Here's the thing... and this is totally founded and correct...

Men don't like sluts. At least, most "respectable" men don't marry sluts. It's like Marilyn Monroe and Jackie Kennedy. JFK fucked Marilyn, but never thought about leaving Jackie.

Women know that having a reputation as a town bicycle is not the best for catching "Mr. Right." Even the most socially savvy, modern women understand most men have a "madonna/whore" complex. Men are going to marry a woman who is a lady on the streets and a freak in the sheets.

Why are women so worried about what other people say? Because it affects their chances at love and relationships.

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Okay, I'm not sure if you're familiar with The Doc (a moderator here.) He's got an awesome NLP self-hypnosis technique or two that can surely help you out.

All I know how to do is to positively anchor a color and a motion to a positive mindset... I knew gambler had a video out there on how to do it... Let me see what I can dig up

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Hello zip,I am descriping a situation that happened 2day in my faculty..There is a girl I have been trying to approach for a long time but I have this horrible fear that cripples me everytime I see her..Well I have made it very clear 2day that I want to approach her(she even noticed) and her friend left her alone so that I could approach her and still as usual I couldnt overcome my fears..My question is:Would she still be interested if I went to appraoch her again or would she think less of me??I am feeling horrible right now and I cant even descripe an ounce of my feelings..It is demoralizing and unmanly..What would u do if u were that girl,would u still give me a chance,or u would just let it go(especially that I am good looking and sport good wealth and looks)?

Thanks sweets, and ill be waiting for ur reply..thanks again

Oh and a happy one year anniversary on this blog, from me and from every guy u helped. Appreciation.

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I guess...I don't think I have that complex but I see how many men do. But the kind of women who is looking for a "mr right" is probably looking for a stable guy, not someone with a reputation for being promiscuous. Yet men don't suffer from worrying about this nearly as much.

Hey, I was just wondering how common it is to be moaning and have the occasional twitch when kissing deeply. Is it maybe a pyschological thing on her part or something strange?
If this is a stupid question sorry but I dont have vast experience in this area.

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It is kind of strange MattJacks but i'm guessing its strange in the good way...but you know that don't you?

Im not complaining, Im just curious. She seemed normal enough

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Ok sorry for the long post here is the story

My friend has a cousin, by his standards she is a HB9 min. My friend was frequently trying to get her to hang out with him with her girlfriends but she always found some reason to refuse. Yesterday i took his phone and called her by myself (we never spoke or seen each other before) and started talking to her as if i was him, we talked for about 2 min until she noticed that it was not him, i continued the conversation for like 5 more mins, i negged her, made her laugh unstoppably during the conversation and promised to call tomorrow from my number the next day. Next day i called her at about 2 pm, suggest to met, she objected that she does not even know me, she needs to study, etc, i made few jokes and she agreed to meet me in the evening (it took about 2 mins to get her to agree)

I call her at about 7.30 pm and ask if she is ready and she starts giving me this bullshit about studying again, i make fun of her for being inconsistent, the conversation last for about 5 mins, during which i make fun o her, she laughs and everything seems fluent, but i get the feeling she has too much power in this situation, as if i am the only one who is interested in the meeting and that 5 min of persuading her to meet me is really enough. I refute her suggestion to meet another day by telling that im very busy actually and that today is the only chance she will get with me in a "cocky/funny style", then i tell her to call me when she will make up her mind and hang the phone.

she messages me in an hour telling that she will be finished working on her thesis late and it will be too late to go somewhere, but we can still meet for a short period of time.

I replied with: i have met with my friends already, will call you some other day (i think it was DHV as i was not sitting there waiting for her to call,)

She replied ok then, we will meet each other next time

Now what should i do next? She really seemed interested in me but was was playing hard to get by making me convince her to meet with me.

I have few options

Call her in like 4-5 days and try to arrange the meeting again
Call her in like 2 days and just chat for a while to establish some comfort (what should i talk about with her?) and then call again in like 2 day and arrange a meeting
What would you do?

It's not the most common thing, but it happens. I can get all twitchy and moany if I'm completely transported by a kiss.

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so this is gonna be a little embarrasing.. basically ive started seeing this girl and when i got her in bed, i was able to get hard but then loose it when i'm about to penetrate. its the weirdest thing. i'd never had sex before so I'm thinking it might just have been nerves. we've tried on 2 different nights with same results. the second time she seemed to get frustrated. its funny. i thought once i got a girl into bed and willing to have sex it would be game over but this came out of nowhere. its not ED or anything. its preformance anxiety and I'm trying to find a way to get over it. anyways my question is should I expect this girl to stick around when I can't have sex with her? what must she be thinking about this situation...

Hey dude, I'm not really qualified to answer sex questions. I'm sorry I can't be of more assistance. Try consulting your doctor, psychologist, or some of the guys on the forum with experience.

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ey zip i think he was more inquiring as to whether the girl would react, stick around or just leave, not medical advice.

Okay, I'll answer that part of it. Just for the record....

I CAN'T answer questions that are THAT involved with a specific sexual problem.

There is a line to the stuff I can and will answer, and that is it. Trying to say it in the nicest most supportive way possible. I'm NOT an expert on sex.

I read the question again, and I see now that's what he was asking. I will honestly say I after I start reading a question with too much sex talk for my taste, I skip and say I won't answer.

Okay, as much of an answer as I can give:

Sex is important to women. If it were me, I'd hit the road after the 2nd time. She's feeling like she can't turn you on, even if she KNOWS that's not the problem. It's embarrassing for her.

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answer coming soon.

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