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As to your post, you could try and state the obvious like, "Wow, this is so strange meeting here I mean you are like the girl from the airplane, I never meet people like this". If thats the way she feels, she will be like, "Oh so true blah blah", and she will be comforted by the fact that she is not the only one feeling 'uncomfortable'.
Totally, but I didnt want to do this while setting up the date. I think that would have made the date actually awkward.
Anyway, met with today for lunch and it went goooood. Kept her laughing most of the lunch, but tried to calm it down at points to get in some 'comfort building' (due to some responses to posts i have made i no longer have faith in my terminology.. not that i ever did). One thing i tried was to hold eye contact for a 'second' longer than i should, as if i was really gazing into her eyes. (not sure this did much, we'll see). I also did some mirroring and went in for some kino (kino seems to be mandatory for the transition into intimacy.. stated like that it seems so blatantly obvious, but the point still stands). some DHV happened for sure, attempted to drop very important facts, but provide very little detail, while following up with that sort of thing doesnt matter much, the real value lays in 'X"
--(responding to a huge 'natural game' trend that i have seen expressed in this forum. Much of what i say in this bits is often how o feel, so in some sense i am being 'natural about my views' however, i am attempting to use said statements ina tool-like manner, that has been illustrated to be successful. In this sense i feel like i am relying on 'canned' material. Not entirely canned, as it is unique to me, but canned in the sense that it is a 'routine' or 'guidelines often applied to routines' that it is at least plastic wrapped by someone and sold somewhere - in case this metaphor fails, i am using preconceived routines to maximize positive response.. this makes me feel like my material is semi-canned. )--
All in all an awesome lunch date with this girl. Of all the dates I have had this week - this is not an exageration, but i am using the term loosely as outlined in Neil S' second book, which reads more of a challenge. I already won and i only played the first chapter... i should still read the rest though.
Not much else to note.. i did bait her into stating herself, i never did (dont think =\... well not first i think, at least) that we need to have a second date (actually, this reminds me. She kept talking about this place she loved to have dinner at, i didnt take the bait. Then when she said we would have to 'eat' again in the future, i kept it simple and said of course we needed to have lunch again. Mighta been a bad reply, but i hope this keeps her anxious for her dinner date, which is clearly coming up)
Kinda lost - havent been thinking about the forum lately as i am very distracted / busy in life. But, awesome time with her and will continue to provide updates / any obsrevations that are relevant.
gotta jet - might have to edit this later
