My god fellas, I hooked a bad one about 4 months ago. We only dated for 3 weeks (fclose), and I told her maybe we could pick things up after the summer ended and school started (Thought I'd keep my options open).

Anyway, school started and I told her "no mas" but she kept trying to talk to me and "be my friend." Furthermore, I got massive amounts of drunk texts from her, begging me to "make love" to her. She even tried to get me jealous by telling me that she has been dating tons of guys (to which I replied by saying I dated no one since her, haha).

So, my original plan was to "leave her better than I found her" by letting her down easy and being nice, saying "I'm sorry, but I just don't want to be with you, but I don't mind being friends." etc.

Anyway, that got her even more interested in me (lol, didn't realize this was really stroking the C1 and C2 requirements). And she kept pursuing some sort of relationship (even offered sex all the time to get herself into my life). I refused everything on all counts and told her to just get over it.

Well today it was getting really bad (and I was honestly sick of her shit). After she kept texting me suggestive things (saying that i couldnt handle the passion, etc, lol). She finally ends up calling me and I blew up on her - telling her to fuck off, stay out of my life, get a feeling self worth, rather than basing her happiness on my level of attachment to her, etc.

What do you all think? I mean, it seemed like being nice to her prolonged her problem of getting over me. So I chose to be the asshole and tell her that I dont give a shit about her and to stay out of my life. Will this make her better? I am really hoping she thinks "ya, guess he isn't that great anyway. He's an asshole. I deserve better." And then hopefully she can move on (and stop suffering from the "what does he not like about me" disease thats been plaguing her subconscious mind these past few months).

Any input is greatly appreciated.

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mm I don't think you should be too mean about it. A lot of girls are way emotional and will go out and do some stupid shit to themselves, seems like she might be the type from what you've described. Anyway maybe you could just ignore her?

If you've offered her ANYTHING to enrich her life, such as any form of optimism or positivity, you've done your job.

If you want her off your back, the best way to do it is to give her bad sex. She won't bother trying to hook up with you again if you leave her sexually frustrated.

thought I would update this for you all, since I guess it may give you something to analyze.

Anyway, recalling the argument, I remember her stating (in almost an inquisitive way) that she guesses she won't talk to me again. I confirmed that that is what I wanted.

This argument went down in November 2008.

since then I've been getting random texts from her.

December 2008: I get a text from her...seems like a mass text, but I knew she added me on it to get some sort of response. it said something along the lines of "Merry Christmas everyone. Hope you have a great new year -name"

January 2009: texted me saying she was sorry and wanted to work something out

once a month until may 2009: she would text me saying "hi, lets go downtown for drinks, i miss you, etc"

June 2009: She gives me a text saying "I tried dating other guys, but I can't find anyone like you. I am really sorry, I want to work things out. I will do anything" - I have a feeling she just got over dating a dude or two + some hookups and wanted to see if she can light an old spark.

I never replied to ANY of these texts, deleted her from fb and myspace and blocked her. I haven't actually received any texts since that one in June. So i hope she moved on though I have a bad feeling in the back of my head that she could have harmed herself. She goes to my university (a pretty small one where u see people u know on occasion), and I have yet to run into her since November...I guess I did what was right for me right? stupid guilt...

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