| im really quite lost... and im a noob at this haha
so here it goes:
girls are attracted to me. i have good game and can easily increase attraction levels with females. so... girl chases me and is extrememly attracted to me, keeps on chasing, she is very nice, sweet, beautiful and caring. i play hard to get. we get together. she loves me, u can tell she loves me a lot... i love her a lot too... unfortuantely i take her for granted, time passes, she breaks up with me.
now lets get one thing straight she loved me heaps, so did i. it was the biggest rollercoaster relationship ive ever had. the peak was amazing, we were there for 6 months, the next 4 months were a steady decline for a number of reasons. in those 4 months she tried very hard in the relationship, but i lost focus. other things in my life started to get to me, so my game died, and my priorities went up side down. she always made it very clear to me that she loved me a lot. often u can tell she was ready to spend the rest of her life with me...
now i know things change, but the fact is when i had my head screwed on it was amazing. when i lost it, it obviously affected our relationship dramatically. she lost her feelings for me.
unfortunately ive now gone thru all the common mistakes, crying like a girl at her loss, whining, begging etc.
so yesterday i go to town to buy myself some new gear, u know, freshn up a bit. guess who i see? yes... my ex, with another guy. its been about 2 months give or take since we broke up. i talked to her when i saw her in town. was awkward.
anyway, today is sunday, and the weekend has passed. i saw her on the saturday, and she was most likely expecting me to bombard her with aggressive txt's and calls... but i didnt. today, for the first time in a long time, she tries calling me up once, twice, then sends me a txt explaining who he was. this is basically what she said (theyve known eachother for about 2 weeks max):
he is seriously just a friend. we were both interested in eachother, but he is going overseas, so theres no point in starting anything and then getting hurt when he leaves. so we are just friends.
so ok, i can accept that, no matter how hard it is... basically if he wasnt going anywhere, they would be looking at getting their relationship going.
i didnt not respond to what she said. an hour later she tried calling again. i didnt answer the phone again.
what the hell do i do?
i am reserved to the fact that i may never be with her again. fair enough. but at the same time i would still like to keep the door slighly ajar, just in case. i dont want to focus entirely on her, i have my life to live, but i would like, without sounding bad, use her to see if i can successfully manage certain techniques and methods to increase the chance of actually opening that door.
what is a good way of messing about with a girls head? they can be very clever when it comes to arguing, they come up with great angles and can corner you. so arguing is definately out of the question as they always have something up their sleeve, and arguing in general can make us look needy and desperate...
do i just keep silent? and let her mind go into overload
do i rip firmly into her and let her know how cruel she has been?
any ideas?
i do love this girl and would like to have her again, but i need to be crafty. ive sorted out all my problems now... unfortunately it took the breakup to realise why things failed so abruptly.
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