you need to go straight into your opener...
' hey i was just looking for someone who has a combination of wisdom and personality, im a pretty good judge of character (but ive been fooled before

) and you may be able to offer me some help.
Now i dont know you , so this allows you to be as open and honest as possible.... just be gentle
the thing is this...
.... insert opinion opener here... BUT break it down. ask one question, get answer, send another, sned another etc. THIS IS VERY IMPORATNT....
for 2 reasons....
1. keeps them hanging on waiting for next question...
2. allows you to write after several interactions 'i am sick of writing emails - be easier to give me your msn.... (but make this funny, and witty - you can think of your own...)
im not spoon feeding anymore... unless you sign up here