I've been wondering about something lately...
Does RJ's "leave her better than you found her" philosophy apply unconditionally, or can you make an exception for an ex who's ripped your heart out?
Actually, I already know the answer to this... But I still REALLY want to game her and rip her heart out now that I think I stand a chance.

How do you get rid of this type of anger and constant craving for revenge?
I don't love her anymore, I'm just pissed off and I tend to support the idea of "an eye for an eye".

We've all been there. Only one girl has ever broken my heart, and she didn't just break it, she tore it into pieces. We still talk and she always goes on about how sorry she is, how she still loves me, how it was the biggest mistake she ever made, how she wil never forgive herself. It would be so easy to manipulate her and do to her what she did to me, but I choose not to. Why? Because it wouldn't make me any happier. I've changed a lot since then and I actually thank her for what she did now, because in all honesty it was the best thing that ever happened to me. If it wasn't for her doing the things she did, I wouldn't have made any changes in my life and I wouldn't be sitting here... I'd probably still be in a relationship with her, bored, frustrated, supplicant. Think about that and ask yourself, do you really want to get revenge and would it honestly make you happy? Answer this question only to yourself.

I second that. I myself just had my heart trampled by a girl. I thought I loved her, but the mere thought of her put poison in my veins. What I did, and am trying to do, is literally stop caring. You don't want to get "revenge" on her, because I tried doing the same thing, and I only found out that is she's got any resolve she can turn the tables on you pretty quickly, and life is just too short for that.

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dude, she called me last night (its now 5:48am, tueday)
i've been up all night because i'm too pissed off to sleep.
she wanted me to go over to her place and have some wine, and i'm proud to say that i didnt go even though i wouldnt have minded some sexy time.
so now i sit here, pissed off and confused.
pissed off at her, and confused because i'm not sure what else this is im feeling.
did i maybe just get my revenge and closure by being decent?

hxc87x quick thing,
ex girl to the next girl (gangstar) good song

ok i love revenge but ask yourself if you want to enact revenge towards her how should you do it focus your energies in another manner

1. you can fuck her and leave in the middle laughing........ nut in her house on the way out (some real shit)

2. find another girl (thats why you are on this forum) and you can this is the most rational and clear headed option

3. i dont even know what else you can do but im pretty sure you got a few things in your noodle

my point being is that you have options revenge is never a straight line but the journey of revenge is a winded road and some people get lost in it dont worry yourself with her any time or energy directly diverted towards hurting her is pointless channel that energy cradle it and use it as a force to pick up new bitties she is already confused herself she is realizing day by day it was a mistake and if she isnt she will as a matter of fact ...................
DOCTORS ORDERS :
go open a few bitties (girls)
get some numbers
handle the business with at the least 3 women and then we will talk and re-evaluate how you feel

The problem is that you guys aren't jaded enough. You gotta just live for a while, go through some relationships and just accept the fact that people break up. And let me tell you . . . hx, you're still F'd up emotionally so you might not be able to do this but for the rest of you, think back to "broken heart" situations. I bet you'll realize now that it was more "your" fault than you've led yourselves to believe. You were probably too needy. You were too "nice" . . You were too AFC. There's probably something there. Guys, we have MUCH more control than you think! When I think about those "situations" in my life, all I can do is laugh. I mean really laugh.

When I was a freshman, I asked out a senior who shot me down. Just for that, I was . . . ohhhh. . . "hurt". Few years back, she got back in touch with me, I gamed her, F closed her on the very first night, and now we're still good friends and chat once in a while.

HX, if you're 16 and this is the way your emotions roll, I feel for you. You're a young man. But I hope you can work through these things as you grow up. There is absolutely nothing more AFC than some 30 year old guy getting all worked up over some girl. It's about the most powerful chick repellent you can spray on yourself.

You haven't accepted the fact that women do not say and behave the way they feel. They say they're going out to buy socks but they come home with ear rings. They say they hate _____ and ______, but when you see those girls at a bar, she's smiling and complimenting them. Accept women for what they are. If they weren't this way, they'd be men without dicks . . . right?

What did you accomplish by not going over there? She invites you and if you really can't handle it "emotionally", just say, "I'd love to but I'm so tired. Maybe next time." But if you can somehow . . .hm. . . how can I say this . . . remember that you're a MAN, you say, "OK . . ." Go over there, drink wine, romance her, give her an orgasm, have fun. Then where to from here? Well now it would be up to you wouldn't it?

Get over yourself and this "revenge" shit. Leave that crap for insecure chicks and Wussy AFC's.

just had a bit of a sleep.
new day. new world. new girls.
realized a few things though:
1) i was more mad at myself for letting her get to me than i was mad at her. oddly enough, after realizing this i'm not mad anymore
2) she wanted to fuck my brains out (its the 3rd time in the past week where she wanted me to come over that late - after 11pm) and i rejected her. partly because i was mad at her but also because i felt that she wasnt good enough for me, and she isnt. my self confidence and self esteem which she took from me is finally back.
3) im emotionally eccentric and i need to sort that shit out. i cant be unaffected until i find a way to calm the fuck down.

im glad to see your back on top of your outlook on the world

JL's got it straight

sumtimes u just gotta be dark
and fulfill ur evil desires
PUA is the exception to the rule, and no1 dicks around with us

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forgiveness is divine, but never pay full price for late pizza

dood im ALL forz pwning ex gfs.. however if you try to hard it shows that you still care and comes back to bite you in the ass. wait on it.. trust me shes going to let you know when shes down and out,, then you strike

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Why would a man with options try to sabatage the life of one woman who isn't even smart enough to want him? Does he hold her in that high of a regard that if she doesn't want him, he wants to embarass her?

Getting revenge on her does not benefit you in any way. It only hurts her. You're wasting time worrying about somebody who by breaking up with you, is no longer deserving of your attention. Use that time to do something or improve on something that will benefit you.

If she doesn't want you, then she's retarded and you don't have time for retarded girls.