What not to talk about on a first date?



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PostPosted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 10:30 pm 
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PUA's I'd like to know what you all think aren't appropriate things to discuss while on a first date. I just had a lunch date, and we actually ended up discussing how guys are friend zoned and shit at one point. It's stuff like that I'm mostly unsure about being ok to talk about. Whaddya think?


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PostPosted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 10:39 pm 
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Politics, religion, things that bore you, gross stuff like eating bugs or whatever, and anything that promotes negative feelings.

Talking about guys that are friend-zoned? It all depends on how you did it and how you patterned your languaging...and what you were pointing at lol.


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PostPosted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 10:58 pm 
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Politics, religion, things that bore you, gross stuff like eating bugs or whatever, and anything that promotes negative feelings.

Talking about guys that are friend-zoned? It all depends on how you did it and how you patterned your languaging...and what you were pointing at lol.
we basically both discussed the types of people we dated. at which point i talked about how they didnt meet my standards and how one of them became obsessive over me. none of this was spoken in a bragging way mind you. it was a mature and humorous discussion on the matter. eventually we talked about a mutual close friend of ours (a guy), and asked if they had ever dated. She laughed at the idea and talked about how he was too much of a friend to consider a sexual partner. Then we chatted a little about other guys she's friend zoned for another minute or two, and moved on with the conversation.


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PostPosted: Wed Sep 24, 2008 11:05 pm 
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yep dont talk about anything negative!
also make the date fun like going bowling for example you will come up with alot of interesting things to talk about while bowling and you wont need to think about what not to say

well thats what i do and it works


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PostPosted: Thu Sep 25, 2008 3:34 am 
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Juggler suggests that there is a balance of conversation between man and woman. If she is only giving 10% of the conversation, you must supplement with the other 90%. Likewise if she’s giving you 90%, you should hold back to only 10%. He says the worst thing you can do on a first date is leave long awkward boring pauses or be constantly speaking over and interrupting her. I think that this is the most important part of conversation on the first date, and where most men go wrong.
He also suggests to turn any conversation around as an opportunity to DHV.
Example
Her: What do you think of all the mudslinging between the presidential nominees?
You: It’s terrible. I remember when I was running for class president in high school that my opponent said all kind of terrible things about me, but I didn’t respond and in the end I won and I could still hold my head up high in the end.

You didn’t really follow her lead, you went off on a tangent about yourself.


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PostPosted: Thu Sep 25, 2008 3:46 am 
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Politics, religion, things that bore you, gross stuff like eating bugs or whatever, and anything that promotes negative feelings.
I have brought up eating bugs on the first date with girls. They didn't run and getting the second one was pretty dam easy as they pretty much asked for it. :P


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