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You can go direct, but I don't know if that's going to work in a club or bar. Think of the purpose of an opinion opener, its supposed to go UNDER the radar, so the girls don't immediately think you're hitting on them. And you can use the topic of the opener to get immediate conversation that you can stack routines into.
That is indeed the purpose of opinion openers. Flying under the radar, in everyday lingo, means making sure she's interested in you before you make your intentions clear. You're playing it safe, and that's a smart way to do things. However, my way of doing this is to go direct and ignore her reaction (positive or otherwise), then I just slip into normal mode and have fun without hitting on her anymore. Until she starts showing interest, that is. After that it's pretty obvious that she wants you to return the interest again.
Oh and by the way, there is more than one kind of attraction. I don't care if you can reach a hook point and DHV and do all the other silly little things that are meant to make a woman attracted to you in
that way. Just because she thinks you're cool and is comfortable with you being there doesn't mean she's gonna sleep with you. I've never seen anyone else admit this, undoubtedly because it's bad for business, but you can not make
any woman attracted to you. Simple as that. If she isn't attracted to you the way that you want her to be though, who cares? You're still having fun with her, there is no doubt that at least one of her group likes you, and other girls in the place can see you having fun with her and you will be getting vibes from them aswell. You can't change her mind, but you can still have fun and use the social proof to your advantage.
I've been talking to a couple of guys lately, I know them pretty well and can talk about anything - including girls. These guys are naturally good with girls, and what I describe above is exactly what they do. They agree that she either likes you or she doesn't, and it doesn't matter which because moving along is easy. As a matter of fact, the similarities between what they do and everything I've come to learn are pretty uncanny. In short, direct works exactly the same, just faster. The key to making it work though, is to be direct to start with then cutting it off until it's cool to start hitting on her again.