I stood at a subway stop in Seoul, South Korea in October of 2007 waiting for a girl to come meet me when this guy after making eye contact introduces himself to me. He was likewise waiting for his girl. He seemed like a cool guy so we exchanged numbers to keep it touch. Finding cool guy friends while living overseas isn't always easy to do.

We met up for a normal dinner with one of his friends and then asked me to hang out with some "guys" next weekend. I said yes as I was hoping to find a group of cool guys to chill with in between my Korean women escapades. I had no idea what I was in store for. I arrived at the meeting point thinking it was quite odd to see a mixture of 10 or so Western looking guys dressed so differently standing in the same spot. After someone introduced themselves as "sexual kimchi," I knew some weird shit was going, not that the guy wearing an orange top hat with black rings didn't already give it away. I'm comfortable with myself and don't hate gay people for being gay but I had serious issues with being asked to meet a group of 10 gay guys together. My new "friend" immediately noticed the quizzical look upon my face after the sexual kimchi introduction so he pulled me aside to tell me what was up. I was going out in the field and two of the guys were professional pickup artists that just arrived from Japan to perform.

"Bullshit," "What the hell is that?" "These guys are all lame douchebags" were just a few of my initial thoughts. I am well traveled and love new things so I thought "what the hell, I'll hang for the night." We went to dinner and I left with one of the guys in the group to go get drinks, I was not going to sit around all night and listen to two guys I thought were doucebags start telling other guys I thought were douchebags how to get women. I ended up meeting up with the group for a few later that night while they were out in the field but didn't pay much attention. I now regret that decision.

My friend asked if I knew who Neil Strauss was and if I ever read "The Game." I was clueless about everything. After that night, I started reading a little online stuff in the pua community - it was all BRAND new to me. I didn't take any of it seriously really. I met one other guy from that night to "sarge" with, as he called it. I called it going out for drinks and seeing what happens.

I moved to Illinois a couple of months ago. Last month, my friend's friend came from Chicago to go out with us. I was at a tailgate party with him dressed well, not like every other guy wearing the football t-shirt, he asked if I knew who Neil Strauss was and if I read "The Game." I went into my story about Korea - he jokingly called me an asshole and told me to read the book. I didn't.

This month, I was in Chicago on business and went up to talk to 6 girls who I thought were at a bachelorette party. The girl just had something weird in her hair that made me think she was getting married. All the girls were from Spain. They were also with about 5 other guys. I instinctively knew I had to get in with the guys. Next thing I know, this Spanish guy asks me "Do you know who Neil Strauss is? Have you read The Game?" "WHAT THE FUCK?" I thought. "Who in the hell is this Neil Strauss guy?"

I just finished reading The Game and went out last night for the first time using the systematic process PUA's talk about as opposed to wingin it. I love discipline and systems, it was great going out with structure as opposed to having a few drinks and seeing what happens. It was the first time I went out with the intention of making it happen - no matter what. So I post today to officially start in the online community of personal development that I hope will lead to even more success in all areas of my life.

I'm looking forward to learning from established community members and might even be in a position to help some guys struggling with confidence and other issues.

Great story!!