Met this girl last year in college. She moved to a city a few hours away, but we still keep in touch through facebook and the phone. I see her occasionally when she comes to visit her friends from here and the last time we hung out, she told me that her boyfriend friends guys who post on her facebook even if he has never met them before. I wondered why he hadn't friended me yet since I had been posting on her facebook for a while.

So last night we were exchanging wall posts and I finally get a friend request from her boyfriend. Now it's not a totally random thing since I've met him twice, but that was weeks ago and we talked for about 2 minutes each time. I'm absolutely sure that he's friending me to see the other half of the conversation and that's his only reason for doing it.

My question is, what's my move? Do I accept or reject his request? If I accept, he seems like the type to tell her that I was the one that requested him. This would make me seem creepy and since he's her boyfriend, I don't think I'd be able to convince her that he was the one that requested. If I reject it, then I come off as a douchebag and might bring on a situation where it's me against them.

I guess the best move would be to accept, but how do I let her know that he's the one that requested me? How would I even bring it up that her boyfriend requested me. She told me before that it bugs her when he does this to guys she talks to, but I don't want to bring it up and seem like I'm insulting him.

I can't believe you're putting this much thought into it. If you don't have anything against the person, then add them. It really doesn't matter if you added him first cause people often add friends and significant others of people they are friends with already. If by some weird messed up highly conceded twist, she ends up mentioning who added who first, then you make a joke about how he added you just like she said he would! She already told you this is his MO! She expects it! It's really not gonna come up though and I wouldn't bring it up if I were you, cause then you'll just be creating a weird situation from one that was totally fine.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

I disagree. I don't know what people you're referring to, but to randomly add someone's boyfriend/girlfriend, especially if you've never met them, comes off as highly creepy. Add to the fact that his sole purpose is to spy on her, I don't want her perception of it to be reversed and have her think I'm spying on her by reading her boyfriend's wall. Adding random guys just so he can see what his girlfriend is posting on their walls doesn't come off as creepy to you?

How about sending her a message before you accept or ignore his friend request? Just say something like, "Hey, your bf just tried to add me as a friend. It's a little weird since I don't really know the guy and it seems like he might just want to read the other half of our wall-to-wall convos. What do you think I should do??"

Seems to me like this would protect you on all fronts - especially if the douche tells her you requested him.

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-That's my two cents...

i'd add him just cause and continue on normally. What they decide to do is up to them. If she brings up that you added her b/f. Just say you have nothing agianst him. If they wanna play little fuck fuck game with each other thats on them.

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You have met him twice, and like Rye said, she has already told you that he does this to her male friends. She knows it, she expects it. I highly doubt she will assume you added him.

Aside from the fact that you sound like an insecure little girl because you have to ask for her advice on a decision like that that is of no consequence. If the situation were reversed and I had a jealous gf and some other girl I might be interested in that came to me with that question, I'd think they were silly and too much into drama. Drama stinks, so I avoid it like the plague.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

I just accepted like Rye Lee said. That guy is creepier than I thought. I accepted his request, I guess he read my wall, and then he immediately removed me from his friends list. What a psycho.