1. That's completely true, but women do respect strong men, and want to be called on their bratty behavior, when they know their being ridiculous.
2. I agree women are MUCH more affected by societal programming than men are. You don't get to go after what you actually want for fear of social repurcussions.
3. Agreed. If I had a dollar for every girl whose told me they hate girls because they're catty, I'd be retired in Romania with a castle Rick H style. Women tend to be "frenemies" as was documented brillantly in the 5th season of Sex and the city. Because women are not celebrated for competing overtly as men are, they compete much more subtlety and competitively.
4. I think you're underestimating the competition element between women especially in clubs which are like going back to high school. Girls in clubs are DEF compeiting to be the hottest girl and get the highest value guys.
5. Ummm I disagree. Women can't always have sex with someone they WANT to have sex with. But it's always an option if they drop standards and are willing to be aggressive.
6. I agree 100%. The idea that all women especially beautiful ones have great social skills is BULLSHIT.
7. Yeah that's a huge piece of the game. Just getting comfortable talking to women about sex is huge.
8. Yeah that's a lame opener when guys say that... Women are people too they don't always have to be happy.
9. No, no that's totally true
10. Yeah women are actually much less in control of their sex lives than men are because for the most part they are not going to approach guys. So they can only pick from the guys who approach them.
Myth 1: Women don't like "nice" guys.
Wrong...no girl wakes up and wished that she meets a guy that treats her like crap! But women tend to date those types of guys because they do something that "nice" guys don't tend to do....they give the girl enough time to miss them. By that I mean, nice guys will call a girl everyday to see how it went and make them feel better if they had a bad day. Other guys will call every other day or so and in that period of time that she doesn't talk to him, she starts to miss him. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." These are her thoughts exactly: "omg when is he going to call?! What is he doing that he can't call me? I have so much to tell him!" etc... It is a love hate relationship. I'm not saying you need to be a jerk! Please don't do that!! But you have to give her the chance to miss you and WANT you.
Myth 2: Women have it easy because they can be emotional and say what they want
Ohh lordy no! While women do have the advantage of social acceptance when it comes to talking about feelings, we do not have the luxury of talking about our TRUE feelings. If guys have a problem, they bring it up and get it over with. But women exist in groups, not as individuals. Our entire lives revolve around a social network and without it we are outcasts. Women don't survive well as outcasts. So women don't speak their true emotions if they feel it is for the best of the group and their position in the group. We tend to hint at our feelings to gauge whether or not we can express them, but most of the time...what you hear, is only half of what we truly feel.
Myth 3: Women get along so well with their friends because they are always talking/gossiping
Within any given clique, there is another clique (and possibly even another one). You always have the queen bee--sometimes it might be a pair though. She is the AFOG (alpha female) and the one that everyone looks to for acceptance. If she talks, she either talks over the other girls or the girls stop talking to listen to her. When making plans, they run them by her...is she doesn't like them, not only does she state it, but she has the ability to change the group's plans. If a new member tries to join the group, her opinion of that girl/guy shapes everyone elses opinion and may determine whether or not they are friends with them (if they do remain friends even though the queen bee doesn't like her/him, they will do so privately). Though girls within a friend group all act friendly when together, there are some girls in the group that bond better than others and they form their own group within the group and even gossip about the other girls (their own friends).
Myth 4: Women like to wear tight little clothes
Okay so sometimes that little black dress makes us feel sexy and gives us a boost of confidence but for the most part, we don't dress up like that for ourselves...we do it for you...the guys! Those stilettos hurt our feet and we can't bend down to pick up our purse in that little mini-dress...so what makes you think we enjoy it?! We hear guys say that they prefer a girl who just wears sweats and a tshirt with our hair up, but we aren't stupid....we see you stare at that girl with her booty hanging out of that miniskirt and women crave attention from guys.
Myth 5: Women can have sex whenever they want because men won't turn down sex
I'm not even going to get into the point that men will turn down women that completely ugly by their standards. I am focusing on attractive women....and they sitll get turned down for sex. Now I am not saying it happens all the time. In reality most guys would have sex with an attractive women if she offered, but women cannot have sex anytime they want just because they are women.
Myth 6: Women don't need to learn PU
Women, in general, are naturally more socialable and learn how to interact at a younger age and faster pace than men. But not all women know how to attract and sustain a healthy relationhip. Women should learn PU not to learn how to meet a guy, but how to meet a GREAT guy!
Myth 7: Women don't like sex and don't like to talk about it
False....next question! haha but seriously...sex is enjoyable for us too! Society just tells us we can't talk about it openly. But thanks to Cosmo and other magazines that is starting to change. Some women may be too shy to talk about sex, that is true...but most women talk about sex and they talk about it in detail. Your girlfriends will gush to their friends EVERYTHING about you and the sex...so beware!
Myth 8: Women should always smile
Nothing gets me more angry when I'm just sitting around on a bench or something and some guy tells me to smile or that I look sad. I'm not going to sit there cheesin just because society tells me to....if I am bored I am going to look bored; if I am sad I have the right to look sad....don't tell me to smile unless you know me and know why I am upset and are trying to cheer me up.
Myth 9: Women can't read
Hahaha ok, jk I was just making sure you were still paying attention!
Myth 10: Women are in control of their love life
Women suck at relationships. There I said it! I have spent so many hours listening to my friends complain about how they can't find anyone good. In reality they are their own worst enemy and they need a man to protect them from themselves. Women destroy their chances with great guys everyday in a number of ways....she will dismiss a guy that is talking to her because she thinks she is out of his league,
she won't make eye contact with a cute guy because she is either shy or trying to be coy (that is a personal favorite that i notice all the time), she lets her friends opinions control her own, she doesn't know what she wants in a man or thinks she knows but is wrong, and she won't admit when she needs help dating.
Ok so if you made it through this list of myths, congratulations...you are now wiser
Ok so mensa isn't knocking down your door but I hope that gave you some insight into how women really are....these are things that women are too afraid to tell anyone...even their closest friends. Some of these you may have already known and there are many more myths that I just couldn't get to. However, I feel that these ones really sum it all up well.
If you have any more questions or want to add your own that I couldn't get to please be my guest....
~B
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