Ok ive known this girl for like a month and recently she came and stayed a week with me. I fucked her a couple times and shes awesome. She lives 4 hours away so i dont see her often. When she first came here she talked about being gf and bf and all that shit and i didnt really want that so i just played along. Well now that ive gotten to know her really well i do want to be bf gf. Now it seems like we dont talk as much and and im not texting her or calling her cause i dont want her to know that i really want her. How do i get her back to wanting to be gf and bf without sounding needy or desperate? Ive been with more than 40 girls in the past 3 years and this is the first girl that i can actually see myself dating and i feel like i blew it just to get between her legs. any help?

Damb Man! u got more experience than most pple on this forum!! Ask Rye Lee or Chief aka forum moderators, they gone give all the answers to life lol

*Swoops in from the heavens as lightning crashes*

Ahh, gotta love a dramatic entrance whenever someone mentions my name!

Seriously though, I'm curious why you feel that she no longer desires to be in a relationship with you. You said that you felt like you blew it just to get between her legs. Did you do something in order to make her think you only wanted sex and nothing more? If you didn't, then it's possible that she's still quite open to the possibility and all you have to do is show some interest.

By showing a lack of interest, you are sending the wrong signals, you need to initiate contact and work on creating that strong connection. As long as you don't do this in a needy and supplicating manner, then there's no reason she would lose interest. If you keep showing that you don't want to engage her, then she's going to assume that you're not interested. See how you're kinda going about this backwards?

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Thanks for the responses. yea i see how im doing it backward but i think i kinda felt that she didnt feel like she wanted a relationship anymore just cause after we fucked a couple times she was on her phone with her friends and her guy friends like the whole time. And the next day all we did was sleep and watch movies. She used to like always be touching me and cuddling and after we had sex that kinda dissapeared the next day. I saw her text that she sent her best girlfriend and it said that it was the best sex she had so it wasnt that...i thought it might of been that until then but thank god. and for my experience, its college man its pretty easy if ya got any game at all. Although i do have to admit whiskey dick is no myth. be careful with that.

Ok, so lead her. She's a girl, you're The Man. If you let her sit there and text and phone people, then that's what she'll do. If you want a relationship, lead things in that direction by setting up things for you guys to do together.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

*Tries to swoop in and trips... and crashes into something*

dammit i wish i was more like rye lee

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Nutella

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wher you from bro? I had the same problem but not only did the girl live 4 hours away she also lived in a diffrent country haha I live in canada and she is in the states.

Girl play head games bro....my budy was going out with s girl who lived a couple hours away and was head over heals for this girl! then he found out she was cheating on him with another dude and her excuse was that he wasint around enouph haha well of course he isint he lives 2 hours away! lol

Im from NY mane. Im not to worried about it i bounce back pretty easily. Ive been with over 40 girls in the last 3 years so im not worried...plus i already got a date set up for thursday...this one lives closer but shes got a bf....shouldnt be to hard tho....sorry for that AFC