i just need to make sense out of this. am i slowly becoming a jerk because of pua? or does this girl have issues?

i meet HB9 at party, after that i have 1 day-date and 1 night-date (did everything right, textbook stuff) after which i i sleep at HB9's place.
all though i did everything right before, i kind of pushed her the last evening to sleep at her place to be honest and i dont think pushing yourself to sleep at her place is very attractive, its kind of needy. she also just sucked me and we didnt fuck (although she sucked for more than an hour). still had fun with her though and even a shower the next morning.

she texts me the next day that she misses me (might be a lie/shit-test, bec she has HB10-level game and prob lots of sexual experience), i text her something simple back, but then i never hear from her any more.

so what could i do? i just forgot about her for a month, sarged on, and slept with about 10 other girls in that month.
i hoped to see her at a party one day when i was surrounded by "pre-selection", but alas... i saw her today at a party when she was surounded by friends and i was alone... i actually came to her to say hello, because i passed her group really by accident... and then she clearly acts like i'm a creep and blows me out by saying hi to some friend of her while i talk to her. so i got disrepected majorly! and i am not a nerd or anything, i'm a confident cool guy, but this really got me thinking. maybe i should have put her in her place (willingness to emote?), but i just walked away (bec being upset/drama is never good)...

i thought i actually did the right thing by not "stalking" her and giving her her space if she doesnt text me back. i dont have one-itis for her or anything, but i thought we'd at least be cool when i would meet her.

did i act like a jerk by not calling her? (do i have issues?)

or does she have issues?

Sounds like she has some buyers remorse. Should have spent more time in comfort. I think she felt a bit used so she lashed out. If I were you I'd just make a note and move on.

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or perhaps you didnt pay her enough attention after. you may have portrayed that you were just wanting to sleep with her and then not talking to her for a month... then when you accidently see her you say hi again... think about ti from her point of view she may think you were just going to try use her again... so she may not be the kind of girl you first thought... she may be more emotionaly connected with herself than you first thought... you have to try judge this

maybe if you had shown that you weren't using her by keeping contact and checking in to see if she is ok... not too much that she feels smothered though... remember theres nothing wrong with showing you can care...we're human after all, i'm sure if you never were shown that they cared it would make you feel a bit cold to them.... its alright to be a bad boy and a good guy at the same time... infact youll find it helps more on the relationship front whilst not affecting your one night stands that you may want time to time...

good luck...

you might aswell either just say to her you thought about her in a cute way but c&f aswell, and then pull back she may reciprocate or you could just leave it..

~sierra~

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I'm going to reply to this thread as a) it sounds believable and you got some results and b) it happens to me all the time- BUT only because I choose the desired outcome first.

There are, in effect, two ways to get into a relationship.
The first is "Direct Game" (the preferred method of Males, but it hampers your chance of any future relationships-see below)
The second is "Female to Male investment" (the desired method, because you have helped guide the woman to being attracted to you and seeing you as a long term investment and not some one night stand).

Direct Game works, because you "bounced" a girl both during the day and night and got in enough time and time distortion to create the illusion you've been together a while. You physically escalated at her house, took the responsibility off her shoulders and she must have liked you to suck you off (respect!). But a One Night/Day Stand is just that, an innocent bit of fun she had no control over as you intitiated the interaction. As you were the intitiator she sees no reason to continue the interaction herself. So for what it was, you did well- congratulations!

BUT!!! What was really missing from the interaction was HER "INVESTMENT" in you prior to sex. I'm sure your textbook involves the importance of Female to Male Investment?
Ask her important questions which can be used to "qualifiy" her. What did she want to be when she was growing up, has she met her ambitions or life goals, tease her by breaking rapport etc.
Women appreciate things more the harder they work for them. Like if during a job interview which really tests her character, the interviewer asks some questions that make her stretch, she will be more intrigued into what the job entails or future demands. Whereas a job whereby she feels it was just "given" to her she will doubt whether or not she'll stay for the long run.

Two E-books by an awesome PUA called Adam Lyons (see his mugshot above). cover these topics in greater detail.
Go to Attraction Explained.com and get The Principles of Attraction ($40) and sign up to his e-mail list to get a free MLTR Handbook which has an awesome video link if you want more than one long term commitment.

It's pretty simple, dude.

She liked you, and took the risk to tell you so (letting you stay over, sucking your cock, and then texting you that she likes you), and you acted like a total dick.

She tells you she misses you, and then you IGNORE HER for a month?

Dude, seriously. Think about this. What if the tables were turned. What if you had a cute girl who was into you over to your place, and you went down on her for an hour, and then the next day you felt so good you slipped up and texted "I miss you," and then she...

ignored you for a month.

Think you'd be a little bitter? Think you'd avoid her and blow her off?

You made her feel like shit. Only thing you can do now is tell her that you realize you were an asshole, and you're sorry, and you want to start over.

And stop with this "she's an HB10 and has tons of sex." Bullshit. Women, yes, hot women, have way less sex than we think. Why? Cos other women call them sluts if they sleep around, and, oh yeah, every guy they fuck they risk AIDS and pregnancy, as well as stalkers and rape.

So stop acting like an asshole. You're not. You are a real man, and I can feel that in your post. Act like it.

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"War is not the answer. Love is."

It's pretty simple, dude.

She liked you, and took the risk to tell you so (letting you stay over, sucking your cock, and then texting you that she likes you), and you acted like a total dick.

She tells you she misses you, and then you IGNORE HER for a month?

Dude, seriously. Think about this. What if the tables were turned. What if you had a cute girl who was into you over to your place, and you went down on her for an hour, and then the next day you felt so good you slipped up and texted "I miss you," and then she...

ignored you for a month.

Think you'd be a little bitter? Think you'd avoid her and blow her off?

You made her feel like shit. Only thing you can do now is tell her that you realize you were an asshole, and you're sorry, and you want to start over.

And stop with this "she's an HB10 and has tons of sex." Bullshit. Women, yes, hot women, have way less sex than we think. Why? Cos other women call them sluts if they sleep around, and, oh yeah, every guy they fuck they risk AIDS and pregnancy, as well as stalkers and rape.

So stop acting like an asshole. You're not. You are a real man, and I can feel that in your post. Act like it.

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http://LVo3.com

"War is not the answer. Love is."

Yes I think you are right about a lot of stuff... But still she didnt send me a text message back (I've sent the last one). If she really liked me that much she would have texted me back, even after a week or so.
I also do think she has a lot of sex (she's young, a student and lives in a house with 2 other party girls). She could just as well have another BF on the side that suddenly gave her attention at the right time and thats why she forgot to send me the message back.

Anyway, I just texted her "a long text" the day you posted that to let her know i am not a jerk (told her i left her alone because i thought she wanted it like that bec i didnt hear anything. and that i am not trying to act cool and really liked her that one day, but pushed it out of my brain bec i didnt hear anything). So I kind of "lowered my value" a bit just to kill the arrogance SPAM that i have built for myself. But i didnt get anything back from her guys!
so its all over now i guess....
(p.s. this is not a one-itis thing, i just want to know what the fuck is going on? )

yup i have experienced something similar.... except it wasnt cos i left her for 1 month, i tried keeping something going after f close.... it was sustaining then it flaked..... last night in fact.. i was getting pissed at the whole game she was playing and wanted answer... i texted her with a good solid ballsy text showing tht im a man to ask her and she didn't even reply... she must be involved with someone else or she's just wanting random sex.... there doesn't seem to be a winning situation in these fucking one night stands... harder than i first thought... ah well.... onwards and upwards

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ASK her.

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"War is not the answer. Love is."

That is your answer.

yeah well.... its too late now, i wont call her anymore.....maybe i'll run into her at a party sometime and "ask"... at least i have sent her my "explanation message" so she cant think i'm a total dick anymore or talk bad about me to anybody else.... thats solved at least.... and i guess you guys have pushed me over the edge to at least send that explanation to her.
thanks for the replies guys