Let me give you a quick description of this *dilemma* -- it may not be and I may be over generalizing things...

I'm in class so I might be leaving out a few details, it's just because I'm in a hurry...

My friend invited me to dinner with a few of his friends. I wasn't trying to pick anybody up, so anything that happened was just natural because of my personality. There were two girls in this group and I ended up chatting with them the whole time and making them laugh. They would constantly ask my friend why he hasn't brought me along to other events, etc... They liked me.

The next day they ask him if he'll bring me out to go to a party with them. He told me so I go. This time I'm fully expecting a pick up... him as my wingman. The night went great, BUT my wingman wouldn't help me out at all... I was trying to isolate the girl I was interested in to talk to her and get her number. We were pretty much in a big circle the whole time and occassionally it would split, but I would always be with 2 girls. I was trying to get his attention to help me get rid of one for a few minutes so I could do my magic...

Well it never happened, instead I just had to be the funny, charming guy without help. Turns out the girl I was working on really liked me and asked my friend a million questions about me the next day...

Good right?

She then told him to ask if I wanted her number and if so then to give it to me....

This upsets me because 1) I was trying to get it myself and didn't... 2) it makes me look lame because I got it through a friend. 3) I feel like it emasculates me and hinders my confidence (which I worked so hard on establishing).

What should I do?
Take the number?
Say don't give it to me, I'll get it next time we go out....
Take the number, call her, and say something funny about the situation?
Am I over analyzing and just stop worrying because I know already she likes me?

Should I stop asking so many questions?

--QB

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It would be lame not accepting the number, IMO. Which argument would you use to explain why you didn't get her number? She's gonna think you're way too self confident or arrogant for not taking it. Well this is how i, as a noob, think. Feel free to disagree guys, i'm here to learn.
I'd just grab the number and go from that on. She's definitely into it, from what i've read in your post ...

She told him that if I ask for it then give it to me. She doesn't know I haven't asked for it... well actually because I haven't asked for it. He's not going to tell her if I've asked for it or not. She just said that and he told me that. (ok, enough with the he-said she-said...)

I think if I do ask for it, IMO, it will rank me a little lower. I understand that you're saying if she's in to it then there's nothing wrong with it... Of course I feel the same. But does anybody else see my point?

I am going to see her this friday at a halloween party, so I'll be able to get it there...

Now I just gotta think of a creative way to ask for it.

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I understand what you are saying with the it might rank you a little lower since you asked the friend for her number. But at the same time she basically volunteered her number to a friend of yours just in case you happened to ask for it. So it isn't like she made it very difficult to get the number in the first place.

I'm not sure if you ask for the number from your friend or not. What I would do is at the next party you are supposed to be at together (if its soon and you know that) maybe just talk to her again alone if you can and be like "long time no see, let me get your number so we can hang out sometime outside of parties" etc maybe not those exact words, but something of the like.

The only thing I wouldn't do is say that you were trying to get her number that night, but the friend was with her etc so you didn't want to ask. Just don't bring up the not asking for her number and that'll be forgotten.

If you do take the number I might call her, and if it comes up how you got the number just say something like "it's funny I was talking bout the party and how me and you talked and it was fun, and he said he'd give me your number so we could get in touch." That way you didnt ask for the number, but still got it.

Just a thought. Hope it goes well.

hmmm seems like she want to talk to you but making it seems like your the one who wants it . I'd say hold off on getting the # from your friend. in fact tell your friend to tell her "if she wants to give me her # she could of gave it to me personaly" She already Showing IoI just play it cool. Have her come to you and give her# to you. Make yourself the prize. soon enough she'll give you her # instead of you asking for it.

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Yeah I was just planning on getting it from her in person this Friday... We'll be at a party but now my wingman knows I need to get her alone... I should be able to anyway if she's interested...

Since I've been hanging out with her at parties I'll say something like: "We need to hang outside of these parties. You should give me your number so we can remedy that..."

Something along those lines to get her number...


Would picking up other girls at the party be a bad thing? Good thing? -- makes her jealous and want to hand out her number?
I've picked up plenty of girls just never picked up other girls in front of the girl I've got interested... never knew the rule on this.

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dont blantly hit on other girls infront of her unless she wants to play "hard to get" if you do it make it slick. You can hit on other girls but play it off as "getting to know them" and "being friendly" be the party and you'll get more # then you'll know what to do with it.

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Hey,
Sounds like she was too embarrest to give you her number infront of her friend because it would have been akward. You can isolate without him, just have the balls to say something like, "Hey, Can I borrow your friend for a minute?I give her right back.". Then, do your magic. It's not like the friend is gonna say no.
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