Oh Im not so sure that is a good idea...girls know what "plastic" means and she prob will find it more offensive than funny.

hmm interesting point sunny haven't really thought of it that way lol thx guys

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ding ding ding!!!! We have a winner!!

Also, sunny and MM had it perfect as well.

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yea, and lets twist it a lil, and if she describes YOU n saids something like, I don't want "you/or your race" would you approach it the same way?

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I'd say just ignore it and move the conversation forward.

Guys waste way too much time reacting to things that can't help them, when she's disqualifying you and you react to it you empower the frame that she's the selector. Even if you have a great witty comeback you still buy into the frame that what's she's saying is reasonable.

Not a good call.

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Sin, i honestly wish you would post more since they are always brilliant.

He has a very good point here, if anyone has studied any NLP or anything you will know that people set boundries on what they can do. Like sinn said, if you react to anything that doesnt help you go forward it will only slow your progress.
The attraction code has some stuff in it about this. VinDecarlo refers to it as "shaping" and he means you shape the rules and boundries of a relationship. Even if you react badly (anger, snappy comeback) you are still re-enforcing the point that her action gets a reaction. Sure, a one off it wont really matter, but people constantly subconsciecly "shape" the people around them and the relationships you have with them. You learn how to treat some people, in HS u learnt not to call the giant kid with the big fists and short temper stupid... extreem example but you get the idea.


Madals - currently considering writing a longer post on this idea....

Agreed. This is why I'd just laugh and smile, because it's not a big deal, I just think it's funny and then keep talking.

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i thought about saying nothing -_- but then my afc self told me "what if.." sometimes you gotta go with your first instinct. Great info, keep it coming guys

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I would just ignore it. Or I would just say something in one or two words to reply and continue the conversation. Alpha .
And I totally agree with Sinn.

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tell her you think thats really shallow, and she'll never meet anyone whos good for anything that way.

then spit in her eye

I also agree abut ignoring it.

I'm not sure if I would worry too much if she found it offensive because if she did, then I would probably point out to her what psychologists say and that is that all girls are nothing but sex objects and all guys are supposed to be success objects and by her definition she is basically saying that she agrees with what psychologists say and if she were to agree with what they say, then I would probably tell her to bend over and take it in the ass like the good little bitch she is supposed to be according to psychology.

That is how I might choose to play it from that angle if it were really severe, but personally I would probably choose another and more funny angle like what Ross might tend to do and that is to play upon the gay angle.

I'm not sure, but I think that the conversation might play out something like this.


HB: I only go for hot guys.
Me: Me too, isn't that funny. What do you say that we go and find some together?


From that point I would probably just take her by the arm and pretend that we were out looking for hot guys together and then after I have embarassed the hell out of her I would probably pull the old switcheroo and just like magic turn back into a straight guy again and tell her that I just wanted to see if she really had much of a personality of if her looks were all that she had going for her.

I guess that you could say that it is kind of a combination of what Ross and Mystery might do, but only hammed up even further just to embarass the hell out of her and to make her think about what she just said and did a little bit.

These are just possible ways that I might go about it, but it is not definite as I would really have to be there and to experience it first hand to really decide on the correct course of action to take.

I just thought that I would throw in my two cents worth regarding this issue.

I forgot to mention that another way that I might choose to play that is as if I were Milton Erickson or Richard Bandler and as if she is client by asking questions and eliciting her responses much in the same way that a therapist might do it, but as I said before it is difficult to say as to what I would do as it would have to depend on the girl, her attitude, the environment, and of course my overall mood at the time.

If I'm in a bitchy asshole mood at the time, then I might pull the first routine. If I'm in more of a playful mood, then I might play the gay guy routine like Ross likes to do.

And if it is either in a work environment or some other environment where neither routine is appropriate, or if I am just not that much into it then I might just pull the therapist routine on her.

I guess that you would have to say that it would depend on a lot of factors in order for me to decide as to whether to pull a routine of any sort or as to whether or not I would just ignore it, but knowing how I am I probably would have a hard time resisting pulling either the asshole routine or the gay guy routine, just simply because I have a seen a lot of good looking girls out there and even girls that are not so good looking who tend to think that their shit don't stink.

I just thought of this.

"Just hot? Well I guess I can see why. You wanna stick to your league. Although maybe if you step up your game you can start getting the absolutely gorgeous guys like me! It's good to have goals you know."

I'm not sure if that would work or not. It's possible, but depending on what she looked like and as to how she was saying it can and will make all of the difference. If her attitude is genuinely mean spirited in nature and if she is saying it without a smile on her face then I might try something that might go like this.

HB: I only go for hot guys.
Me: Well I can see why. You've got the biggest feet in the world and judging by those shoes I am pretty damn sure that I can do the back stroke in them, and that is not too mention as to how hairy you are all over. Damn dude, are you like perhaps related to bigfoot in any way, cause you sure are hairy as hell, got the biggest feet that I have ever seen, and oh yeah did I forget to mention that you smell big time. I don't know about you, but if I were you I would consider taking a bath at least once in this lifetime, cause damn dude, you smell.


Well, that is just one possible way that I might choose to handle it and that is if she is really mean, but without actually being there it is hard to say as to what I would really do, because that is the sort of thing that can only be gauged in person. Sitting around discussing possible scenario's that have not happened just don't work as you have nothing in which to go by and to use as a frame of reference.


Part of it is going to depend on the girl herself, her attitude, her body language, and both to the environment that you are both in as well as the energy level that is produced by both the environment and by the interaction itself to determine the right course of action.

The list of possible ways to handle this are litterally endless in nature at least in my opinion.




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