Myth 1: Women don't like "nice" guys.
Wrong...no girl wakes up and wished that she meets a guy that treats her like crap! But women tend to date those types of guys because they do something that "nice" guys don't tend to do....they give the girl enough time to miss them. By that I mean, nice guys will call a girl everyday to see how it went and make them feel better if they had a bad day. Other guys will call every other day or so and in that period of time that she doesn't talk to him, she starts to miss him. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." These are her thoughts exactly: "omg when is he going to call?! What is he doing that he can't call me? I have so much to tell him!" etc... It is a love hate relationship. I'm not saying you need to be a jerk! Please don't do that!! But you have to give her the chance to miss you and WANT you.

Myth 2: Women have it easy because they can be emotional and say what they want
Ohh lordy no! While women do have the advantage of social acceptance when it comes to talking about feelings, we do not have the luxury of talking about our TRUE feelings. If guys have a problem, they bring it up and get it over with. But women exist in groups, not as individuals. Our entire lives revolve around a social network and without it we are outcasts. Women don't survive well as outcasts. So women don't speak their true emotions if they feel it is for the best of the group and their position in the group. We tend to hint at our feelings to gauge whether or not we can express them, but most of the time...what you hear, is only half of what we truly feel.

Myth 3: Women get along so well with their friends because they are always talking/gossiping
Within any given clique, there is another clique (and possibly even another one). You always have the queen bee--sometimes it might be a pair though. She is the AFOG (alpha female) and the one that everyone looks to for acceptance. If she talks, she either talks over the other girls or the girls stop talking to listen to her. When making plans, they run them by her...is she doesn't like them, not only does she state it, but she has the ability to change the group's plans. If a new member tries to join the group, her opinion of that girl/guy shapes everyone elses opinion and may determine whether or not they are friends with them (if they do remain friends even though the queen bee doesn't like her/him, they will do so privately). Though girls within a friend group all act friendly when together, there are some girls in the group that bond better than others and they form their own group within the group and even gossip about the other girls (their own friends).

Myth 4: Women like to wear tight little clothes
Okay so sometimes that little black dress makes us feel sexy and gives us a boost of confidence but for the most part, we don't dress up like that for ourselves...we do it for you...the guys! Those stilettos hurt our feet and we can't bend down to pick up our purse in that little mini-dress...so what makes you think we enjoy it?! We hear guys say that they prefer a girl who just wears sweats and a tshirt with our hair up, but we aren't stupid....we see you stare at that girl with her booty hanging out of that miniskirt and women crave attention from guys.

Myth 5: Women can have sex whenever they want because men won't turn down sex
I'm not even going to get into the point that men will turn down women that completely ugly by their standards. I am focusing on attractive women....and they sitll get turned down for sex. Now I am not saying it happens all the time. In reality most guys would have sex with an attractive women if she offered, but women cannot have sex anytime they want just because they are women.

Myth 6: Women don't need to learn PU
Women, in general, are naturally more socialable and learn how to interact at a younger age and faster pace than men. But not all women know how to attract and sustain a healthy relationhip. Women should learn PU not to learn how to meet a guy, but how to meet a GREAT guy!

Myth 7: Women don't like sex and don't like to talk about it
False....next question! haha but seriously...sex is enjoyable for us too! Society just tells us we can't talk about it openly. But thanks to Cosmo and other magazines that is starting to change. Some women may be too shy to talk about sex, that is true...but most women talk about sex and they talk about it in detail. Your girlfriends will gush to their friends EVERYTHING about you and the sex...so beware!

Myth 8: Women should always smile
Nothing gets me more angry when I'm just sitting around on a bench or something and some guy tells me to smile or that I look sad. I'm not going to sit there cheesin just because society tells me to....if I am bored I am going to look bored; if I am sad I have the right to look sad....don't tell me to smile unless you know me and know why I am upset and are trying to cheer me up.

Myth 9: Women can't read
Hahaha ok, jk I was just making sure you were still paying attention!

Myth 10: Women are in control of their love life
Women suck at relationships. There I said it! I have spent so many hours listening to my friends complain about how they can't find anyone good. In reality they are their own worst enemy and they need a man to protect them from themselves. Women destroy their chances with great guys everyday in a number of ways....she will dismiss a guy that is talking to her because she thinks she is out of his league, she won't make eye contact with a cute guy because she is either shy or trying to be coy (that is a personal favorite that i notice all the time), she lets her friends opinions control her own, she doesn't know what she wants in a man or thinks she knows but is wrong, and she won't admit when she needs help dating.


Ok so if you made it through this list of myths, congratulations...you are now wiser Ok so mensa isn't knocking down your door but I hope that gave you some insight into how women really are....these are things that women are too afraid to tell anyone...even their closest friends. Some of these you may have already known and there are many more myths that I just couldn't get to. However, I feel that these ones really sum it all up well.

If you have any more questions or want to add your own that I couldn't get to please be my guest....


~B

Good stuff Bonita! The only one I have to disagree with is the smiling part. Women SHOULD smile pretty much all the time, but so should men. Everyone should be happy all the damn time and smiling is sexy and you smile when you're happy, so I wanna see sexy smiling people everywhere I look. Damn straight I'm smiling while I'm typing this up!

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I truely have become wiser! But really some of those things did show some more insight than i had before, thanks for the post.

I hope no one actually believes any of those to be 100% true except the "Women can't read" one.

jk!

Wow this is really good but it must suck to not be able to let out your true feelings

Very very very few people truly do.

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lol theres this girl i always tell to smile and she does every time
and i reward her with a great big hug

wow that must make me really terrible or something

I like diss

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Don't stop posting Bonita! Your perspective (and Zip's too) are gold for guys like me who've gone up and down for years, one day thinking we've got it all figured out, the next day meeting Ms. Mysterious who makes us feel like we know NOTHING about women and what they want. Obviously, nothing is universal, but keeping these kinds of things in mind helps remind me that she's just a person, and not some other-worldly being I've put up on a 100-foot pedestal...

However, the one I'm not sure about is Myth #10. I understand that there are a lot of influences and insecurities that can be pushing a woman into or out of relationships. Nonetheless, women still tend to be the ones with the power to say yes/no: 95% of the time, guys are the ones who are trying to persuade or convince the woman that she should let us escalate; and even though some guys here seem to be amazing at doing this (and sometimes even turning it around through attraction), it doesn't change the fundamental dynamic that WE almost always start trying to convince HER to give us the green light. Then again, this whole paragraph may just be pointing at my own ignorance of how much power a guy actually has in relationships, but hey, that's why I'm here to learn!

Nice post.

Yo. Is it cool if we throw some more myths for you to bust? I'm going to shoot a couple out there, not because I don't know the answer (I have a lot of female friends), but for educational purposes.

Women don't want guys approaching them

Women never want to get sensual/sexual with male friends

Women never want to get hit on

Women do not have the same fear of rejection as men do

The better looking the woman, the less self-conscious she is

Women have a good sense of humor

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Women need a man strong enough to lead them. If you are confident and strong enough to show her the way, then you can take her where you want to go and she'll gladly go there with you. If she doesn't have a strong enough man that demonstrates his desire for her, then she will feel just as unsure about escalating things as any guy would.

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If you tell a girl to smile, she probably will for two reasons: 1. it is much easier just to smile and get it over with than keep a frown and have to explain all of what she is feeling and 2. women are socially programmed to be happy and please people. so if someone tells them to smile they do it to be accepted because not smiling would draw negative attention rather than positive attention.

But just because she does smile when you say to doesn't mean she doesn't wish people would just let her be and stare off into space sometimes

Women actually have very little power due to social rules and stigmas. Think about it...what is your population to chose from as a guy? The answer....any girl you want to approach. Yes you have to overcome the anxiety of approaching her, but it is socially acceptable for men to approach any and every woman. What is the population to chose from for a woman? The answer...the men that approach her. Very few women approach men because it is not socially acceptable (and I am not debating whether or not it should be that way...obviously it shouldn't BE that way, but it is). So women have to choose the best man fromt the group of men that approach her. Some women have more to chose from than others; for some women, they only have a few men to approach them...which decreases the chance of finding a good man/the right man. So you have the power. You can walk up to a hundred girls today and chances are you will get a decent turnout from that....women have to sit back and wait to be approached....and on some days that doesn't happen at all.

And when men do show interest in a lady, even if she hasn't been approached in a month by a guy, she hurts her own chances by doing the previously stated things...

pretty handy hearin PU stuff from a female. thanks bonita

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