slamming chick opened her, got her number, and i've now hung out with her twice. Problem is i digg her, a lot, i'm talking to her and wanting to run game and i'm in awe because i continue to hear what i like. Now i've hung out with her twice and i have only run like two rutiens and nothing that has built up almost any kino. I mean, i'm usually very good with what to say and when, but i never care about the chick, but right now i want to game her not just to get in bed. For the first time this girls looks are secondary to her personality. I'm in foreign territory.... anyone been here before?

P.s.

I know i shouldn't care about the girl, i should just be gaming girls not spasific ones but i've been gaming long enough. I want this one, like a unicorn or something

Dude as hard as this is to put into practice when your gaming for a LTR you have to remember it. Don't be afraid to lose her..Why? Because if you're not afraid to lose her then you wont comprise the way you would normally act around girls.

Therefore if you normally have success gaming girls being yourself then chances are you'll successfully game her by doing what you always do and adapting some things to suit the girl your after. Your emotions generally make you do lame arse AFC stuff, but just be confident and have FUN.

Hope that make sense bro

i was just in your stage and i'm in the LTR now.

my advice:
Don't revert to AFC techniques. you are gonna be tempted the more you talk to her and she shows interest. i repeat, do NOT revert to AFC. stay PUA. One thing you might want to do is work a little more qualification now that you are interested in an LTR. ease up on the negs, and show her that you MIGHT be interested in her for the right reasons, but she still has to earn you. push/pull a little bit.

i suggest checking out the Relationships forum that Locke created. some of the rules do change a bit when you are in LTR, but the main themes stay the same. I made an interesting thread on this topic as well, because i felt like i was getting oneitus for the HB i'm with right now. turns out it's just an LTR, and i'm still a PUA. that was a relief.

let me know if you need anymore advice.

yeah i've been trying to use push-pulls a little more when i talk to her. trying to make it more playful, because everything i've been doing with this girl is soooo AFC... and i know i'm doing it and i can't help myself... i second guess everything.... its just odd and i don't like how it makes me feel.... i feel like i'm in highschool again, or like i feel like she should when i game her not the other way around.... this is killing me

i sound like such a fucking chump haha


but let me clarify, i'm not saying i want to get into a LTR, i'm just saying i don't want to game this girl just to fuck her. if that makes sence. I just reall digg her and i find my self slipping into AFC type actions as a result.

you said you can't help yourself, but i don't buy it.

you CAN help yourself. it's just a matter of whether or not you WILL help yourself. What's more important to you? being PUA or getting the HB?

regardless of what you want from her, whether it be sex, LTR, friendship, or even just someone to pay for your dinner once in a while, being a PUA is what will get you there. being AFC is going to move you further from your goal.

in fact, your goal should never be the HB. as a PUA it's all about the lifestyle, never the HB. this way you become outcome-independent.

i think the reason why some PUA's revert back to AFC and get oneitus is that they don't realize just how powerful being a PUA is. As a PUA if you are aware of all the other HB's you can get, then you wouldn't be so obsessed with this particular one. The truth is all HB's have good qualities and bad, and sometimes we are blinded and think that one particular HB is "perfect" for us or whatever. Don't buy into it, nobody's perfect for each other. You just try to find someone that fits with you enough that you will both be motivated to minimize your differences.