Adam

i live in London, when and where is your talk?

R

Firstly Just want to say the recent Webinar was great so Cheers for that. As was your section at the PUA Training Seminar back in February?

My question is.

Any Advice on Cock Blocks? Only generally happens occasionally these days so its not something that I get any regular practice at dealing with.

(I always just eject gracefully btw)

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Rich

Dear AFC Adam,

If only I am in UK, I'll book you for one on one immediately!! Unfortunately, I'm in Indonesia, very very far from you. Your concept has fully changed me. This is because I hate canned material, routines, blah blah blah.

I'll keep this short. I met her about 3 weeks ago in my piano exam.
It was quite smooth game, approached her, chit chat for 30 minutes and walk around the hotel (the exam was at a hotel) and in the beach with her. Kino-ed her a little (she didn't accept my kino on her small of the back fully though, considering that this kind of kino in my country is still quite taboo)
And then number close. Then I completely ignored her for 1 week.

Next week, I texted her and a bit of my surprise, she responded very well!!
Although she said "I'm very busy right now, so please contact me again later. Thx!". So I think it was OK, considering that she's preparing for her graduation exam. The we're having conversations via text message in the week.

Some mistakes, but I managed to fix it. One of the mistakes that I hit her with wrong humor while she's not in the mood. So I got the thing fixed up and then we continue to keep contact until now.

Now my question is:

Sometimes she don't reply to my texts, in you point of view

Is she flaking or she's just too busy? Or maybe her interest level is decreasing?? ( we never meet each other again after the 1st meetup) due to my schedule and her schedule too.

Thanks

Steve
Your friend in Indonesia

Hey

Im going to a wedding next week, the wedding party will most certainly be hairdressers or the sort as the bride has a salon, its the perfect opportunity to practice.

Im not bad with the openers to point of hey how do you know the bride /groom etc, seems a bit afc to me, can anyone give me some suggestions as to what would be a great opening and how to transition ive read all the theory but not had the opportunity much to practice.


Looking forward to a successful night, thanks in advance for your help

Okay so: I've been working this girl for about 2 months. We started in the friend phase last year (both of us seeing someone) but there was mutual attraction. First day back to uni this year she wants to see me, they broke up over the summer. HUGE Chemistry our first night.

Things were going great before another guy starts AMOGing me. I handled it very well at first, just acted like I didn't care. She asked me if the two could go out (she and I were not official, just casual) and I leaned back, shrugged and said whatever. This care-free attitude was working WONDERS and she seemed to lose a bit of interest in him.

However, I made some mistakes over the 2 months, showed a bit of insecurity, etc. I'm at a LJBF stage without her saying it to me yet...but I know its coming. I'm trying to use CNF and status to build some tension up but its ultimately failing...

"What do you think of my shirt?"
"I love it! Totally hides your gut"
"hahah "

I think i'm doing it well but I'm having trouble building the tension. Any advice?

Just discovered this thread...

Adam just wanted to give you my most honest appreciation for your efforts and for all the value you offer to people without expecting anything in return.

You are such a humble, intelligent and caring human being. If there was more people like you the world would be a better place to live in.

Adam for president !!

Thank you buddy

Hey mate got two questions for ya I wanna put out there.

1) If you have preselection from average girls like 5's and 6's (or less) does this also help or does it actually hurt?

2) Some sticking points with entourage game, at least to the level you've accomplished.

a) The value of hook ups in clubs isn't that much since all hot girls have a hook up anyways

b) Even if the girl's befriended me, if she's hot, she already has her own social circle and routine of what she does. To often I invite the girl out and get "Well depends what my girls want to do" and then goes along with her girls plans. Since I'm a random guy to her friends they don't care to come out with me, and her friends always have a higher level of compliance from her then I do even if she's attracted.

c) How do you work the girls when they're out without causing to much jealousy and resentment and also not giving off to much of a player vibe. (Especially since I'm open about being a dating coach and already have to deal with that to a degree)

Thanks in advance mate.

Psych

P.S. Thirsty Thursdays is dead due to me having bootcamps ....however Penny Beer Wednesday's are about to get started! Haha

Hey man, hope all's good.
I've been noticing body language more and more, and i got this question for ya, out of curiousity and was wondering abt it:
you knw how they say that pointing ur feet towards someone subcommunicates that ur interested in him or his conversation. Well, do you think that if a girl (could be a friend, or some random girl) stands directly in the direction ur feet are pointing with her back turned to you..is she asking for attention or anything else? what do you think is her codu language saying?

P.S: i knw this may look like im obsessing with the tinyest of details, but im not..i just like to wonder abt stuff once in a while

thanks bro, take care.

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Dear Sept,

I may need some more information as I cant tell if the two of you have already been casually sleeping with each other but you want more or if you're just friends and you want to be intimate but for now I'll assume it's the first one as you haven't asked me any game specifics

You see it's not so much what you say, but how you act. People have a need to label things we always have done and we always will that's part of how we survive as a whole.

If you start acting as a boyfriend and she starts acting as a girlfriend then the two of you will mutually label it a relationship, that's the normal course of action, picture what you want your relationships to be like and live it with the girl you like.

Don't worry about her past relationships as such, providing she has fun and good times with you she'll want to continue, when you add value you do not need to worry about most negative experiences as you're giving that person a positive one.

AFC Adam,

Dear Slie,

Good news buddy!

From the sounds of things it looks like she wants to spend more time with you the best thing to do is change where you meet her into a social setting. This changes the sub communication of your interaction into a more personal one as opposed to “a bit of flirting at the office to pass the time”

Now the trick is to keep it a very low pressure event, it could be as simple as inviting her and her friends out with you and your friends to go bowling or perhaps even grab lunch together, whatever you choose make sure its nothing serious like dinner and a movie and most importantly keep it fun! it sounds like you're doing well keep at it and remember that sometimes it's best to drop cf and negs for a bit while you make a connection


AFC Adam,

Dear Unattained,

It doesn't actually look like you've been blown off buddy, you've invited her out she was busy and said she'd reply later and did! its unfortunate she couldn't make it but it happens; have a few txt conversations for a couple days; keep it light and fun remember to add value. Then leave it for a little time again maybe a day or two you may find she'll contact you. If she doesn't then contact her and make arrangements to see her again if that falls through i think its time to move on buddy.

Also remember to keep day 2's activity based; they are a great way to spend time with someone without having all that pressure to impress the other person on your mind. Go to the zoo or maybe even an art gallery somewhere different and fun, you'll find it makes the whole process a lot smoother.

AFC Adam.

Dear Memento,

Hahaha unfortunately it would be unfair if i gave you a free ticket and not everyone else, however there is a lot of free stuff on my website and there'll be a lot more freebies coming very soon!

I understand where you're coming from and you do have a point but not as much of one as you think, the whole debate of looks vs game has been around for ages, some say looks don't matter in the least bit while others say they make a huge difference.The truth is looks do matter, i hate to say it but anyone who completely dismisses them is deluded but and there is a big but!

Looks act only as part of initial value and initial value is not nearly as concrete a value as game. Tight game will nearly always beat looks hands down, I knew a guy who was a lil ugly in fact and he hung out with good looking guys but the thing is he had tighter game than his good looking mates, when girls gave his friends the initial value it worked in his favour as no one expected him to be such a ladies man, the second he opened his mouth it was game over and as the cherry on top, his game had such a contrast to his ugliness that it just seemed even more tight to everyone!

My advice is if your friend is treating you well and is a cool guy carry on the way you are, keep practising and you will get there regardless of looks.

AFC Adam,

Ps ugliness is mostly in the mind most people who think they are ugly are actually not bad looking, you'd be surprised what a gym membership, fashionable hair and wardrobe can do. Looking good has never been so easy

Heya Ritchie,

Glad to see your enthusiasm, that attitude will take you far! my last bootcamp in London is from the 21 – 23 November.

You can see the check out the details on the puatraining website.

AFC Adam,

Dear RR,

Thanks for the feedback, glad you enjoyed it!

Most of the cockblocks I see are the girls female friends and they do it (mostly) because they care about their friends well being both mentally and physically. It's important not to see them as the “enemy” as they're just being a good friend, you would hope your sisters friends did the same right?

The trick to handling them is to actually be nice and add genuine value, some of the not so pretty girls are so used to being virtually ignored because her hot friend gets all the attention, pay her some actual attention find out about her, make her laugh, as long as you make it clear you're not hitting on her you'll find that she'll actually help you to get to know her friend. why? because compared to all the other guys who hit on her friend you actually treated her as a person with feelings as opposed to a “war pig”

AFC Adam,

Dear Steve (Desertfox565)

Mate it looks like she's into you, despite kino being taboo where you are she still allowed you, you left it a whole week later to get in touch and she still replied to you and this interaction is happening during her preparation of her graduation exams which is a very busy and important time for her.

The only reason the two of you haven't gone out again is that both of you are busy, which is fine! (almost a good thing actually)

Keep it up, it looks like a simple case of logistics; arrange a time and place where you can both make it and go do an activity together. In the meantime have little exchanges of fun txts to keep the interaction up.


AFC Adam,