Hi, just joined this forum and I am in need of help from you experts


Ever since my first college year started, a beautiful girl I noticed has caught my eye. Pretty much I wanted to talk to her, but didn't have the balls to do it. Every time I see her, my heart would beat rapidly and would do nothing but sit and watch her go by. Later on, maybe around a month and a half, I finally had the balls to approach and talk to her. The conversation went well, we talked about school and stuff, kept giving her eye contact, and kept it around 5-10 minutes. In the end, I managed to get her email. Well, that was the most difficult goal that I have accomplished in my life but I feel good about it afterwards.

To get to the point, I have been talking to her a few times, she is a really nice girl and I really want to know her more have a relationship together. I have been thinking that she probably already knows I am interested in her, since I approached her. But, the problem is... I have no idea where to start... How can I try to get her interested?

I have got some tips from friends to stay out of the friend zone, which I am trying to stay away from and to be not so much of a really really nice guy, which really confuses me because I am... a nice guy lol... and I thought wouldn’t nice girls want nice guys?

Please and thank you for the help.
T.

Welcome dude.
Your friends are right, but it seems like they haven't given much detail in their attempt to help you out. You might want to check out some PUA material for more information.

In order to stay away from the LJBF zone (let's just be friends zone) you have to move out of the comfort stage and into the seduction stage. I don't know how congruent you are to this idea at this point, but try to be "courageous" and fake confidence. She is just another human, don't look at her like she's someone special. Trust me, if you treat her like one of your boys, then talking to her will be tons easier.

And talking about school and stuff is fine and all, but how far can you actually go with that? It seems like women like to talk about two things in general: The unknown and relationship dynamics. Things that connect at an emotional level works wonders. Ask things like, "If you got on a plane tomorrow, where would you go?", "If you were a pizza topping, what would you be?", or "If you were any ice cream flavor, what would you be?". Make sure when you're talking you talk about the emotions behind it. Such as if you are talking about your hamster doing cool acrobatics, tell her how it makes you feel (such as happy that he could potentially be the next big superhero). Make sure you kino early or else you end up being awkward when you take it to the next level. There is limited amount of things I can tell you in one post, so read up on the PUA material suggested on this site.

Hope things go well, but keep in mind you have to be congruent with the image you are trying to convey, don't be fake or she'll catch on. Supplement yourselves with the PUA material.

Ok, your question is a bit of a generalisation but I'll answer it as best I can...

Yeah i've been in the same situation and the best way to deal with opening these girls is to find rapport, get friendly and then break the rapport by being sexually suggestive/ cocky and funny and various other ways, (read up on rapport breaking.)

And as for being 'The Nice Guy' you dont have to change and become a dick.

be yourself but just throw in a bit of cocky and funny lines, dont answer her phone calls all the time, if she wants to do something your busy (not all the time) and most importantly dont be needy!

These basic things will get you almost any girl in your college.

Thank you guys, I'll try those tips