I've read and heard A LOT of advice on how to get rid of Approach Anxiety, some of it isn't bad. The only problem is a lot of the stuff isn't useable/pracitcal. Let's face it Affirmations, Visualizations and Mindset changes are great and all but for a guy whose done maybe 10 cold approaches in his life it's hard to believe in an affirmation when there's no evidence for it (I know what you NLP guys are going to say but that evidence takes too long to find) , Visualization isn't as easy as they make it sound like come on:
Therapist: "Now I want you to visualize a girl"
AFC:"ok"
Therapist:"Now what do you see?"
AFC:"my ex-girlfriend who dumped me and won't get back together with me".
I'm not knocking these methods, they can work and well at that I've used all three of them, it's just the new guy coming into this or the guy getting back into this, these methods just take too long and you can't be sure of the results and of course they never fully take care of Approach Anxiety. I've been looking for a way to take care of Approach Anxiety once and for all. The best thing I've come up with so far is this:
Step one: Smile- When you smile positive thoughts flow through your head after a period and you start feeling positive. Also smiling gets other people to smile.
step 2:say hi- say it to everybody (especially the old laides they always reply). Sure some people won't respond postively, most just keep walking but some people will respond really positively and eventually you'll start feeling positive. Most people are boring so when you bringfun and excitement in there, they'll love it. This is also a great way to come up with new openers
Step 3: Make Cold Calls- this is really a great way of doing things, go in your local phone book and call people to get their advice on things just for no reason or just opinon routine them, and trust me getting hung up on isn't that bad
Step 4: Approach Daily: the hardest and most effective way to get rid of AA is to approach daily plain and simple until it becomes a part of your enviroment, it'll take about a couple weeks but it's worth it.
Alright gentlemen this is my way of doing it, works for every guy who tried it so take it or leave it

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Personally I never really got into the AA destroyers where I go up and say hi to everyone I meet or start conversations with random people, the only thing that worked for me and possibly for others is just pushing through it and getting that first approach out of the way. Ask for an opinion and eject for a few days, then try transitioning/stacking attraction etc. good post.

You need to know what u plan to deliver to your audience/sets it gets easier start here with this read the article
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I used to have really bad AA, but got myself into a summer job that required me to talk to people all day.. After a week or so as a door to door solicitor, the AA decreased so dramatically that I actually couldn't wait to talk to the next person. Continual practice has kept AA to side

Honestly.. the BEST AA Destroyer I have used is......
walk around and ask girls to touch your nipple.

No fucking joke, it raped AA

Lol, V.

Remember there is no foolproof way to do anything. What's that saying, "You make something foolproof and someone only omes along and builds a bigger fool"?

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NOW SERIOUSLY are you for real???
what kind of responses do you get from that?

I've heard that this is actually a really good method; anything that puts you in the face of rejection will help you get over AA... hell, I think even telemarketing might work because you'll be verbally abused by a whole lot of people.

It won't, I worked in a call center all summer. And the people really aren't as bad as you'd imagine, 99% of people are nice on the phone even when they're not interested.

I guess it is THEM who have the approach anxiety. I mean, earlier when I had to call companies, I used to feel nervous. Dialing things from the phone book might feel a little weird for some (not for me anymore, though). Sometimes people ask me to call THEM (they could be some company providing some services) when they have the phone with them. They complain that I know how to talk, huh... funny!

Approach anxiety sucks and everyone has it. If you have ever heard mystery talk he has said that even the best PUA's in the world still have approach anxiety but know how to control it and harness the anxiety. The best thing I have found to do is to try tons of different openers. Sometimes if I'm with some of my friends and a couple girls and the conversation dies I will use some openers for the group and just do one after another and the next thing you know the opener gets everyone going on a 20 minute conversation about each opener and then when that one dies try a new one out. Great success is only achieve through many failures.