Ok guys...name is luchini. Not my real name obviously. Im in the middle of reading THE GAME and starting to read THe LAYGUIDE. Let me tell you THE GAME is an eye opener. I havent been this interested in a book in a longgg time. Im all about self help but didnt self help like this existed I equated self help with the likes of diet and alcoholism. Reading this book is inspiring. Ive always been big on approaching things rationally and logically and before this I thought being a PUA was just something someone is "born" with. Just like learning to ride a motorcycle being a PUA is something that is acquired.



Anyways about me. I am a single 25 year old male. I have a decent job and average looks. Ive always been involved with girls I work with or go to school with because im too shy to approach girls with nothing in common or who I dont know. Right now I work at a job with mostly males. So for the past 4 years I have not been involved with a women. Even though I have more money, objects, and looks then ever before my success with women is at an all time low. I was so sure my material wealth could get me girls on its own. I was wrong. I have friends who makes less then half I do getting more girls then me. Uglier friends to. My weekends consist of hanging out with my guy friends only when the girls they are seeing are busy. Super lame. I am that AFC who has alot going for him but for some reason am lacking in the dating department.


Ive come to a realization that the only way to get girls is to go out and carpe diem. No more excuses. Girls are not going to approach you on a reguarly basis unless your super hot, super rich, or famous. Ive decided learn as much about this art/hobby whatever you want to call it and spend a lifetime mastering it. Just like some men try to master motorcycle riding, flying, etc. this will be a lifetime challenge.


So this weekend I want to go on my first sarge. I have a friend who is kind of a natural PUA. He knows nothing about the PUA organization but he is a natural in that his confidence/style when talking to complete strangers have always landed him women.


My question is...this weekend how should I go about field testing myself? My goal is to talk to a few women for a relatively extended amount of time and try to get one phone number. Is this bar too low or too high for a rookie? Any good places to go besides the club/bar?

Hey luchini, loved the post. Seize the day baby! Great attitude.

It's great to hear that you wanna go out this coming weekend for your first sarge!! Great stuff.

From experience (I've been going out a few months with a more experienced pua), just getting out of the house and going out on your own and not feeling totally nervous and lame will be an achievement in itself. If you've never done it before.

The key is to enjoy what you do. If you go out and try to speak to a few women but get really nervous/fearful or have negative reactions to the way girls respond to you, you're gonna wire your brain up to link 'painful' emotions to going out and talking to 'strangers', and you're not going to want to do it again.

It can be tempting to want to do everything the first time you go out, (trust me, i know) but having such lofty expectations only serves to make you be too critical on yourself if you don't achieve them.

So might be a good idea to go out with the goal of having a great time, being relaxed and getting used to being out on your own. Anything else if it goes down, is just gravy.

Have lofty long-term goals, and small, easily achievable short-term ones.

Hope that helps a bit,
Woody1984

Ok good advice! I think I will change my short term goal this weekend to just trying to establish a good rapport with a few women.