Lol, the lipstick is also great for preselection.

1) Depends on what type of person you are to her first of all. If you aren't very humorous and playful to begin with, then it might not work.

2) DELIVERY, how you say it will count. Your body language when you say it counts. Are you letting her know that you're joking right after you get her first reaction??

3) Push/Pull. follow the neg up. You don't always have to neg. If you do it too much then you come off as a jerk off.

But overall. Good playful neg.

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Yeah guys I get a little confused on the neg's...I understand the purpose of them but for some reason im scared of crashing and burning the whole situation because i'll be looked at as a cocky dick not cocky funny. The "i like your dress I think i seen a girl wearing it yesterday" is very good because your saying you like it but its a little bit of an insult which doesn't look like you even meant it. But like saying "you wear to much makeup" could embarrass her? Wouldn't that ruin the whole idea, because she would probably avoid you, especially if she didn't know you because she already knows you think she wears to much make up. I guess if you covered it up with "it brings out the beauty in your eyes tho" it would work but i just don't know. Im not saying this wouldn't work im just a little confused on how far to take a neg with a girl you JUST met.

Mmm good point. i like how this guy critizes the current topic and posts, but gives no answer and help for those asking on the right way to neg a girl and when a neg should be used.
Thats us aussies for ya!

Actually that criticism sucks ass.
Actually negs could simply be 'making fun of her'.
Actually you shouldn't even be in topics about 'canned negs'.

But there can be more in to negging, so I'll quote myself from this topic: And now to your question about when to neg and how, Crackles, so I'll quote myself from this topic again: This basically means that neg also could be used as a punishment. You can punish your girl for doing something you don't like, which causes her to avoid doing the thing which got that neg reaction out of you.

And now, how to define and regonise a punishing neg:

A punishing neg is said with no smile and then IOD (Turn your back at her, walk away, whatever is your IOD)
Now whereas a playful neg is a funny thing said with a smile and maybe added with a slight laugh in it.

You can throw alot of playful negs, its like making fun of her. Teasing her.

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hmmmm could work. test it out!

Okay first of all... If you are getting a hug aren't you past negs? When Mystery talks about disqualification theory he's talking about negs. When he started using negs was when he got tired of trying and they worked. He figured he would disqualify himself before she did and by DHV afterwards it actually made them want him. When you are working a set you want to neg the target and then DHV the other girl through storytelling and make the target want to be involved. Then you keep shutting the target down playfully. I personally like to start by saying in a C&F way "I'll get to you in a minute." When she pipes up again I like to point at her and give her the evil eye with a crooked grin on my face like she's in trouble but she's not. Eventually you involve the target and transition to sarging her. In the beginning it appears as though you are hitting on the friend. My thought is that a hug is for the comfort phases not attraction. The only thing that I can think of is if you have seen her/talked to her before and give a casual friendly hug. Evaluation: it's a situational neg to keep in your bag of tricks but you won't get to use it very often.

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Sorry my friend but I have to say, this is a pretty terrible neg. Good idea but there's very few women you can work this on without implying that they're ugly fucks or that they put on makeup like a preteen. This isn't a neg, it's a straight up insult. Keep it lighter and less personal and I think you'll get a better response.

agreed. this is more something you'd say to a close friend or someone who you know can handle a lot of teasing and negging. generally not a good idea though

however, if you're feeling pretty brave and exceptionally playful then you'll most probably be able to get away with it, depending on the delivery.

i still dont like the idea much, but if anyone cares to try, this is how i think it could be pulled off:

you can generally see whether a girl has plastered her face with make up, so the lead in would be you hinting at liking natural beauty (without even mentioning her make-up), then you'd get your hug, look down and brush off your chest. she'll most likely ask what's up and depending on her attitude at that exact moment you can either go with "cooties" (a personal favourite) or "your make up".

Listen up you dudes need to choose your negs carefully. Im pretty experienced with this shit and ive been slapped by some and told to fuck off and all that shit...but other girls think the same neg is funny. Its all in how you say it...say ALL of them with a smile...which is rule number 1. and dont make your first neg at her a huge one. Make it simple like would you like a piece of gum or something stupid. Dont tell her her shoes are fucking ugly. Thats not even a neg thats just a dick move. Make sure you read her reaction on the first neg. Some girls you can go farther with worse ones and some just have to be little, like you would look better with your hair up/down...you know shit like that.

The original post is from 2006. Read Forum Rule #1, Eaza.