Hey guys,

This is my first post and i've found out the community a few weeks ago.

Me and my cousin met 2 HB last week at a bar. The one i aimed at was just about to move, in the next day, to another city, for work. We've plenty of friends in common and her family lives at my city. She'll be coming here and i've to go once in a while to her new city for work. The thing is we had some good conversation at the bar. I gave her my phone and she wrote down her contact including full name, cell phone and email/MSN. After an hour or so we took them off the bar in our car to a reserved place. I start making out with her and she wasn't shy on letting me know how happy she was. Kept telling she was really enjoying and bla bla bla ... Afterwards, she drove me home and was saying that she was really sad she was leaving the next day but that she didn't want it to end. That she really want to see me again and all that shit. And then before i leave, she asked me to call her the next day to give her good luck on the trip ... and i did. On the phone we decided that i'd send her an email with my contacts and add her on MSN. So i was gonna wait a week before doing so, but she found me on a relationship website and added me as a friend in the next day. After that, in the same day i emailed her. We had a super quick chat on MSN and i decided to not contact her anymore, until she come after me. Not even was showing online on MSN. So last night she SMS me saying she thinks about me and asking how i'm doing and stuff.
Now i come here to ask what should i reply to her? I want her to be totally on me, she's probably the hottest chick i've dated and besides that, she's super cool and smart.
I'm a noob on the PUA stuff so it's hard to see which way to follow ...

And yeah, sorry for the long first post guys ...

from your description she's 100% into you at this point you really don't have to play so hard to get. Talk to her as you would any other person. the whole playing hard to get stuff has it's place in the game but you should be past that from the sounds of it .. plus you guys are already limited from seeing each other so that should be plenty of sexual tension do to it

yeah she seems into you. Now this is the point where you wanna decided. Do you wanna stay with just this one chick "one-itis" or do you wanna see other chicks to?

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And then before i leave, she asked me to call her the next day to give her good luck on the trip ... and i did.

This was your first mistake. This is equivalent to her saying jump and you responding with 'how high'. I would have called her after she got to the destination and asked if everything went smoothly.

So i was gonna wait a week before doing so, but she found me on a relationship website and added me as a friend in the next day. After that, in the same day i emailed her.

I would have waited a couple of days before emailing her, you seem a bit to 'anxious' here.

We had a super quick chat on MSN and i decided to not contact her anymore, until she come after me. Not even was showing online on MSN.

Perfect...


Now i come here to ask what should i reply to her? I want her to be totally on me, she's probably the hottest chick i've dated and besides that, she's super cool and smart.

Keep in mind that she lives in another city, don't devote to much time and energy into it. I recommend you focus on the girls you can see everyday (if you choose) and eventually 'lay'.

She is not the only hot, super cool or smart chick you will encounter. Don't 'over value' this chick right away, to many guys make this mistake.

If keeping her around on a 'f buddy' status is your goal, show some interest without acting needy or clingy. You want to come across as a confident man with 'options'. Girls have trouble 'not' being attracted to a man with these qualities.

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Just have to be careful playing to hard to get, it could easily backfire.

waiting a week to call a person that has already showed full interest i would say is a bit much a few day in between calls is ok, a week is a stretch

it's cool to touch base every so often, just be quick with her it show interest just enough to know you still have her on your mind but not enough for her to think to much of it



it's all about balance

Thanks for the replies guys, much appreciated.

I really don't want focus all my power on her, all i want is make sure to keep her on the track for a near future. I've a gf and that's been keeping me busy. Besides i've been going out with my friends sarging and am having some good times. BUT this chick seems to worth a lil' bit more attention than the other chicks i've dated lately, well at least looks like i want to give her more attention (i wish i didn't want to) ... arg. I guess this is exactly what i shoudn't want to do ...

I won't do anything out of the book though. What would you guys suggest me as my next step? Should i SMS her back? Email? When? She SMS me last night ...

Thanks for the patience dealing with another noob ...

i would call maybe 2 or 3 days after the last conversation you had

in this situation you're just want to keep in contact every so often

Since its long-distance it could be once a week or so depends really what your looking for if you want to go see her soon you'll need to keep in more contact

Yeah, i'll contact her today or tomorrow the latest. But i'm questioning myself about what to say to her. Anyone can help me out here? Any clues on something i should focus the conversation on ... ?

what about trying to add value to yourself, fleut a bit with her and then make out like you have to because you're busy doing something cool

come out with some cool story how you're taking up a new hobby or something or tell her your mates in a mate's really upset and you're sorting him out (these aren't great examples but you get the idea)

I guess if you are not going to see her that often you can afford to elaborate (fleurt) a bit more because its less likely to come back ans haunt you??

just some thoughts

R

she's already giving you approval, at this point you don't really have to think abotu it so much she wants you so in less you complete do something wrong your fine your thinking way to hard about this

once the attraction is there i find that it's pretty simple to keep them interested

i dont know about your advice sinful

regulary yea thats how you play it but when the girl is out of sight your out of mind. shes having alot of new shit around her if she just moved it would be easy to forget about the dude she met 2 days ago if u hadnt sent her an email or a text or anything.

so i say your playing it well so far, she obviously interested.i'll give u a killer line once you get to know her alot better, after she reveals something epic or insightful (ex: i guess i always wanted to live in new york, its so big bla bla bla) tell her "i'm glad i got to know you" she'll think about you for days.

cheers and gl.

Guys, here's what i did.

I waited long time until sat. Her phone wa already off. She switched numbers. So i emailed her on sun. night saying i tried to ring her with no success. In 10 min. she replied me with her new cell phone and home number as well. Also she said that she misses me an stuff. I'm pretty sure she thought i was gonna call her right away, but i was out with the gf and some friends for dinner. I waited to call on mon. I was gonna call her at night, but apparently she couldn't wait and SMS me asking if i was OK when i was planning on going to her new city, that she really really wants to see me a lot and if i have received her contacts. I was out with my friends and got home pretty late and kinda drunk so i'm calling her tonight.

I guess i'll have to buy a plane ticket soon ... hope all goes well on the phone call ...

Guys, i need more help here please ...

So i've called her on tue. night. She answered after one single ring ALL excited and yelling. I was caught on surprise, once i was totally not expecting such excitement from her. Anyways we talked for about a lil' more than 10 min. and it was wuite fun 'cause my friend called me 3 times while we're talking on my other line, so i told her i had to get him and ask her to wait ... hehe. The next day she created an account on FB (i've told her about FB) and added me as a friend.

Now i've a meetings on her town on sun and mon. I emailed her saying there was a possibility for me to arrive on sat. I told as everything was setup i was gonna call and explain why i'm going and stuff. She replied me back in about 30 saying "yes yes lets meet up ..." ...

I know there's a lot of positive signs that i should be comfortable with, but for some reason i'm not. Why's that? What should i do? I think i'm just afraid of calling her and she has other plans or ditch me or something. Wrong i know, but that feeling is inside of me ...

Help me guys, please ...

in this situation, be complety honest, go hang out with her, fluff for awhile, enjoy yourself, then as you guys are parting be like 'so, how far am i at this point' with a nice smile, you have to talk about the distance situation abit during whatever you do, then be like 'does ___ amount of face time qualify me for a kiss goodnight?" and then she'll say something teasing or blatantly inviting, kiss and move from there.

gl man.