so i have gone on a couple dates with a girl i like. she seems like the shy type but opens up when yo uget to know her better. as a result of this she doesnt really seem like the touchy flirty type. so far both dates have had time constraints because we meet during the lunch break and then go back to work. there has been pretty limited kino going on and i am trying to figure out how to increase it. i know if i want to change this from a friendship into something more she needs to be comfortable making physical contact. i have however been negging her alot and fitting alot of sexual jokes that insinuate that she wants to hook up with me. we went on our second "date" today to get lunch, though of course we didnt call it that. i picked up huge pair of sunglasses for her lastnight, .88 cents, the jokingly huge toy kind that no one would actually wear. i gave those to her and told her she needed to wear them to lunch today if she wanted me to talk to her. the lunch went pretty well. she smiled alot and played with her hair which i took as an IOI.

can anyone give me some suggestions as to how to fix this and make it more physical so it wont be a shock when i try to kiss her? i figure regardless i will go for it on the 3rd date since if nothing happens by then it probably never will.

any feedback will help.

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man, I am an absolute beginner in PU's as an structured thing. but I have some stuff under my belt from random experience. So I will say this but keep in mind I am a 25 year old newbie. Some girls are quite reserved when it comes to kino, actually, she may like you a lot but not feel comfortable with kino touch. So you could touch her hand and tell her some sweet things and kiss her all in a few minutes. Sometimes things not need to be progressive. Some girls really like you but arenot used to kino. Finally, I would suggest you be very careful with negs since you don't wanna come across as a rude guy, assuming she is a shy girl.

just a newbie's opinion.
good luck.

damm. I posted the thing above as a guest. sorry.

thanks dorian.

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Try to get away from lunching if its getting nowhere, move to somthing activity based so that she doesnt just have a nice time but has FUN! Get creative! I recently took a girl on saturday to the lake, vodka jello shots and paddle boat rides! that clearly cant be done in an hour but making it interesting can help to stay away from the just friends area!

Sounds like things are going well for you man, but yeah, it's probably time to move past the lunch thing. I imagine there's a good number of constraints by doing the lunch thing (time being just one), so you want to move things to a more convenient locale. It doesn't sound like it'll be hard because you both seem to be having a good time. I'd imply that things are going to be getting pretty busy with work for the next little while, so you guys should next get together after work or on the weekend. Mention that you'll have more fun anyway because you both won't have to be worrying about running back to work, and you should be good.

You could try this:

Just stop calling and texting her suddenly. It's probable that she'll wonder what's going on and text you after a couple days of no communication.

At that point ask her if she wants to go hang at the park. I've done this with a few HBs I've met. It's a great place to hangout after the initial meeting but before she's comfortable enough to go to your place. Bring a blanket and just hang by the river and eat some crackers or something while overlooking a river or something scenic. The weather of course should probably be nice.

This has worked pretty well for me. After a date like that they almost always feel comfortable coming to your house and from there you can escalate to the next level. Or if you're feeling extra smooth and she's into public hooking up, just kiss her at the park.

CPT

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