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PostPosted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 6:44 pm 
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I have a girlfriend for three weeks now. Last friday we had an argument and I went out to the club last friday with my friends (yes here in Slovenia we also have clubs for minors - something like that). I got pretty drunk and then I was with two girls (making out). My girlfriend won't find out because she goes to another school and hangs out with other people. Thank god. But I'm planning on leaving her because... well that's a whole different story.
Here's the problem: Im known as a player. That's good in some way. But it happened before that I cheated on my girlfriend (two times - dont judge; I was in really really complicated and strange situations). How do I show these girls on my school that I'm not just a player so I can build more comfort with them?? Because attraction is here. I just need more comfort. Ou and... does anyone know a good excuse to say why you cheated your girlfriend?

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Maybe you should be honest with these girls and let them know from the beginning that you do not seek monogamy, but instead, you want to keep it open. If you're leading the girls to believe that the relationship you have with them is serious, special, and loyal, and then you go out and break that trust, you're not a PUA, just an inconsiderate ass. "Leave them better than you found them." Be straightforward in the beginning and it should work out.

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Amen to that! If your good enough you don't need to lie.
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No.

Maybe you should be honest with these girls and let them know from the beginning that you do not seek monogamy, but instead, you want to keep it open. If you're leading the girls to believe that the relationship you have with them is serious, special, and loyal, and then you go out and break that trust, you're not a PUA, just an inconsiderate ass. "Leave them better than you found them." Be straightforward in the beginning and it should work out.
The girls know that if they are going to be with me its probably not going to be a serious relationship. I wouldn't tell the girl oh baby I love you so very much, I would never ever break your heart if I wouldn't mean it. Just to make that clear. :D

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most girls wont mind the open relationship thing if u present it right...
if they call u a player you can turn in back on them by exaggerating on what a good player u are and tease them
but man this is the pickup artist forum not the player forum so start being honest ... its the pua way
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My last GF freaked out and left me because I was flirting with other girls too :lol:. You have no idea how much I laughed at her after that..., and as a side-effect of the laughs, she thinks of me as a total A-hole.

Anyway, I have that player 'problem' too. Alot of people see me as a 'player' and sometimes they even SAY it out loud when I pass them, which isn't really annoying... But just wait when you hear this.


Recently my friends (including both guys and girls) have been gossip-talking about me being a 'player' behind my back! One of my best mates told me about it and said that I should somehow get rid of the gossip-talk.



So now its been about 2 months since my friend mentioned about the talk me being a 'player', and the situation now is developing in to ALOT WORSE.

For example, some of the girls I know give me discusting looks sometimes out of nowhere, and a HB I just met through my friends responded REALLY GREAT in-person, but then after #closing and me leaving her with some of my friends... She became UNRESPONSIVE AS HELL!


Theres HUGE gossip-talks about ME between my friends! Its so complicated that its even funny :lol:!


Anyway now how to get rid of the problem is to simply state that you are not a 'player', you just think of flirting and being around girls as "how you feel", for example flirting with girls is fun and really enjoyable for me.

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My last GF freaked out and left me because I was flirting with other girls too :lol:. You have no idea how much I laughed at her after that..., and as a side-effect of the laughs, she thinks of me as a total A-hole.

Anyway, I have that player 'problem' too. Alot of people see me as a 'player' and sometimes they even SAY it out loud when I pass them, which isn't really annoying... But just wait when you hear this.


Recently my friends (including both guys and girls) have been gossip-talking about me being a 'player' behind my back! One of my best mates told me about it and said that I should somehow get rid of the gossip-talk.




So now its been about 2 months since my friend mentioned about the talk me being a 'player', and the situation now is developing in to ALOT WORSE.

For example, some of the girls I know give me discusting looks sometimes out of nowhere, and a HB I just met through my friends responded REALLY GREAT in-person, but then after #closing and me leaving her with some of my friends... She became UNRESPONSIVE AS HELL!


Theres HUGE gossip-talks about ME between my friends! Its so complicated that its even funny :lol:!


Anyway now how to get rid of the problem is to simply state that you are not a 'player', you just think of flirting and being around girls as "how you feel", for example flirting with girls is fun and really enjoyable for me.


Haha... problems problems. The problem with me is not just flirting.. because every weekend I find another girls for one night stand (making out nothin more.. Im still a teenager so its a lot harder). Many times its not just one. So at school everybody knows :? :) . Today I was meeting an HB8 and she mentioned that she heard all those things about me. Grrr xD.
Im just trying to connect with girls, build more trust etc.

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You are making it look alot more bigger than it really is.

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If your european being labelled a player is a hard thing to do, do not commit to any relationships you have no need for it. The only reason the label is coming up is because it seems like you constantly cheat on someone.

From personal experience girls in europe wont think it a relationship until you basically say that to them that thats what your looking for. Ive got to say this whole community needs a reality check when it comes to picking up girls. Follow the rules! Leave them better than you found them!


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