I have some questions that have come up that I wish you could take some time to answer. I know there is a lot, but this will hopefully help out the community as well.

-How do I act when she talks about sex? What should I say?

-Is there a way to open complete strangers during the day that isn't so direct, yet isn't "strange" or put you in the "that was so random" zone?

-When you talk about stuff, even as interesting as it may be, sometimes the conversation just dies and both people can't come up with anything to say. In this case, what kind of topics/things to say other than situational ones would genuinely work (tested)?

If I refer to something whether it be a movie or something else and she hasn't seen it, how do I respond after she tells me she hasn't? I usually say, "oh, too bad" which is pretty lame.

-How do I set up something to do with a girl that isn't reponsive to the line "I'm going to go ______. Come join me" and responds with a "why?" or a "no thanks". How would I respond to that?

-When going for the kiss using mystery's "do you want to kiss me?" routine, what if she says maybe and you do the, "well, let's find out" and go in for it and she backs off?

-When I walk down the halls, sometimes I see a girl I met briefly before and my automatic response is smile and say hey and then walk away. How do I initate a conversation without the standard "How's life?" "how's it going?" Sup?", etc.

-Is it wise to study with a girl I have interest in? If so, what can I do to be more intesting in the study envionment?

-Are there conversation pieces that would work at any random time after another conversation ends that doesn't involve boyfriend, girl kisses girl, pictures of ex under the bed, etc.?

-If a girl makes fun of me, how should I respond?

-When being C&F how do I respond if she says "OMG, you're SOOO mean!"

-Girl says she is stupid. How do I respond to that? How do I respond to anything that involves her insulting herself? What if it is true and it's obvious?

-Good friend of girl comes over and starts AMOGing me/cock blocking. What the hell do I do?

-Is there an unique way (PUA-worthy) to answer the phone? How about voicemail?

-Girl wants to have sex. Where could I bring her if I'm in college (dorms) with a roommate?

-Is there any place where I can find a routine that is played out step-by-step during the day?


I also need an opinion on this:
-Girl has been with numerous boyfriends and they all lasted about a year and died. She is an HB8 that's really nice and fun to be around, however, she currently has a boyfriend but it's a long-distance relationship that might not work out (she has stated that she was unhappy at times). Is it wise to pursue her?

Hey Rye Lee,

What is your stance on ejaculation? Do you feel it's necessary? I have been reading a Taoist book about ejaculation and sex. For about a month, I've been practicing on how to control my ejaculation. I feel like I have made great progress so far. I can now control and stop myself from urinating when I'm in the bathroom and usually I masturbate from 30 minutes to an hour without ejaculation. Climaxing is a bit difficult for me because I want to achieve an orgasm without ejaculating but (!) I think I achieved that last night. Sadly, I haven't really been sexually active for quite some time so I wonder if I would be able to control myself from ejaculation while with someone else. Do you know anything that I can do to prevent myself from ejaculating and achieving an orgasm at the same time?

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Hi Rye Lee,

So for some time now I have enjoyed success with women i have not had before by simply improving a lot my inner game and figuring out what type of game suits my personality the best. I've been feeling very comfortable with everything lately and that's why I was so shocked when I ran into a woman that completely startled me. The whole encounter/story is pretty short, but is quite crazy and I can't make sense of it. I hope you can help me figure it out ... and in the end, I am not so much interested in the girl itself, but in what happened in this situation and how to handle things like that in the future.

I have known (as in seen her face/known her name) for the last 2 years ( we go to the same college). This past semester we had a class together so we got some more intereaction and then last week several people from the class we all went to get some drinks to celebrate the end of the semester. That night, I thought I noticed some IOIs from her so I carefully tried to build attraction. Everything went very well, she was really interested in our conversation, but because of the big group of people and the way we sat at the table, I could not get any serious kino or isolate her. I called it a night and was satisfied by just building up the attraction there, and I thought I did really well because on the next day she approached me online for me going out with her friends in a couple of days. I acted as if I was hesitant, just to see what happens, and she was really insisting so I agreed to it.

So we end up going out. First of all, I thought we are going out with a group of her friends, but we just went out with this other couple that was friends with her. I decided not to jump to conclusions or to change my game plan in mid-game and continued with my laid back, easy game for the first 1 hour, just talking, doing light kino and becoming the center of attention in the company. But then we changed bars, to meet up with a bigger group of their friends. Once they came into the picture, however, all attention I was enjoying suddenly disappeared. She proceeded to hang out with several guys from this other group for the next 1hour and a half or something which put me in a little awkward situation. My first worry was to not look like I am losing control of the situation, so I sat myself at the bar and started up conversation with some random ppl (it was some sort of shit bar with no girls whatsoever). So I just proceeded making friends with the only attractive girl in thebar, the bartender, and the bouncer. The whole time I was thinking if I should just leave or not and before i could make up my mind, she came over and was like "Lets go to this other place." It seemed only us 4 are going again, so I thought that might not be a bad idea. Thus, we change bars one more time and in the new place I get the chance to run more kino, even though things are not working out perfectly. I could not get her undivided attention, she kept turning to other people to talk and stuff, so at one point I just left them and joined another group of girls (I knew them), just to get some sort of a reaction. That seemed futile as well, the bar closed soon and we own jumped in the car of her friend and drove back. While in the car she sat right next to me, and she initiatied kino on me! After all night of paying me so low attention I was quite surprised, but I acted non-chalantly about it. Soon we reached m place and they dropped me off, as I was slipping out of the car and saying bye to all she kind of leaned in and gave me a quick kiss on the lips. I didn't break my stride, but just got out of the car and walked in.

And ever since that night nothing seems fine anymore, nowhere close to where our level of comfort was before. I invited her out twice and also tried to strike up online conversations but nothing worked anymore. So i've stoped paying her attention, obviously, seems she does not seem receptive to it, but I wonder what happened there? I thought there was initial attraction but then all out of the sudden it was gone .... my only explanation is that this "date" of ours was a fake. I think she might have arranged it just to showcase herself to the group ofher friends we met later in the night together "with a guy." My guess is one of those guys we met is some sort of her ex or they have something complicated going on ... but then that does not explain things that happened later in the night. This one is a complete mystery to me, I hope you can help me unravel it and improve my game.

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Rye Lee: Feel free to re-sticky and unlock this thread whenever you feel like it. For now I'm unstickying this thread for some clean-up.