seemed like 6ft 2 or more, and pretty too. I am not so attracted to women that tall incidentally, but they seemed to be all over the place where I live a while back. I always thought height would be a good conversation starter with such a woman, but could never bring myself to start up a conversation or approach.

You should work on ignoring them as well as not letting it get to you. Because they see what they are doing is getting to you and so they continue to do it. Once they see that what they are doing doesn't effect you they will do it a lot less. Basically the are bulling/AMOGing you primary because of your height.
I use to have a general social anxiety when I was growing up mostly due to my height. But I mostly got out of it by chit chatting with people that I knew and didn't knew when ever I was out of the house. As it sounds like to me you are most probably going thru the same things I did when I was growing up.
And it is, especially when you are taller than them and they are taller than the guys around them. Even if you say something totally stupid they will most probably will talk to you as you have something in common with them that most guys don't have.

smile first.

THEN work on eye contact.


if you are a big guy (i'm only 5'11", but i'm 250 lbs and a former rugby 8-man), you will get attention from girls more than smaller guys, BUT you run a huge risk of intimidating them, literally.

the smile is the universal human signal, across ALL cultures, that clearly indicates to another person "i will not harm you."

the more physically intimidating you can be, the more you have to counter with your energy and your expressions.

and this doesn't really apply to mystery because he looks like a baby-faced goth kid who would fall over in a stiff breeze. also doesn't apply to matador cos he's a wanna-be thug who scares girls into sleeping with him.

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OK, I'm working on it every day. I have to be able to get the confidence to not be intimidated by holding eye contact. I'm actually 30 so am trying to break the habit of a lifetime. I was trying to do the staring at one eye and "locking" eye contact the other day with a pretty girl in a coffee shop. I broke eye contact after a few seconds and only then did I smile, but without looking back. What a clown!! I think doing something new seemed funny to me.

Great videos of yours I watched earlier, Sean. It's good to see it put into practice like that. It feels strange to be at the other end of the spectrum and have you comment in this thread. Mystery definitely has a look about him. Reminds me of a guy I used to work with who had a similar Charisma.

Jurupa, some of it has to be in my mind. Sometimes a guy bumps me and I am really annoyed and it gets my confidence (like I have been trampled on). Other times it doesn't bother me. Same with staring. I'm working on it all anyway.

Oh, and I forgot to say, Sean. I was jealous of your calves in that video. What I'd give to turn my chicken legs into those

Don't let the bumping thing get to you. People bump into me all the time. Most of the time they didn't even notice me until they bump into me. How they can not notice me I have no clue. But I gotten use to it and when it happens I just shrug it off.