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PostPosted: Tue Oct 28, 2008 8:54 pm 
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Because you're a little on the heavy side, I guarantee you can lose the weight pretty quickly. To lose weight, you've pretty much got to consider three aspects: resistance training, cardio, diet and sleep. And you can do all of these for FREE.

Resistance Training:
Calisthenics are your friend here. Every morning give yourself 20 minutes to do the following: three sets of as many push-ups as you can manage. Get a chair and do three sets of tricep push-ups. Do three sets of crunches. Do three sets of twist sit-ups (equal number each way). Lay up on a bench or a firm mattress and do 3 sets of leg raises. I won't go into detail about form, but that stuff is easily found on the web. You'll also eventually want to incorporate weights, but assuming you've never done exercise, this will have a good effect and will get you motivated. As I said, start with however many you can do - just focus on good form (don`t cheat) and build up over time. When I started doing this at 17, I could barely do 3x 15 push-ups. 3 years later when I joined the army, I could bust 100 on a dime. And I've kept up (and enhanced) this routine every day ever since. COST: $0.

Cardio:
Wherever you can, walk instead of taking a vehicle. If you don't have a chance, make a point of going for a walk every night for 30 minutes. When you've built up a little stamina, turn that walk into a slow jog. Just go as far as you can to get some heavy breathing going. The key to cardio is regularity, so make sure you do something EVERY day that gets your heart going. As your endurance improves, you want to keep ramping up the distance and/or pace so that you keep getting your heart going and eventually get a good sweat going. COST: $0.

Diet:
For your body type, this is probably the biggest problem and where you can acheive the most results. You're English, so I assume you eat a lot of tasty but disgustingly unhealthy food :) So if you have a burger, hold the cheese. Don't have fries with that burger. Eat fruit. Drink water instead of Coke. Drink Guiness instead of ale/lager. Don't snack between meals. Eat as many un-fried vegetables as you can stomach (I hate them too). DON'T HAVE SECONDS! The point is, you're faced with a number of choices every day between eating something healthy or unhealthy. If you make the healthy choice most of the time, you will notice it. COST: $0 (and maybe even negative!).

Sleep:
After doing all this stuff to yourself, you'll find yourself getting more tired than usual. Give your body a chance to recover by sleeping 8 hours a night. I'm guilty of breaking this rule myself, but it makes a difference. COST: $0.

Anyhow, there you go. I'm sure there are other guys on the site that can offer even more expert advice, but this will definitely work, and it won't be that hard. From what you said, you're about 30-35 pounds overweight, but the good thing about that is that those pounds are the easiest to shed. I guarantee that if you follow this stuff religiously, you can expect to lose 10 pounds in a month, and it will show. The visible results, the endorphins, and the compliments you can expect as people start to notice you losing weight will all help your confidence and encourage you to get more aggressive and keep trimming down.

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Here ya go son... im bout to break some shit down for ya.....

My stats...
5'6" - 5'7" on a good day.
200+lbs. (13.5 stone = 189lbs)
My head is bigger than some cars.

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.... Who gives a fuuck? Not me.

The problem is your perception of yourself. You see yourself as over weight, ugly and short..... So thats the way everyone else sees you. You do not consider yourself a man of high value, so why should anyone else?

If you saw yourself as strong confident man, everyone else would too. We all have to start somewhere. Start by looking at your height as an advantage. You are on the same level as most women. You can look them directly in the eye much easier. You are more under the radar than taller guys, so you can approach easier. You play the guitar, so you have a great passion that is very DHV. Women love musicians.

Bam!! Look at all the positives in your life. Your weight, just google 15 minute at home workouts. You cannot expect that working out for a week is going to do shit for you. Hell, it may take 4 weeks of consistent work outs before you see a change. But if you keep at it, like PUA, you will notice a difference. You cannot expect to do 50 ab crunches and get a six pack.

You social anxiety is going to be hard, but like the others have said, you have to step out of your comfort zone. The first step is to change the way you think about yourself. The more positive you think of yourself, the more positive others will look at you.

Edit: You asked for honesty. Don't get pissed when people are honest.

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thanks guys. i really appreciate all this. im speaking to rye lee, the pickup artist and hes a genius. hes made me feel so much better about myself. check him out. the guys a master

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I agree with Chino.

Surely you'll respond with "oh, man, that's not that easy, I don't think I can do it..."

Well, if Michael Jordan had stopped playing basketball the first time he missed a shot, he wouldn't have been Michael Jordan - at least not the one we know!

So, please try to change your mind into a "What the hell... Let's give it a chance" way of thinking. Try it.

I'd bet that anyone here has been the fat/geek/nerd/boring guy at that corner that is in every party. If you want yourself to think you're cool, there's only one option. Be it.

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First, fix the things you dont like about yourself.
If u do that, the other stuff will just go away.
If you think about it, u really dont have other choices.
Either you fix the things you dont like, or you will never be happy.
Its not easy, but you gotta try... and if you fail, keep trying, forever, until you make it. It is your only choice.

The world doesnt care where you started, only where you are at the moment. So if you started off worse than others, you will just have a lot more work to do.


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Another easy way to get some exercise in a non social way is to take up rock climbing or bike riding.
Also if you go emo you will only attract emo girls, just dress in well fitted clothes that suit you (see the style section).

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my Suggestion is build up on your inner game. Go to the Gym, find work, buy new clothing, whatevers you need to do. Once you work on your inner game and have the will to acutally crawl out from the rock you are hiding in, then try the newbies mission. You taking the first step in asking for Help now you gotta follow throught with the advices people give you. Its not gonna be an easy road but it'll be well worth it later. Its not just about picking up chicks(90% of the time it is) its also about bettering yourself. If you need help i'll be Gladly to lend a hand.

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my Suggestion is build up on your inner game.
Good advice! :)
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Go to the Gym, find work, buy new clothing, whatevers you need to do....
Its not just about picking up chicks(90% of the time it is) its also about bettering yourself. If you need help i'll be Gladly to lend a hand.
Clearly NSR means something different by 'Inner Game' than I would ;)

Please have a look at this post:
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Check out the link Johnny posted, as it is one of the best definitions of inner-game you'll find. It's all about self-worth and the happiness and other things that we were talking about the other day Shred. Keep focusing on just becoming truly happy with who you are, what you have in life and what you have to offer other people to make their lives happier.

P.S. Change your avatar pic to something happy!

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 Post subject: Re: need honesty here
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does being overweight, short and ugly affect my chances with women?
Nope - but FEELING that you are overweight, short, and ugly SURE DOES!

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girls dont tend to take me seriously :-(
That's because YOU TAKE YOUR OWN 'FAULTS' TOO SERIOUSLY.

The MOST significant difference between men and women, in my experience, is that women tend not to give their friends a hard time for being attracted to a person's CHARACTER, rather than their appearance.

Concentrate your primary energy on developing YOUR CHARACTER - that's what 'Inner Game' is all about.

Enhancing your shortcomings, either by improving your health and appearance, or simply learning to present yourself in the most positive and attractive ways, are 'Outer Game' aspects - not to be ignored, certainly, but nowhere near as urgent or important!

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my Suggestion is build up on your inner game.
Good advice! :)
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Go to the Gym, find work, buy new clothing, whatevers you need to do....
Its not just about picking up chicks(90% of the time it is) its also about bettering yourself. If you need help i'll be Gladly to lend a hand.
Clearly NSR means something different by 'Inner Game' than I would ;)

Please have a look at this post:
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the gym part and clothing wasnt part of the inner game i was talking about. it was other suggestions to help him on his quest. sorry if this confused anyone.

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NSR, all advice is good advice. i think your points were relevant.

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