Okay so I've been in a relationship with this girl for a few weeks and right now it's going great.
There is one thing that's bothering me though; she takes forever to reply to texts sometimes. I have been thinking about it and I think she enjoys playing this emotional waiting game, thinking to herself; "oh that boy, probably can't wait for me to reply, what a a cutie, I'll just tease him more". See... I was stupid and told her I love her. lol.

Then she will reply 4 hours later apoligising that she was naping and all sorts of excuses. She is into me and I think this text thing is her way to compliance test and play an emotional game at the same time.

I made a commitment to my self, that if she takes longer than 20 minutes two times in a day to reply to my txts I freeze her out for the day, if she takes 30 mins or longer for one text I freeze her out for the day.

I am burning inside, but I am doing my best not to act needy. But I think telling her I love her was an extremely needy thing.

What you guys think?

probably a good idea but I imagine she'll see right through that. It's been a few weeks and you've already dropped the L-BOMB. the control is completely in her hands. If you ignore her and she has half a brain then she'll know that you're going crazy and itll just give her more power. I'd lower the replies for sure, but more importantly, I'd make the texts substantially less intense. Very light, drop subtle lines that would make her think you don't give a shit, but that she couldn't call you out on.

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...um neg her i think...
or yea just focus on someone else or other people
and
when she texts you do text back for forever

Don't fall into the one-itis. You definetly gave her power with the whole "I love you" thing. She's either playing you or is genuninly busy; that can happen. It's up to your judgement whether you want to pursue her or not since you know how many times she has done this.

I'd lower the replies for sure, but more importantly, I'd make the texts substantially less intense. Very light, drop subtle lines that would make her think you don't give a shit, but that she couldn't call you out

Great advice.

Girls need attention and acceptance like fish need water. If you can convince her that you are starting to get bored, or as suave mentioned 'not give a shit', she will start working for YOUR approval.

Plant a little doubt in her mind, you will be amazed with the results.

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quick question.

What were you thinking when you told her you loved her. come on man! True PUA's never drop the big L-bomb. when i was younger i made this mistake often and like evryone is saying it gives them alot more power than they deserve.
All a girl has to hear is "i love you" and then they know that they have you by the balls. and knowing that they have the power might not be a challenge forthem anymore. i would steer away from dropping it to be honest. Because she will get bored or even feel that you are to emotional or some shit, it has happened to me before.
Good luck man

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haha, great replies.

Well honestly... when I told her I loved her I did feel that way and still do. I know the PUA thing forbids that. I still believe that you can love a girl and if she returns the feelings it will be better than playing this over dominance thing PUA style. I am not trying to say that men shouldn't be dominant, all I wanted to try is be open with this girl and failed again... fuck! lol. I don't get it, if I am going out with a girl and she tells me she loves me I would invest more time in her, but girls always flake out when you say it "too early". I don't get it, why is telling a woman that you are in love with her makes her behave like she is less interested..?

im no expert but isnt it cat string theory? like when you dangle a bit of string infront of a cat and bounce it around. The cats gos nuts for it but as soon as it gets hold of it, it looses interest.

I disagree with that. I think it undermines the dynamics of any successful relationships. The only mistake was dropping it too early. Everybody likes to be loved, but when it comes to a woman it needs to be said only when you know its for sure going to be returned. I tend to wait until after she's said it to me at least once.

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LISTEN TO THIS MAN ^^

I would try sending text that dont require a reply. Shows your thinking of her but you dont need her attention. If she replies thats great, if not then it doesnt matter because you dont sound like your waiting for a response.

For example:
-Stop popped into my head all day, people are getting jealous your spending to much time up there.

-You just popped into my head so Hi...now please stay out of there

-Off to dinner at (blank) feel free to join me.

-Stop thinking of me and smiling... see your doing it right now.

Note: I would only send a text once a day, unless she text me back showing IOIs. And after 2 days, if I get nothing, then I start to move on. Might call or text her a week later to see whats up.
You could also just call her instead of texting. Some girls dont like to text.


below is a link to where I got most of these text. They seem to work.

but the thing is he aint really looking for IOI's am i wrong?
THE L-BOMB HAS ALREADY BEEN DROPPED
you what u need to do is keep from saying it.
Because if u say it after every meeting/phone call or txt at the end of the night, the word "love" is going to disipate in value. Then its useless and it wont really show true feelings in the future.
So in my opinion, if you want this to last, i would resist the urge to say it, work around the word (love) and use other feeling words.
And when it comes to the important stuff, thats your time

As for the main topic, texting game to me is a little useless. Yes, everyone txts but the only way u can convey emotion on a txt is through smiley faces! i would lessin txtin all together or elimate it all together if you want to keep ther sparks flying.
If you think about it, you can elimate this whole problem by just pressing "send call" instead of "reply"
Good Luck man

----Vibe

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Okay awesome replies once again guys thanks!

Neo no link.

She used to love texting, we would flirt on it and one time the topic was sexual and when I saw her that day she jumped on me lol. So I have to disagree that it is not useful to mess with emotions. One thing I like to do over texting is role play, not necesarly sexual, but just a funny plot to suck the girl in and have fun with it. You can make your own inside jokes that way and when you are in public people who know you think it's cute. I dunno I think texting is the shit, I hate talking on the phone, I run out of things to say in literally 20 secs.

well thats what this i all about aint it? not running out of material and getting better wit your game. When i was into the whole relationship thing i used to tlk to my gf's all the time we would be up to 4 in the morning jus bullshiting, after a while it just flows and youll learn to get good at breaking the silence. i always loved askin hypatheticals or playing the "question game" or the "wat ifs".
the way i see it, everyone hates the silence of the fone. It seems to be a big fear from what i seen. but eventually, just like everything else, your going to adapt to it and learn to keep it going.
A thing i like to do when it gets quite is say something extremely corny, corny enough for her to pick up on your corniness. Then when she says "your so corny" you respond with "corny huh?!, then why are u with this cornball of a guy?" she responds "blah blah blah" but have her tell you why shes with you, what makes you so special/lucky. Have her list all the things she loves about you and why ur such a good guy. In this way you:
-Have something to talk about, and and easy lead into another topic.
-Find out what makes her tick
-Give yourself more value in her eyes. why? Now im not a 100% possitive on this, but, by having her list all these great things about you, even if they arent true and she is blowing holes, it will tap into her on a subconcious level and either:
-Reinforce your great attributes in her eyes
-Become a reality if she continues to talk about it or think of it
Lets say your not a muscler guy and she says she loves your tone/muscles/body. although its not true pursay, it seem true'r after she had said it. Do you follow?
I dunno im a psych major so i continue to think about these things 24/7
but i do agree with you on the role playing over txting. Its alot easier to express sexual fantasies over a txt msg and act on them. I would say if you do, do this. Then you should act on it when you see her, bring it up and try it out. She will already know what you were thinking about if you hint at what was said in the txt.
Hope some of this helps
Everyone feel free to give conductive critism on what i say
im here to love and learn, thanks
Good luck again

----Vibe

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Nice tips man! No criticism at all, just amazement .

You are right that it takes time to learn, but I have no clue at all of how to learn it and throwing myself out there would just make it awkward with cons outweigheing the gains.
Got any more phone tips?