I first met HB9 waitress at a restaurant last summer. I took my 8 yr. old son (I'm a single dad) to the restaurant and she was our server. She would always try to find a way to come back to our table and exchange banter with us. She is very nice especially to my son. I didn't pay too much attention to her since I was in a relationship that time. We became regulars at that restraurant and even when she is not our server she would come by our table multiple times to chat and sometimes even sit down with us.

I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago and I decided to ask HB9 waitress to go with me to our company Holiday Party. She said yes and everybody at the office were impressed that I brought a smoking hot date. After the party, I walked her to her car. She told me she had a great time and I asked her if I can call her sometime (my intention was to make it clear that I want to date her and not just be friends). And she said yes. The next day, I tried calling her and left her a voice message if she would like to hang-out. I didn't get a callback from her. After a couple of days, I got an email from her apologizing that she's been busy. After a couple of days, I emailed her asking her out again (for dinner). She emaild back that she is working that night and that she is also kind of dating someone. Since she said "kind of dating" and not boyfriend, I told her I don't mind that and I would still like to take her out on a date. She didn't respond after that.

Then last night, I brought my son again to the restaurant. She was our server and again she displayed multiple IOI's. I texted her this morning thanking her for the free dessert she gave my son and I didn't get any response from her.

I'm totally confused with her signals. Is she just doing her job when she talks to us at the restaurant? Why would she go with me to our holiday party if she was not interested in the first place? She is so bad in replying to email and text messages. Is she just plainly immature? - she is only 25 and I'm 37.

I'm sorry for the long post. Im just confused. What do you guys think?

Before I post let me tell you im no expert, but from what I understand from reading your post is that your viewing this as if its one big long set, its not.
Once she gives you 3 IoI's you start to build attraction, kino then close thats it. If you brought her to your office party why didnt you close there? I think she might be confused because your taking so long to act.
Just my 2 cents here, again like i said not an expert.

I'm very new to this whole community. What do you mean that I should not view this as a long set? I tried to kiss close when I walk her to her car but instead I opted to just give her a hug (I know I chickened out). Thanks for the advice however.

I mean that you planned it out for too long, you should have kiss closed her on your second meeting. It just seems like you took it too far.

Are there any other facts? Hows the sexual attraction between you too? Is there any at all?

I want to help you. just need more info

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i tend to agree with jcortez.

There is a time factor involved here, if you leave it to long sometimes she can fell that if you didnt make a move then you werent intersted in her, i would lay off the txts and emails for the time being let her to the chasing, next time you see her at her place of work play it cool, be layed back better still if there is another waitress works there flirt with her...

Keep us posted on how it goes.

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Well, you have to remember she is a hired gun, she is being paid to be nice. Lots of her IOI's are not real IOI's. However, in your case, it seems like she was interested before but now she isn't. It could be because she genuinely is busy, THIS CAN HAPPEN. You called her to ask if she would like to HANGOUT? Ummm come on man, tell her you're going to go _______, you would like her to come along. Leave your son out of this, you need some alone time with her so get a babysitter or let him hangout with his friends (with responsible parents of course).

And kind of dating someone? That right there is an IOD because if she is dating, why couldn't she date you? Kinda? Obviously not serious. You have to step up or you're going to lose her. Ask her to go out with you somewhere (make sure it's fun) and if she doesn't respond, drop it.

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I would say she is semi interested but unsure if your something she wants in her life right now. As you are a package deal jcortez with you and your kid. And so she is really dating the both of you and not just you.

Wait you mean you tend to agree with me right?

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aha

Yeah it would appear i was intoxicated i would probably have agreed with the war in iraq if there was a post for that, but yeah i meant you clearly...

Peace

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