| There are two things that can get someone interested, fun and emotion. If I were about to write about economics,I'll just bore the hell out of everybody, cause it isnt fun or emotional as it is for me (I can laugh reading micro economic theory). But lets bring the geek inside me back inside.
The safest way to be interesting and to bring emotion is talking about emotionally charged fun topics. Universally fun and emotionally charged stuff. Cause a lot of guys like things that most people find boring.
So the basic emotions that get people interested are possitive emotions 8or at leas not negative ones). These are the ones that draw the most interest form people:
Affection · Angst · Anticipation · Calmness · Compassion · Confusion · Curiosity · Desire · Disgust · Doubt · Ecstasy · Embarrassment · Enthusiasm · Humiliation · Inspiration · Interest · Surprise · Sympathy · Wonder ·
And if you can deliver a lot of them, wraped in fun, you will be interesting.
So, how to be funny?
Its a hard thing to explain but ther ara acouple theories I've developed that pretty much help people understand it.
If you get in comedycentral.com the first thing you'll see is this:
"You are so not logged in."
[Pause for slight laugh]...or not.
Most people I know agree that thats funny. Why?. Its a fact that you arent logged in, but the guy that came up with that used a whole different logic to say it. I think that laughter erupts when your mind is pulled in two different directions by two different thought processes.
One process is the normal every day borin stuff "Im not logged in". The other one is a process that works normally in every other situation except this one, you are not logged in and you recive a "neg" because of that.
Hope everybody understand what I'm trying to say here....If not let me make it even easier.
Sunday School
Little Mary was not the best student in Sunday School. Usually she slept through the class. One day the teacher called on her while she was napping, ''Tell me, Mary, who created the universe?'' When Mary didn't stir, little Johnny, an altruistic boy seated in the chair behind her, took a pin and jabbed her in the rear. ''God Almighty !'' shouted Mary and the teacher said, ''Very good'' and Mary fell back to sleep.
A while later the teacher asked Mary, ''Who is our Lord and Savior?'' But Mary didn't even stir from her slumber. Once again, Johnny came to the rescue and stuck her again. ''Jesus Christ!'' shouted Mary and the teacher said, ''Very good,'' and Mary fell back to sleep. Then the teacher asked Mary a third question, ''What did Eve say to Adam after she had her twenty-third child?'' And again, Johnny jabbed her with the pin. This time Mary jumped up and shouted, ''If you stick that damn thing in me one more time, I'll break it in half!'' The Teacher fainted.
Hope you laughed...and if not, Fuck I'm not a comedian!!!
Again There are two logics...the normal one... and the sexual one behind it. They pull you in two directions!!...your brain shorcircuits!!!...your mouth opens!!! and you laugh!!!
Maybe some wise-asses will say that I'm wrong (or just plain not funny) but thats the way I think about it, and the way it works for me.
So in any conversation or story you are telling you have to pour in three ingredients:
1. Enthusiasm (dont over do it)
2. Different emotions
3. Fun
About enthusiasm...you dont want to over do it, but you wanna have a lot of it. The definition of "cool" its something that is neither too hot or too cold. So you need to tone it up or down to the desired level.
Whrn you combine Different emotions with fun, the best stuff slip out of your mouth. You cant tease, tell stories, and in general be an interesting guy if you do.
So let me tell you a story so you can see what I'm talking about:
This is a friend's story...its a great example:
The first day at my first job as a teacher I had to go to this girls catholic school. I was a substitute teacher, and I had to fill in for a friend of mine.
He told me "Go to the school and ask for the janitor, he's ussually right in the school entrance so you probably wont have much troble"
When I arrived, I heared the distant buzz of kids and activity....and panicked!!!
It was my fist day as a real teacher!!! my knees were shaking, my palms sweating, and my mouth was as dry as the one of a death row convict in his way to the chair.
Somehow...I got to the entrance and I found the janitor...I asked him where the teacher's louge was.
"Go straigt for...like 50 ft...then turn left, go up the stairs a couple floors, then go left for another 50 feet, go left again and youll be right in front of it."
Despite the janitor's best efforts, I finally found it.
I tapped the door....toc toc
There was no answer
I tapped again toc toc......
Since I was really scared and nervous, I tapped really soft...no one could hear me cause they were talking inside.
So I saw a doorbell right next to the door, that must be the Teacher's lounge doorbell.
I pressed the button.........
The whole school bell rang!!!!
Little girls came out of every classroom with a smile on their faces!!! Angry teachers everywhere!!!
The only way out of it was to hide in a bathroom next to the lounge.
In there I could hear theachers screaming:
"Who was the funny one!!!!" "Girls!!! Go back to your classrooms now, its not recess yet!!!"
5 minutes later, when everything cooled out I went back in front the door and tapped again, hard.
TOC TOC TOC
"Goog morning, you must be Mr. Carrillo, Please excuse us, some jokers were playing with the school bell...I'm really embarrased..let me take you to your class"
Thats how the three ingredients mix up together.. and with some proper delivery those three are the best way to be an interesting guy.
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