Okay let me make this short. I am totally into this girl that I have been chatting with online. We used to text a lot but then I stopped messaging her back. Soon she started to try and contact me. She would send me messages on msn and facebook. She always initiated the conversation.

So lately she has been asking me cruise with her and rock out to def leppard and come over and watch movies with her. We have a pretty solid bond.

MY plan is to get her to call me tonight or tomorrow, and just be cocky funny and get her a bit comfortable.

Yesterday I got the following text. What weird is that she hasnt texted me this morning, for the past 5 days i got a text every day from her.

HB: Morning!!!
ME: Good morning ginger spice try and stay out of trouble
HB: Lol I will! I have an extra ticket to motley crew on thur but we never hung out before so i might not like you! hehe
ME: Lol is that your weird little way of asking me to come?
HB: Nope! Lol cuz what if i dont like u! What if its all weird and awk!
ME: Totally you could start picking your nose in front of motley
HB: Nooo! What r u doing tonight!? Maybe we can the awkness so u can come! (Makes no sense, but i thought she wanted to hang out)
ME: I cant tonight! and we are just friends so how bad can it be hahah
HB: Cuz im a shy person!
ME: I know your character but get over it! lol we can meet at the concert or when i kidnap malcom (her puppy) this weekend.
HB: LOl maybe.... i think i might bail on the concert cuz i dont wanna leave work early.
ME: what a rock star!


I have a routine out that i would like to use for a phone conversation so please let me know what you think

1) Hey nose picker...... wow I was expecting a bit more of a stutter from you.

2) So are you the type that dresses all hardcore when going to a concert? I had this one friend that would always where the same shirt 5 days before the concert and again five days after. It was disgusting, is that something you plan to do? hhaha

3) So which other bands have you seen? Man in Indonesia it was much different to here. Usually after the concert we would always go back stage and hang with the band. Rock culture here is really different.

4) So when did you go out on your last adventure? Lets say you didnt have to work this summer, what would be first on your list. Dont say something like going out shopping for a new outfit.

5) Okay i have a real serious question for you... what kind of pizza do you order? ... oh no we are total opposites. I cant believe you eat that, we would never get along.


Do you think the reason she doesnt want to meet me is because she is shy and insecure? or because she actually thinks it would be weird and awkward.

I may be wrong, but it seems like she's shit testing you (might have been obvious to you already tho). I mean, it seems like she digs ya... altho not hearing from her, idk... i'd just assume that she's distracted with something right now. Maybe just a little space and time apart is a good thing?

It seemed like she wanted me to qualify, but i avoided that by testing her.

I have just given her about 2 months space, so its really now or never.

Sounds to me like you are spending way too much time in the attract phase. She's obviously into you so you should just call her and set up a date, no phone games. Sounds like a bit too much push and not enough pull.

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You are right. Should i get her to call me, or do i just call her out of the blue.

She is very shy.

I was going to say "c-c-c-call me tonight before bed so i can hear your stutter"

I think I would say something like "Hey I've been thinking about going to the Crue concert with you, but we should probably hang out once before so I know you are as fun in person as you are in text. I'm going to the pet store on thursday (or whatever you want to do) you should come along and hang out."

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I agree with rex.

she wants to be comfortable with you before she spends a few hours at a loud concert where she wont really be able to talk to you.

CK

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Concert is tomorrow. Right now all I am aiming for is a phone conversation. I am not sure if she would want to meet in person since she might feel a bit insecure, and feel too much pressure. Thats why I think the phone conversation would be best.

We have actually spent hours talking over msn, so I know she feels comfort. But I just want to know how to take it.

There is still a big difference between msn and person to person contact. I still strongly recommend getting together with her today before the concert. Even just inviting her over to watch a movie or making supper together or something simple like that will really help build comfort with her. If you can make that happen, I'd definitely consider it.

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I dont think I can make it in time for the concert. I havent texted her since yesterday and havent heard from her. I dont want to rush just for the concert although it would make an amazing 1st date.

I said, hey i just made an cd, lets cruise around and blast it.

she responded " lol ive been stuck in traffic for two hours not too happy"

From your text, She wanted to meet up with you the other day. Why didnt you? I think by blowing her off, you may have turned her off a bit.

the thing about online game is, the more you talk online, the more awkward its going to be to interact when you meet in person. You will be really familiar with their online persona, but may be dissapointed when you meet in person.

Dont put pressure on the situation, just relax about it. the concert would be an amazing first date, if you had met her in a public place and already have a bit of comfort in person.

Imagine meeting her online, and your first date is a movie where you have to be quiet the whole time. That is basically what the concert will be like.

CK

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