Hi there,

I'm obmah0130 and i'm new to pua as of this month.

if you are talking to a girl, and you ask her out, and she says something along the lines of "I have someone" or "I actually have a BF", what is the best response to it? Is it positive/negative/neutral? Does it contain a neg?

Thanks.

Obmah0130

Well I can tell you that's definitely a not-good sign. You want to be dating this girl and she tells you she has a boyfriend? I think it's safe to say that, for the time being, she's not interested.

I'm not sure of the best thing to say here, but try to keep things as they were. Don't suddenly change your demeanor just because she said that. Just act normally and things will be ok (while you look for other, single, women).

Remember *don't place all your eggs in one basket* she is just ONE girl. And all girls at one time or another may choose not to have a relationship, or maybe, truly commit to a relationship. Either way, pick-up is about making a good life and a win/win situation for everybody, through love and compassion. Doesn't mean you can't learn a hell of a lot from them. They can make a good friend and resource maybe. Don't be sad that you can't get her. Be happy that you made the pitch, you my friend, gave a woman the chance to be with *YOU*. You wish the best for her as she walks away. Hoping that she never finds out how lucky the next girl is.

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First of all, she's likely said it due to a mistake in your game. Don't take this too badly but use this to recalibrate and learn from your mistake. Secondly, if she actually does have a boyfriend you can do many things, you can eject. You can use a boyfriend destroyer, you can use a witty remark to retort ("Oh we won't be needing him") or you can simply be friends and have her introduce you to the single girls in her social circle.

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