I was in a take out store the other day ..I had just rented some dvds which I had in my hand. I was about 2 people back and I noticed the girl behind the counter was in a real shit mood with the first two people (not smiling etc) as soon as I walked up to the counter she locked eyes with me and put a broad smile across her face, before I could even say what any thing she just started talking to me in a playfull manner asking "is that the new rambo?", "I love rambo". She was not all that stunning but she was not half bad either, I said some thing like "uuh yea should be a good flick". What I said is not important, what I should have said is...I feel as though this girl was flirting with me and I did not know what to say or do or handle the situation with out three word answers and nothing witty to say. I felt pathetic ..what would you do in this situation and how can I stop this from happening again.

Get her talking about something she enjoys. Maybe tell her that she looks like she's having a rough day, and ask her what time she finishes. This is a bit of a risky strategy because on the one hand girls like to feel like guys understand them (which you demonstrate by showing you are aware she's pissed off with work), but on the other hand you're reminding her of something unpleasant (being pissed off with work). But then you're offering her a chance to think about escaping, and to talk more about what she plans on doing when she's not at work (and that implies the possibility of sharing it with you, e.g. inviting her over to watch the DVD with you).

smile with her and say something like 'one of those days eh?'
then chatter with her about rambo since she brought up the subject, fluff for a minute, lots of smiling but dont show too much interest, keep distance, and maybe as you move to the side because your done and there are people behind you waiting, lean on the counter alittle but not far at all or your intimidating, and depending on the girl, maybe say something endearing like 'listen, i dont usually do this but you've got a bright character, when do you get off work? how bought a coffee to get over your day" blah blah whatever, doesnt matter how + what you say is as long as it isnt -. she initiated the convo.

"Who doesn't love Rambo? Remember when he got all messed up and he needed to suture himself up with his emergency survival kit stashed in his knife? Then he was like, "Arrrrrrggggggh!! Adrian! Adrian!" (Important to make that twisted rambo/Rocky face and really scream loudly to make a bit of a ruckus)

Only gifted improv specialists will come up with on the spot direct, relevant zingers. So for the most of us, there's nothing wrong having a few unique openers memorized. Everybody loves a quick story. Having a few in mind and creating an instant laugh can get everything going. From then on, it's easy to kino into a "Right on!" . . . and a high five.

So let's just say that your "canned" movie story is Napoleon Dynamite. -
"Cool . . . Well, I've totally been into Napoleon Dynamite lately. Ha ha. . . My name is Rex, if you join my 6 week training program, you will learn a system of self defense that I've developed from over 2 years of fighting in the Octagon. It's called Rex Kwon Do!" Shit that was long . . . how about Pirates of the Caribbean, "We're going to commandeer that ship laddie! Use nautical terminology!" See . . .I don't think this would be any less effective in breaking the ice than the somewhat relevant story above. Just create your own frame and your own reality. Then keep the entertainment short. One laugh is enough. You want to trigger the laugh(Any chick that opens you will laugh at ANYTHING remotely funny. They are programmed to do this)

If she wants more laughs and more fantasy away from that pit, she'll need to see you again . . .

I'm not such a big fan of asking how she's doing and how her day's been and dragging a conversation into a mundane everyday talk. She can do that with her co-workers and her sisters. I never justify my advances by saying, "I never do this . . " or use any sort of apologetic voice. Perhaps this works for some of you.

Honestly the first thing I would have done is looked her straight in the eyes and gave her a MASSIVE smile, like as big as I can without showing teeth or tearing my lips, then when she stopped talking I woulda said something like "I like you, you're cool" and from there you can go into a bit about how you had been real busy of late and hadn't even heard that there was a new rambo movie and you heard about it today and immediately went out and rented it or some shit story that you can back up, and lead on into asking her number. You could have easily transitioned the number, since she opened you, and it sounds like she was IOIing the shit outta you. Coulda said you'll text her with your definitive opinion or something and suggested that you would like to watch a movie with her.

But really if a girl opens you, I find the best action is just to get that massive smile on your face like there's finally someone cool enough to 'get it' and you approve and then tell them they are cool or something. It would get a number at least.

Most importantly, don't stutter or anything if she catches you off guard. If you need to, take a moment to gather youurself, then say something really confident and loud, not a 'what is this girl talking to me for' murmur like most AFC would. K?

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