Do you guys remember the chapter in "The Game" where Neil describes Mystery during his huge case of One-itis...
well multiply that by maybe....50, and you'll have my friend We'll call him DPS for now.
Well he got into his first relationship senior year in high school, with a girl a year younger.
She did all the work, he indirectly AMOGged his buddies and her while giving them a ride home one day. She liked that, and he's always been a confident, funny, outgoing guy just like myself. And somehow she got his number and texted him nd wot not.
And extremely long story short, they'd been going out for some time, and they had a pretty constant sexual relationship(they did the deed practically everyday for a few months lol) but at some point they got into arguments, she got really weird nd wot not, always looked for a fight.
Prom came along, he asked her even tho they were going out...she said no, devastated him, but he tried having a good time anyway. Couple days after
prom someone in our class asks him why she didn't come to OUR prom and went to her Ex's prom. At this point, i was SHOCKED, and he...just said i dont know...it hit him later...he freaked out. He confronted her, she cried nd stuff..blah blah drama, they stopped seeing each other for like 2 days, next thing I know they're sitting accross from me @ hte lunch table and she's feeling his member ( i know this coz he had his stupid smug smile) they get back together.
THEN they fight again, she doesn't come to his graduation....really bothers him...more things happen, and it just deteriorates. He hasn't been happy since, and this was...before july, he's seriously been suicidal, i've been trying to tell him there are SO MANY girls and women out there that are so much better, that wouldn't cheat on him or w.e

But he doesn't care, and doesn't listen to me, there's no convincing him, he's so fucking stubborn it drives me crazy. NOW he's in a total different city attending university, he hates it, he doesn't wanna meet anyone, doesn't wanna be interested in girls. He came back for a weekend a couple weeks ago (he has to fly to get back here), and we hung out with
all the guys..got drunk, etc, party blah blah, then later we were just talking, me him and two other of the BEST buds. And i had said something
to upset him (you say ANYTHING negative bout his previous girl, who we can call "liz", he flips) and he goes and cries in his house (we were in the backyard grilling sausages @ 1am lol) so we decide to leave him be, we walk home.
I get a text when i get home saying "Im driving to my dad, on the highway right now, i hope i die", two shots of anything gets this guy hammered, we drank a 5L keg of beer...btw like 5-6 guys..he was NOT in a state safe to drive.
Luckily he made it almost 40-50km w.o getting hurt.
So now here i am, asking teh community for help, advice, anything...i CANT do anything anymore, im gonna resort slapping him around when he gets back next time, It'll probably make him mad more than anything but he might crack and just spill out his emotions....not that he hasn't already.
He's been talking to me on msn since is started typing this almost an hour ago and every now and then i get to hear him say "omg i hope i die today" or "bro, imagine i jumped outta my window right now" but i dont take him seriously coz i think he really loves life too much to do it.
i thought it was an attention thing at first...but not so much any more, and as every week passes, he's getting closer to whatever it is he wants to happen to him.

This is a cry for help.
Please, how the hell does a college student deal with one of his best buds, who happens to be 3500km away, who has teh most fucked up case of ONE-itis i can imagine?

-Mike

This is what I would do:

1. Elicit feelings from him. Get him to get very, very specific about the feelings he misses when he is with her. Get him to realize that it isn't her he misses, but those feelings.

2. Go psychological on him. "You are right, you are normal to feel this way. Your brain is hardwired for tribal existence, to live in a world with only a couple suitable mates. Your brain and body tells you to do everything in its power to get her back, because it thinks that she might be your only chance.

The thing is, we don't live in tribes any more. There are thousands of girls who would love to suck your cock. You can either man up, and rid yourself of this feeling that does not serve you, or you can keep yourself tucked up in that fetal position and allow yourself, and your genes, to be weeded out of existence."

3. Give him an ultimatum. "If our friendship means anything to you, then you will do this one thing for me. You are going to go out, find some women, and fuck one of them. I'm not going to sit here and watch you throw your life away because of some replaceable girl. Only you are in control of your life, she isn't."

Good luck with this though, seriously. A sorta friend of mine killed himself not too long ago shortly after my friend dumped him. Quite similar situation.

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Thank you VERY much pleth, i'll try this in a few hours when i talk to him again, hopefully putting our friendship on teh line will do it.
He seriously told me the only fun he's had in months has been talking to me on msn every night :/ and he knows how pathetic that sounds but it's the truth for him.
Anyway ill update soon as i can.
Thanks again