Hey Guys,

I told myself when I first joined this forum I was going to be totally honest....good or bad...bottomline.

Well this past weekend was absolutely horrific!

Totally screwed this up and lowered my value big time with my GF.

Here's my story sad but true....AMOGGED BEYOND BELIEF!

My GF and I were invited to go with some friends to a bar-b-q.

We ended up going because a mutual friend who happens to be an AMOG invited us.

A few other couples meet at his house and we take a little yellow bus to the Barbq.

We start drinking booze and enjoying the day as well as each other's company.

My GF started getting shitty with me a few times over stupid stuff and I just kinda blew it off with some playful negs.

DON"T DO THIS GUYS: Drink so much alcohol that the negs start to turn downright nasty! Which I admit I did and have apologized for since.

After this happened I sat back and watched the action as my GF went from set to set and became pretty flirty with a couple guys....she is flirty to begin with but I also noticed a few IOI'S on her part.

I figured she did this to piss me off (which she certainly did) but I've read here that many IOI's are involuntary....so I'm a little confused?

Now I'm drunk and pissed off but trying to keep it together as we get on line to eat.

As the stampede begins my GF ends up in close proximity to this AMOG friend of ours as I get shut out by a bunch of other people.

Now I'm feeling like a superdick AFC as I seem miles away from her as she chatting it up with AMOG and I cannot get through the crowd.

As she stands right behind him he keeps turning around to engage her in conversation. He's peacocking with new clothes and I notice her playing with his shirt,smiling,laughing and all.

As I make my way through the crowd I felt a certain tension when standing next her after this but I didn't say anything.

Then she started singing "Leader Of The Pack"...as I asked her who was she referring to and she said The AMOG's name!

AGGGHHHHHH I just wanted to fucking keel over and die at this point!

Then I saw my opportunity to raise my value as some drunk was muthaf*ckin people in line.

This drunk ass came up to me very confrontational and I just shut him down with selective words and he moved on.

When he got to the AMOG ...the AMOG started calling him every name in the book!

Afterwards my GF just kept saying to other people "WOW...Did you see that?" talking about the AMOG with no mention of me almost getting into it with this drunk guy just seconds before! LIKE IT NEVER HAPPENED! WTF!

The rest of the day I noticed my GF always looking around for the presence of the AMOG (More than once) and when asking her what she was looking for she would just say "Nothing."

As all couples headed back to the buses that day My GF and I were holding hands when she totally broke the handhold out of nowhere and ran to catch up to some of the other girls in the group leaving me in the dust!

The rest of the night went downhill as I drank more and got more pissed off lost my cool and basically told everyone to go screw....but I don't remember this part.


MORAL: Drunk, Pissed Off and Stupid doesn't get the girl...lesson learned

I think I know what I did wrong through all of this...I got drunk,nasty jealous and argumentative and it showed.

An AMOG never loses his cool but I did that day/night and came off as an Idiotic AFC.

Do you think I was played by my GF to act this way?

If not what can I do now to keep her and DHV to her again?

Should I give up on her for this?

I just want a chick to hold my hand and want to be there without running off....is that too much to ask?

Kinda down guys sorry...any help appreciated

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Back, starting over as of 2012.

i like impacts advice but i would be careful with the flirting with other girls... let them flirt with you just incase she see's you flirt with them, she sems like the type to be a one upper. Ie: yo flirt she flirts and tries to take a step further to get back at you. at elast from your post she seems the type. how much type have you invested in her?

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Bullets in Binary

open her no matter who she is, regret is a worst word then failure...

Thanks for the advice,

I got 2 years invested in he.

I've done the flirt with other girls thing in the past and it led to big time arguments.

Binary you are correct as she is the one upper type.

I also must note she is not the chasing type either.

She places such a high value on herself that she claims she doesn't need anything from anybody.

Very strong willed and stubborn to say the least.

Impact was saying I place to much value on women in general.

In fact my GF places a high value on herself so therefore lately I've been negging her (maybe too much) and it's been backfiring on me by her resenting my remarks and going off on her own.

My question is: What can I do to keep her chasing on a daily basis after two years without causing fights or arguments?

up your social stock... if negs dont work (which i dated a girl like this the only problem was she was a drunk) and if she is a one upper i would say just up your social stock... this will make her realise that your "better" then her making her feel as if she has to work to keep you... try doin freeze outs. not long ones maybe just 1 day or 2 days ones at the most. If you have been together for 2 years and do long freeze out she may think your trying to end it so be careful. I would go out and make a new group of friends. Because you guys are together she is comfortable and you practicaly share friends there for you need to make her see other people find you interesting and maybe there is somthing new she doesnt know about you. It will be helpful if there is a HB or 2 in the new group but i would focus on guy friends so she doesnt go out and do the same (find a group of hot guys that is because you are in a group of girls) shit even when you go out together make a point to make friends with new people in front of her controle the groupsets and game them. this stuff always worked for me... the easiest thing to do is befriend a DJ at a club man that fucking Fclosed me every night i wanted, when i was living in Ohio.

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Bullets in Binary

open her no matter who she is, regret is a worst word then failure...

Thanks Guys,


UPDATE:
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Talked with the GF and everything is cool now.

Smoothed things over with her for being a drunken jerk over the weekend.

Decided to lay off the sauce for awhile, up my game as well as my social stock as you suggested.

Been doing small freeze outs on her and she has been responding well by seeking out my attention or moving her chair closer when I speak and the like.

I've also reduced my kino as well as kissing with her and she is chasing!

WTF happened to me was when I became a drunken AFC I came across as a beta-clingy-needy-crybaby.

I sat there and watched her roll without boundaries or consequences.

This is the farthest thing from my personality but I guess the alcohol got the best of me and I realize that now.

I've now laid down some ground rules with her that we both agree on....nothing crazy because she is like my female equivalent when it comes to socializing (fun and interesting and flirty at times)

I thought to myself that these are some of the qualities that attracted me to her in the first place so how can I be mad at her for that?

The answer is I can't because we are so much alike.

As Impact noted - women a free spirited creatures

I've learned my lesson in respect to that.