OK, this is my first post. I hope this is in the right category.

I have been talking with this girl at work for several months. We recently started hanging out. I didn't initiate this. She asked me first. She texted me one day after work and said "hey, me and April are hanging out Saturday, and we decided you're going. You better be off work!". April is another girl I work with whom I have hung out with several times, and we are friends. So I go hang out with this chic and she's with what looks like a boyfriend, and her mother, and some other family members. There was one other girl there form work that I knew, but not April.

So I didn't think much of this. I hadn't decided I liked her yet. So I disappeared to the rest room. The other girl from work pulls me aside for a shot and tells me that (we'll call her Lucy), was asking if I left and seemed concerned. She then went into this speech about how she don't think Lucy likes this other guy because of body language. We'll, there not together now. The next day at work Lucy asks me if I stayed long after she left the bar and took more shots with April. So I was like "I stayed for a little bit".

Jump ahead a few months now. Were suppose to go out again. Me, her, and another girl from work. She texts me a few hours before we go out and says "you wanna get dinner first?". So she came and picked me up (my engine blew up so I didn't have a ride).

We get to this restaurant/bar, and it's just me and her. She says "I didn't even call April". We start talking. And she brings up relationships, and asks me if I ever wanna have kids, about guys at work, and friends that ask her out that she isn't interested in, and other things. Eventually after leaving and going to a bar, we headed home. We pull up to my house and it got kinda quiet. She's like let me turn around. So we pull up in front of the house and I notice she kinda takes her right hand and moves the hair from her face, but makes minimal eye contact. I ended up leaving and nothing happened. After thinking about it all a few minutes after leaving I felt like this was maybe a surprise date, but I did nothing.

So it's present time now. About 2 weeks after this possible date. I decided I do like this girl. But am curious if I missed my chance. We see each other at work all the time. We both have every Tues, Wed, and Thurs, off. We are both in the nursing program at school. You would think we would maybe hang out one of these days after school when I ask her to. But she always says she has school work. Which could, or could not be an excuse. Nursing school is rough and time consuming. We are on opposite weekends at work. She has hinted to me to try and switch weekends. Which makes me think she would like to hang out more.

It just bothers me we don't hang out at least one of the 3 days we have off together. It's like if I try to get her to hang out she's busy with school work. But the next day at work she will ask me to go to some sort of event. Example: We are having a bus trip where 50 people from work go and get wasted on a bus. She seems persistant that I go so I signed up. Then the other day she invited me to a party at her house for a football game later this month.

So I figure I will start some small kino at work tomorrow, and go to this bus trip. Then go to this party and try to crash at her place, and see what heppens.

So basically to sum up. Do you think I have a chance? Or does she seem not interested? I feel like maybe I screwed this up not flirting with her on this date the other day, or at work ever. But, I didn't know I liked her then. So now is time to start putting on the moves and see where it goes.

The best advice I could give you. Is give her the gift of your absence. Make yourself unavailable sometimes. Don't just go with her when she calls. Say you have something or if you do say sure I'm donating my time to the handicapped so you'll be perfect.. Something like that.

As to whether or not you have a shot with her. Hell yes! Every guy has a shot with any girl at almost anytime. You've obviously got a connection with her. It seems to be over a 50% connection. This is why I mention just don't be around. Make her work to hang out with you.

Be the challenge.

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it seems like she making most of the moves and you didnt get it at first. Now she might be getting over it but then you are still hanging out. You still have a chance with her. when she was talking about guys asking her out and she not intrested in it. She was qualifying herself to you telling you she not intrested in them. The part where she asked you out on the Suprize date (yes it was a suprize date) and at the end how it got silent in the car. she was waiting for an invitaton to be invited in for some fun stuff . Just try gaming her now and see her responds. learn to read the signs. Funny thing is sometimes your first instinct is right.

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So I forgot I didn't have to work today. I had school. I hadn't contacted her in a few days, so I decided to send a text message to her. All I said in the message was "You're a Nerd!!". We ended up texting for over an hour. The first thing she said was "Loser" (that's what all the girls say). So I told her to quit harassing me. Then like 20 minutes later after I think she realized I wasn't going to text her back she sent me another message, calling me a punk. So I said "Why are you still Harassing me"

Then she text me again and mentions this CD I have been suppose to download for her. She mentioned that I hadn't even made her CD yet. So I told her "I wouldn't make a CD for someone who thinks i'm a loser". After a few more messages I asked her what the name of the CD is. And she replied "If you can't remember this it must not be that important". I knew the name of the cd but was messing with her. Then told her "I might make your precious Hinder CD" (I know Hinder's ghey, don't flame me). Just to let her know I knew what the CD was, to throw her off. It all shortly ended after a few more playful texts.

I never really utilized text messages before. It's a good way to let someone know you're thinking of them without telling them. And a even better way to think of something clever to say. Since you don't have to reply right away. I really need to learn more fun things to text to keep interest going. I think I made a good start today. Hopefully I can keep thinking up clever things to say over the next few weeks till I see her at this party at her house.

So any ideas on stuff to initiate a conversation without making plans would be much appreciated!!

Thanks everyone!!

There's a really good text post in the building attraction and comfort forum.. check that out

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