I was talking to a girl at a club - she was part of a bachelorette party that me and a few of my boys had been partying and bar hopping with. I was getting IOI's from her, and had been talking and dancing with her for 1 or 2 hours. I was trying to tried keep her on her toes and tried to to disqualify myself by saying "You realize that i am not going to sleep with you, right?"

This line didn't go over well. I still numbered closed and got some kino compliance by telling her to kiss my cheek, which she did. But I didn't go for the actual kiss close because the feeling seemed off. I think my disqualification may have been to overt. Or maybe I didn't have enough of a joking tone in my voice, but I think the reference to sex was the real mistake.

Is this a bad disqualifier? Was I using a disqualifier too deep into my interaction with her? Other thoughts?

ok some things I noticed is that you were already talking to her for a long time. 1-2 hrs. SO, I would say, Within the first 10-30 minutes of the interaction or so (Whenever you warm up the set or your target) And you have her loving your company and not sure if she's attracted to you, you should've used a disqualifier, but only if needed and depending on situation and the vibe of the girl.

Pretty much, you said it way too late and if you were kinoing and escalating it sexual.. It probably confused the hell outta her cause it was evident she was interested and she probably was hoping to fuck that night. I meet all kinds of different party groups of girls and one thing I notice is they're looking for a good time. I wouldn't personally have said that as a DQ but if you should've used it I think you should have set it up right. You should have used a lot of heavy kino especially when dancing and afterwards pulled the trigger and made out with her and during all that you slowly pull away, stop and say.. (Not in a serious tone)you know I'm not gonna sleep with you, right? and a light smile and guarantee it'll end up heavy kissing and the ironic part is you'll most likely have slept with her.

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Great response, I appreciate it. You made me think of something that I did similar to this a while back:

I was back at a girls house and we were making out. She had a really long tongue. Partway through making out I pulled away and said "you know that you would make a really great lesbian!" (followed by a smile) It basically had the effect you described, she got even more into it, like she needed to prove her heterosexuality.

Would you say that disqualifiers belong mostly in opening/approach, so that the target doesn't initially know you're interested? Then once you have built attraction and some comfort that they are generally out of place? Part of me feels like you still need some DQ's, but probably with more subtlety or with a very joking/light tone.

With me.. everything I do I feel the vibe on how it is at the moment. It's really good to use in A2 (the attraction phase after the opener). But say if you are gaining rapport and are kinoing and being playful, but still not sure if she's realy attracted to you? It wouldn't hurt to throw a DQ in there and keep gaming her and from there she'll try to qualify herself to be your type of girl. then accept the offer and move from A3 to the C phase.

I did this a few months back on this latin chick i was seeing. I met her at a bookstore and was super playful, and ran a lot of rapport with her and did a instant date an hour or so after meeting her at the bookstore. She was sending me hella IOI's but I was confused cause she was still really reserved and was constantly trying to DQ and shit test me cause she's one of those girls that are instantly blowing guys off as soon as they talk to them. But I just stayed confident and unaffected. One time when we were texting i just flat out said that I don't like you at all that way. It disappointed her and she realized she actually really liked me and she just poured out her emotions for me, from there I knew I had her. I hung out with her later that night and we ended up making out and ended up dating for a while.

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