alright, so i've been seeing this HB7 japanese girl named Saki. well, i hit it for the first time last week, and all was well (other than my not finishing), spectacular even. so i met up with her again today, made up some reason for her to come up to the room, bounced her back to my place and started messing around again.

one thing leads to another (she's saying 'no' but her body is like 'YESYESYES') and then BAM. i'm ALL the way up in that shit. about half hour into it, after she came mad mad times and it's evident that i'm trying to finish myself, she's like "don't finish inside, ok?" and i'm like "yea" but really in my head i'm thinking, well she kept saying "no" the whole time into it, she probably won't care if i bust inside her. so i do.

at this point, i'm like, "uh, oh shit." her reaction helps me immediately realize how giant of a Fail my earlier reasoning was. like giant, CITIGO neon sign FAIL. no screaming, no hitting, just this quiet, icy craziness. she says she wants to go home. then she gets her shit together without saying a word, quickly and with mad purpose, then tells me "she's ready." so i take her downstairs, get in my car and i drive her to where she parked. no words the whole way.

finally, we get there and she's out of my car and into hers like a laser beam. if i wasn't 'stopped in front of her car, she might've peeled out on me. so, feeling TERRIBLE that the night has ended this way (because i actually like her), i rush over and try to damage control the best way that i could. i basically tell her, "i feel terrible," and ask if there's anything i can do. THEN she says, with her door half closed, "no. no excuses. i don't want to ever see you again. goodbye forever." then she closes the door.

i didn't know what else to do at that point, because that shit was pretty powerful and i felt MAD, MAD owned. plus, i didn't want to be all crazy and like knock on her car window or any shit, so i just backed off and moved my car so she could get out. she left, and i just pulled my car over to reflect on the giant Fail that just occurred.

obviously i am still trying to work it out; i talked to one of my friends about this a bit earlier and he advised to just blow up her cell phone, (call and talk if possible, if not, txts) about how sorry i am, etc etc.

is this the right way to damage control this situation? my initial reaction was to give her space, let her cool off, then try to work my way back in there. how do i deal with this? can this even BE damage controlled? i actually like this girl, so the loss of steady pussy is magnified exponentially.

Dont listen to your friend by spamming her phone because.
1. Its annoying as fuck
2. Its annoying as fuck
3. If she didnt reply to your first text, why would she reply to the 300 millionth?

I say give her 2 days to cool off ans send her roses to her door. Once youve established communication try and get her to come back to your apartment to just talk/reason whatever you want to say just make it convincing.

once you get her talking up at your place you can work things out and id suggest throwing in a joke, for example.
Where your going to sit her down like the couch in the living room for instance have a 100 pack of closed condoms somewhere visible in the room like on top of the TV or something.

But i dont know her personality so this may backfire. But if you can tell that just talking is obviously not going to get you anywere you should either eject or try the condom joke (what have you got to lose?)

An alteration might be that if flowers dont work the next day send another bunch of roses with a box of condoms attached to it. the worst that could happen is that nothing happens and she still ignores you.

I've heard that this has worked for someone once before. but she was a very fun, easy going girl and she wasnt as pissed off as your HB seems to be. Use at own caution.

oh man. i got a txt back from her last night, responding to a barrage of apologies. the situation looks grim. will post full txt later when i get back from work.

u know wat.

we r not BF GF relationships. u never asked me to be a GF and i dindt think about u to be a BF. so its just over our friendships.

i really dont like person who easly to break promiss. mayb its not big deal for u. but its HUGE deal for me.

so no more email n calls.

bye forever
go find a new girl.

for the record, i never PROMISED her anything. the last time we fucked, i didn't even finish. i remember asking her, "what would you have done if i came inside you?" and she said something like, "i would've had to take a pill the next day, and i would've been really mad." well, that plus the ever-confusing ASD (verbally magnified due to inherent cultural norms here) led me to make what i thought was an educated, medium risk gamble-- aka busting a nut inside of her. even this last time, maybe 30 mins into it, she asks, "don't finish inside, ok?" and like i mentioned earlier, i just said, "yea, sure," pretty dismissively. but promise? uh uh, nope.

im not sure if i caught feelings because this was the first girl i've gotten with in quite some time and i had begun to settle into a comfort zone with her, or if i'm just nervous about having to step up my approach game (since i met this HB7 through a friend of a friend and skipped straight to about A3/C1).

also, i don't know if the shittiness i feel is because i fubar'd things up, or because i was not in control of how our relationship ended. does the fact that i can even consider these alternate outcomes suggest that maybe my situation isn't as shitty as i feel right now?

dont worry, stuff like this happens hundreds of times to THOUSANDS of people, the reson your feeling shitty is things are not going as YOU, the AMOG want them to be. Plus you probably liked her a fair bit too. Just remember that as easily as you hurt her feelings you can find another HB7. As soon as you find another girl i GUARANTEE you will feel 10x better. Besides, mabye if she sees you with another girl she will start thinking back when you two were together. I suggest arranging a meet up with her friend (only her friend). If the friend says yes then things cant be as bad as you thought because if it was im sure your HB7 would have told her friend to stay the F away from you.

yea i talked to some more friends and i decided to respond to her last msg.

i txted her back and said, "i have AIDS."

I will make a mental note never to help you on this forum! That is the MOST stupid thing I've seen on here for fucking ages. You can't even see where you fucked up. And I will say it out loud for an imbecile like you. You a) evidently weren't using protection! b) You broke her trust by cumming anyway! and finally and most ridiculously. You send THAT text! What sort of a "person" are you!

This is exactly the sort of BS that makes the wider world hate PU. That gives credence to the notion it's full of misogynistic men whose only desire is to USE/DISRESPECT women!

You make me so very very mad!


And to think you're taking advice on Sex from a 15 year old as well! Whose advice to a guy about a virgin was to try and get the girl into a 3some!

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Lulz, harsh man, but if you thought that is a form of damage control, you must be on a different planet. But if you were mocking her, i dont think you should have because she didnt really do anything it was you. mabye she didnt want you to cum because hormonal drugs like birth control pills dont work on her (it happens to lots of girls). So now she has to get the painful T-shaped think rammed up her vag.

Everyone makes mistakes, dont make them again.

when you say damage control do you mean "make things better between the two of us" or do you mean "make myself feel better"?

Better betwen the two of us. Isn't that generally what damage control is? Or have i been thinking of the wrong thing this whole time?

i couldn't help it.

I am BLOWN AWAY by this.

You put her though some shitty times because the morning-after pill is no picnic. It's expensive, causes nausea and vomiting and just general shittiness. And it's not gauranteed to work. You could have gotten her pregnant.

WTF are you doing having unprotected sex with someone who's NOT on the pill? Do you WANT a child?

This isn't PUA shit any more.. you're talking people's LIVES and a potential CHILD.

Am I missing something? Does anyone else find this situation retarded because lover boy couldn't use a cover???

Sorry for being harsh, but dude, move to the next girl and for chrissake use a rubber. gees.

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First of all,

Send one more text or email to her and apologize for that dumb-ass "AIDS" comment. Assure her that you have nothing and you're clean.

Second, change your handle name on this forum. You make me nauseous. If I knew you in real life, I'd have punched your head off of your shoulders.

sure, in retrospect, i could have and maybe should have handled things differently. for the record, i did end up telling her i was kidding.

it's funny how all my guy friends i told this to in real life thought this was fucked up but way more hilarious than it was fucked up. to the guy who said this is some huge, life shattering ordeal: she never told, asked or even suggested that i put on a condom. you're make it out to be like i raped her or something. definitely the farthest thing from it. as much as i am at fault for nutting in that pussy, she is at fault for not insisting on a rubber.

to the other guy, captain-save-a-ho: settle down. we're all here to improve as much with women as we are at life-- and i fully admit to handling the situation immaturely.

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