Hello all, has anyone got any advice on flaky girls. I've had a few dates lined up including some second dates where the first one went well and she has cancelled at late notice. Re-arranged a couple of times but tends to go quite as I'm not really the chasing type. Any tips on how to prevent the flaking in the first place?

cheers

Other than uncommon reasons such as a girl being massively disorganised or something big has genuinely cropped up, the main reason for a girl flaking is a lack of attraction.

Having a chat or a laugh is one thing but she's still going to feel free to flake on you unless you really push to make her attracted to you. The best way to cause attraction is to really connect with her and show you understand her as well as escalating interactions to a sexual field with kino.

Chances are you won't nail it first time but practise, practise, practise and you'll notice that the girls will flake less often.

At a guess I would say that you're arranging these dates online? I'll hold my hands up and say I have no experience whattsoever with the online scene but I can assume safely that attraction is far more difficult to build with a girl when you aren't physically near her, get out and about and meet people face to face, any initial awkwardness or anxiety is then out of the way before you even arrange an actual date by meeting girls this way. It will make flakyness something far easier to prevent if you can keep a calm and level head.

A couple months I got flaked on (rather, I got stood-up), and I learned a good bit about the situation if it's very early on in the dating stage, like a first or second date. Here's what I refer to...

...the Two Strike Rule...if the girl flakes, let it go and give her another chance (unless she says she was out with her bf ). However, if she flakes or stands you up again, it's game over. Whatever her excuse is, just brush it off with a "it's cool" or "I'll see you around." Don't try to make further plans with her.

I'm not sure there's an exact science to guarantee 100% a girl won't flake on you, but try and establish some sort of connection that will keep her interested.