whats up .. i know i just made another post, i dont mean to spam but this is something i'm kinda confused about

heres the deal, i'm short 5'5. it bothers me sometimes, but i know i have game, i've been strugglin tho and heres why

high school was the shit, i was chill, cool, i knew who i was and shit, but since i've gone to college things have been differnet since i meet so many differnet ppl.

anyway heres my dillemma. i always try to be the alpha male, and i think i do a decent job at it, but i'm always worried about gettin hit w/ that napoean complex thing. that is one thing i DO NOT want to be labeled as.

so how can i be an alpha, but not get labled that napolean complex shit

I bet alot of people don't even know what the napolean complex is first of all and I'm sure alot of people wouldnt care even if they did know. If you are short and dominant then I suppose you run the risk of having this "complex". But what are the alternatives? do you want to be less dominant? maybe you could try to not be a leader of your group of friends but still high up in the social hierchy (spellcheck?). anyways ur a born leader, people respect and look up to you (metaphorically), and thats who u are then who cares man? I know a guy who is about 5'5 maybe shorter and he is the undisputed leader of his crew.

Take a course in management and/or leadership. There are many different ways to be a leader . . . many different ways to be alpha . . . many different ways to "manage" different groups.

Napoleon . . . well, the guy was an insecure little weirdo. I'm not sure if you read into these things but as much as he was a strategic genius, he was a control freak. I learned this ins some "strategy" class long ago so I forget the name of the battle, year and other specifics but there was a situation where his army took a huge hit because he felt it necessary to lead the "water fetching" duty himself. He had tied down all the ships with each other, and failed to empower commanding officers to make decisions. So when they were attacked, they had no idea what to do . . .

For some reason, a bunch of guys on this forum happen to think "alpha" means to flex muscles, make fun of everybody, and challenge everybody physically. --- This isn't alpha or beta. It's moronic.

There are many different styles of leadership that has NOTHING to do with being a control freak or a muscle flexing moron. Seriously, consider one of those courses. I'm sure you'll find one that suits your natural personality and it will really help your professional life.

I would suspect that everyone knows what a Napoleonic Complex is. Sadly, many short lil' guys have it. It is the same with guys who are in wheelchairs. Both groups seem to have many guys who are hostile to begin with. This gets you zilch! Nothing! Spread love rather than negative energy. Nobody loses when you spread postive vibes. If you are short and an ass you are only making things go from bad to a nightmare.

well it kinda sucks because lately i'm not in the best of moods. so i'm always like down, its because i'm in college, and i can't really adjust and its not really a school i want to be at, so i'm like depressed kind of. so that doens't rub off awesomely most of the time

but like in high school i was the happiest mofo ever, and the way i acted combined w/ my shortness made me a good catch .. i was always positive.

so i know like what to do, but growing older i feel like things are gettin harder, and i have to show myself in shorter periods of time to people, to make first impressions, and i just fear the whole napolean thing. i'm not controlling, and i dont like muscle ppl, but i just try to make my presence known and that i'm not like just the average joe schmo

Focus on the inside - Not the outside. If I was rude I would tell you to shutup and learn! By this, I mean you need to develop yourself. Avoid the opposite sex for a year or so. When you step back and focus on your own development you will be amazed at how others view you. My life changed when I quit trying to change others! I focused on glowing from the inside. Before I knew it people were bending over backwards for me.

If you're TRYING to be alpha while you are WORRIED about people labeling you as someone with a Napoleon Complex, then you actually do have a Napoleon Complex.

Real alphas don't care if people label them. They live through their own identity.

Actually . . . in reality, ALPHA only exists due to the fact that betas THINK of them as alphas. Without betas placing an individual on a pedestal and identifying him/her as alpha, there would be no order. Thus, there is no such thing as alphas living through their own identity. An alpha that lives through their own identity not only ceases to be alpha but ceases to have any identity in a social context.

In fact, throughout history, the only thing that most alphas ever did was "care about how people label them". As an alpha, this was their only job. Think of kings and emperors. . . think of modern day presidents and CEO's of large corporations. Real alphas in fact care ONLY about how they are labeled because they are top feeders. They don't have to work, they don't have to fight (fear of losing prevents most challenges). All they do all day long is get feed back from betas regarding how omegas "think of them".

Sure, it's been "cool" for alphas to market that "I don't give an F about you peasants" for thousands of years and "I really take care of a lot of shit," but it's really just part of clever marketing package.

Also, worrying about how people might think of them has little to do with the Napoleon Complex. Napoleon didn't give a FUCK about what the hell anybody ever thought of him so he didn't listen to any aristocrats telling him to do this or that. He was just an aggressive control freak dictator. His way or the high way. Typically, the stereotyped people who are inflicted with Napoleon complex would be: crazy ass army drill sergeants, those mean ass cops, and maybe now days, scrawny ass divorce lawyers? . . . etc . . .

To the OP, this is a "pick up" forum so most of the advice you get here will be framed within the rules of "pick up". Inner game, outer game, DHV, etc . . .

You're in college, take advantage of your situation and take a class in management and leadership. Social psychology would also be fun. Learn how others have managed social groups for their benefit and earned the love of their betas and omegas at the same time. This isn't some hocus pocus "charisma" lecturing stuff but rather tangible, executable, and repeatable, techniques that alphas have been doing for a long time.

Read my post : sarging-without-stairs-vt31690.html

I am 5ft and get on just fine

if you sit down on a chair it will give the impression you're not that short

If this was the answer wheelchair sales would be booming. I can see all the short guys popping wheelies to impress the "chicks". Who among you would need to "neg" or be "cocky-funny" when you could spin yourselves around and around (doughnut style) in your wheelchairs?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4SAZNWm8 ... re=related
Sorry, but this dude picks up more "chicks" than Mystery. Notice I said "chicks", not "dudes" .

BTW...5 ft. is considered a "midget" by the Little People of America (LPA).
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/At_what_heigh ... d_a_midget

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVuIBpJ6 ... re=related
Coolest lil' dude in the world.

btw expat_ apart form a totally pointless post that didnt help the guy at all you had some facts wrong. A midget is 4ft8 or shorter, dwarfism is something compleatly different.