lol i know this sounds like an odd request. over the weekend i went out dancing. i was pretty much there dancing for fun. in the process, this girl came up and started dancing with me. this girl was cute, but was about 20-30 lbs too thick for me. her friend was cute, but already dancing with some other dude. i decided to keep dancing with her just for fun (she was a pretty good dancer). we talked a little bit on the dance floor and it was fun. after a while, she went to the bathroom with her friend and i decided i was tired and i ditched her....thought nothing of it

well 2 days later i get a friend request from her on facebook and i accept just to be polite. i saw the pictures she took that night, and it turns out she has some really hot friends!...i just didnt see her with them.

so being the ass i am , i send her a message that says "hey, where did you disappear to friday night?" (so she doesnt think i ditched her). she replies "Hey you! I was looking for you too! What happened? I thought maybe I did something and you just left? I was still there dancing for a while!!! What happened? I had SO much fun with you!" So while i was typing my BS response to her about how my friends wanted to go somewhere else and i couldnt find her, she sent me two messages. one with her yahoo messenger name and her phone number, the other with "Last thing... Promise! Haha, you're super cute and super fun!!! Crazy how we went to the same highschool! Small world!"

so shes a bit over-eager and coming accross as needy. i was wondering if i could "use" her to get to her hot friends. i know shes attracted to me, so she might be upset if i try to just be friends with her. is this even worth it?

Worth it as long as you're enough of a devil to go through with it. Also the more enthusiastic about you she is, the higher chance you have of getting her friends. Its just a general fact.

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really? cause i was thinking it was the other way around. like she would cock block me or tell her friends im "off limits" cause she likes me

be needy, hit afc for her eyes only...

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I like to hybrid techniques, inner game and methods with my own natural game.

I think this is probably the way to go. To get a girl to back off, you just ease up on the awesomeness and talk to her about some other girl you have a crush on and how heartbroken you are and all that afc stuff that usually puts you in the ljbf zone. In public though make sure you turn it back on and get her friends interested still.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Seconded. I do this all the time.

Yeah tell her youve been gay for as long as you can remember. But ask her not to tell anyone.

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She'll either get pissed when you hook up with her friends, or she'll secretly tell them and it could hurt.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Would this not lower your value in her friends eyes??? They are after all the target. And if the girl isnt hot herself maybe she wants a over needy guy. Would it not be better to completely disqualify yourself as a potential suiter?

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It's good to see that you're looking at both sides here! I see it as a balance, somewhat like a scale, or perhaps a teeter-totter.

You need to find what will cause her to lose interest, while not losing interest from the friends, or preferably increasing interest as it is hard to affect one without affecting the other. If you make her confidant rather and start treating her like just a friend, rather than being fun and exciting, then you'll lose her attraction while demonstrating to her friends that you have the ability to be serious, deep and emotionally connective, thus increasing their attraction.

You don't always display those traits though because if you do that you'll end up losing their attraction too. You need to vary what sides of your personality you display based upon who you're interacting with. People do this all the time, but you need to learn to master it consciously in order to determine how a person reacts back towards you.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

ur right. i should hang out with her and act total buddies with her. be like "hey you should totally talk to that guy, hes been checking you out". of course i wouldnt mislead her or set her up for failure. we could end up helping each other maybe

she does seem like the kind of person i would get along with