So for the past couple weeks I've been using game on this girl that shares two classes with me, and everything was going alright thus far. I had definitely reached hook point and she showed a lot of IOI's. But today I decided to play myself down and just be myself, because truthfully I was putting on a bit of a show for her since we started talking. So anyways she comes up to me after our first class and gives me a hug, and then asks me to walk her to our next class. We started talking along the way, but I was so poor at keeping conversation that by the end of class she wouldn't even say bye to me.

My confidence level has gotten really low over the past few weeks, mostly due to a lot of girls i've failed gaming the past few months and the general perception I've made for myself in the eyes of others. (I'm immaturely goofy because I have social anxiety to the point where if I don't feel that I'm being entertaining, I'm being boring and won't be accepted. And I honestly can't control this thought process as hard as i try.) Anyways I think for now I'm done trying pickup. I can't seem to get a full grasp on how to apply it in the field, and truthfully it just isn't really for me or my personality. Thanks for all the help you guys have given me over the past few months though, I really did appreciate it.

All I have to say is, don't give up.

You cannot imagine how much I desperately failed and how much shit I got before getting results.

Don't be the guy who signs up for the gym, comes every day for 2 months, then disappears because he gives up.

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Don't worry, you're not alone in that feeling.

Dude you werent being yourself, you were being your AFC self. Dont be a quitter. I use to be like you I thought I was so goofy but I was inconfident cus girls thought I was stupid but guys thought I was funny (so AFC). Let me tell you being a PUA is better, Being an AMOG is 10x better.

you can do it man. you can, you can and you can. Picture yourself months from now when you can pick up almost any girl you want, and remembering that today was the day you almost gave it all up, but did not, because you know you can make it. Remember this isn't even about girls anymore, it's about making yourself the best you can be in all situations. The journey might not always be easy, but it sure as hell is life changing.

I honestly wouldn't even know how to get back on my feet if I was to try to become a PUA again. I've completely reverted back from an rAFC to an AFC. Today I was approached by several friends of mine, (some girls), and my heart was racing to the point where I couldn't get out more than 5 words. I'm lost.

I dont know if it will work for you but it did for me...

Imagine that you walk up to a two set that you dont even know then you open, they smile and show you IOIs , you have a conversation with them and BAM you kiss close one of them.

Offcourse your going to have to modify that to your own imagination and put more detail into that but it should work.

The point is to visualize success I do it all the time, so do other people and we get good results but you have to do it frequantly or else it wont work.

I'm not in the PUA lifestyle to imagine, I'm in it to make it a reality.

The point is to visualize success I do it all the time, so do other people and we get good results but you have to do it frequantly or else it wont work. (I forgot to put this before you replied)

dude ross jeffriess and alot of other gurus tell you to visualize. You have no idea how powerful your mind is.

While that may raise my self esteem, it still won't help my communication skills. Up until a few days ago I had minimized my social anxiety to a pretty decent degree. Though I found myself still having trouble keeping the topics interesting or knowing what's right or wrong to talk about. At this point, I'm so wrapped up in trying to figure out what to talk about with people that even a question like "hey, how've you been" is leaving me stressed and jaded because I don't know how to answer it properly as a PUA. At this point I've become mute in real life, I'll throw a wave and say hi but that's it.

O ok i understand your problem now

Look I use to have the same problem, I couldnt think straight, I would freeze up if I didnt know how to respond, when I talked it was as if people werent really paying attention to me. Well what I started doing (after talking about this problem in the PUA Chat) is not giving a shit anymore.

You see your problem is that your thinking about gaming too much. Just stop thinking about gaming and have this dont give a shit attitude. hope it helps.

Don't quit if you aren't getting success. I am still here and I have done maybe 2 cold approaches since I joined here a couple months ago, but I am still here because I know once I get over what keeps me from gaming I will be very successful, it's that confidence that keeps me going.

And just with everything else, to become good at the game you must find your own style and perfect it to your liking. That takes time and dedication, but after all nothing comes for free.

Chenkins, it seems you're lamenting over how much you suck without really coming to a conclusion. If that's really how you feel about yourself then I'm not surprised that you are not getting results. Bring yourself off the ground and get your act together. Tell yourself that you're the shit and you will be the shit.

If all you are going to do for pickup is get attention on the forums by typing up your miseries then, hell, you're not going to last a long time with both women and us. SMILE. That's the first and most important step.

And change that profile pic. Even that's depressing about you.

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i'll be brutally honest with you bud, quit, cause your not mentally built for it.. you suck entirely if you cant take advice constructively... you posted this for attention.. and everyone here, mostly, is trying to boost you up and your just feeding off us...

Looking running game, and making yourself a prize is fucking hard at first. dont be a bitch because a chick flaked on you cause you werent prepared.

And i can tell you what you did wrong cause it happen to me last nite. Know your que. When to fucking leave, when to shut up, and so forth. I got downplayed by a afc on a gd cellphone bitch show'd me no attention even when i froze her out. i took it personaly and i was doomed, now im in the lbjf part, but... it turned out cause she's fucking alot of dudes at work... and i dont want on the ho-train


you take it personal, you lose.. the moment you do they sense it.. and your done. next time at least for you, when a girl starts a conversation and you feel stupid shit coming on. or a loss for words, just get quiet and focus elsewhere, if she digs you.. she'll reintiate convo with you with something that is interesting to her... stop being afc, start being a man.

Step back and calibrate.

Woah... Milinko. We posted like the same thing at the same time.

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