hey all

Last night i went to the Highlanders singles glowstick party. now i thought a singles party would be like shooting fish in a barrel.. but boy was I wrong!

i rolled up to the club, by myself (as i can never get any of my friends to do anything worth doing) and i thought.. gotta get the social proof thing down so I sat with groups of guys and just talked in the early going seing as the girls hadnt really arrived. when they finally did, i would initate conversation.. I was cocky and funny.. and I am a decent looking guy, yet not a number, nothing.. i did dance with a few chics and usually i dont dance... so there is an upside. but there is more to the story./

there was one girl who was SPAM glowsticks, me her and some peops were having joking convo ya kno, (apparently green means available, red is nympho etc) and i thought yep, theres a target (and she had some decent freinds too) so i talked for a bit and left on what i thought was a strong note with a bit of banter and light touching. this girl asked me to come with her to the dancefloor, she sat and talked to me, plenty of IOI's.

I walked around the club, admittedly in what may have looked aimless to onlookers and near the dance floor and happen to bump into her. she asks me if I am stalking her... thinking its a joke i laugh it off and move on. as i weas going outside.. it just so happens she was there and she told the bouncers! now i had to stay away from her.. i mean, i wasnt looking over at her, i wasnt preoccupied with her, i wasnt being creepy.. so where did it all go wrong? i mean, striking out with one girl isnt an issue... its just when u strike out with half the club because of it.. it aint cool. Girls were joking around, saying they didnt like my shirt and that it looked metro and calling me gay and it did appear to be flirting but before long i couldnt help but see a more vindictive side to it which likely progressed when i didnt orienteer the convo my way and just be a man about it.

so, big issues for me here. how do yoiu get social proof when you come alone? how is the best way to look preselected by women, the leader of men, the protector of loved ones and willing to emote (mysteries theory) in that setting? i dont really get where it all went wrong.

You poor bastard that sux.
I cannot believe she told the bouncers you were stalking her.

there's a few things you could do:

1. Meet some new friends: party friends
keep your original friends, but meet more people too, pple who wanna go to the club, pple who wanna party. Also, check out the local PUA Lair.

2. When you get to a club, introduce yourself to pple.
if you see some poor AFCs, just go over to them, big smile, HEY, HOw's it going? [slap on the back]
He won't understand whats going on but he'll be thinking "woah! he thinks I'm cool or something! yea!!"
its a win-win situation cause you look good cause you know pple + it makes other pple feel good.

3. Walk in with a swagger (style)!
Imagine you're james bond or somethin'. little smile, slow & confident walk, body language stuff. Imagine you walk in and everybody stops and looks at you. YOU DA MAN! you got the biggest dick kind of walk.

I got the feeling that the reason they're saying negative things about you is cause you don't look confident. If you fix ur body language, it should help you a mighty lot!

Sometimes you just run into a crazy and that's that. "Crazies" like to draw attention to themselves by calling somebody out, "That guy just touched me! Oh my God! He's stalking me! Oh My God! That guy is staring at me! Oh My God!" - (Look at me people, I must be really, really, really hot and beautiful.)

These girls really do exist and for some reason, you'd think they'd pick on the assholes but they NEVER do this. They pick on the easy targets who they know won't complain and put them on the spot for outright lying. You just laughed and smiled at her accusation. Had you gone, "What the fuck. . . Did you swallow a crazy pill with your morning vodka today?" I bet there would have been much less chances of her going full tilt with that crazy shit. . . although, I bet she would have pointed her finger to some other guy . . .

Anyhow . . . in a club, avoid aimless walking around. Try to have an "agenda" in mind. Every one you meet is a "pleasant surprise" between your objectives.

You and me both had bad nights bro. This shit happens...

There are more psycho bitches out there than psycho dudes. I'm a firm believer in that.

Kasabi got it right though, a direct confrontation with the girl would've put her in her place, and not allow her to convince herself that you were actually following her around.

I wouldn't have put up with that kind of stuff at all! If a girl would do that and the bouncer would come and say something to me... You don't just fucking agree do you?!

Ask this bouncer whos this girl accusing you of stalking and then just call her bitch, not angry but just state that "She must be a real bitch then." and leave calm and confidently. No harm to you .

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