Sarging an Ex? One-Itis, or a Legitimate Challenge?



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PostPosted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 3:52 pm 
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One of the main reasons I decided to become a student of PU was to overcome my one-itis. I've dated a girl for 9 months, and she was the first girl that I thought I loved. I was consumed by the AFC mentality, she had a lot of guy friends and I respected her lifestyle enough to trust her. Until she hooked up with a guy at a concert. We have all probably been there, but I soon became the emotionally punishing sort-of ex boyfriend.
I didn't like it, and neither did she. I was not a happy person. That was the turning point for me, and it was when I was introducd into the PU community, and I've love every moment of it. I didn't talk to her until very recently, where she called me out of the blue. Now, my inner game has drastically improved, and I have many options.

I wanted your guys' take on an ethical matter.


Option 1:

Run game on this girl, assuming that I have no intention of dating her at least in the forseeable future. Is that wrong?

Option 2:

Utilize her as a pivot. Heres a subtopic in a topic. Is a pivot someone you are previously friends with, or is it usually a girl you previously gamed in the same setting (Merging sets). She is very outgoing and would be a great pivot. However, I can honestly say that my one-itis hasn't totally receded, although this girl has absolutely nothing to offer any guy in terms of S&R value. She is a HB 7.5, rated on appearance only.

Option 3: Phase her out of my life. The latter half of our relationship has been toxic, and keeping her around would only be "picking at a scab"


-Option 1 would be the most risky, yet rewarding

-Option 2 would be logically the smartest approach to the situation. Turn enemies into friends, right? Make lemonade out of lemons, insert cheesy cliche here.

-Option 3 would for the long term probably be the "smart" thing to do. However, I hate burning bridges.

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I would become friends with her again, and use her as a pivot.
She doesn't have to know she's one, u just pop somewhere talking to a chick and it gets all the other girl's attention.

I have a friend who went through the same situation and now he talks about just doing a treesome wit her some day, no serious relationship. you could try to get fun-play wit her but don't go back to a relationship. If you can handle the scab being ripped of without squinting, then you can go for that!

Just remember, get rid of any akwardness you share, and from there make whichever move you want!


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Option 4: Kick her in the cunt, move on and meet other women.

It sounds like you just want to use her.
Ask yourself these questions.
Do you really want to go through the same BS you went with her before? Because it will happen.

How are you going to feel/react when the two or you are out, u are using her as your pivot, and she ends up with another guy? That oneitis is going to creep up outta nowhere fast.

Get her outta your life, it sounds like she was no good for you.

Good luck bro,

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If you ask me exes belong to history starting to show intresst for them again would be like you never got over them and quite frankly it is a DLV in my eyes but what do I know heh.

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Good tips gents. It would be convienient to run game, but I think that it would be tremendously counterproductive in the long term.

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Burn the bridge.


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DONT DO IT! It sounds like she hurt you and you want to try to get her back for it. It will blow up in your face. There are a lot of interesting points already made - especially the one about her meeting another guy while you're out.

I agree - you should just leave it in the past and focus on the future.


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DONT DO IT! It sounds like she hurt you and you want to try to get her back for it. It will blow up in your face. There are a lot of interesting points already made - especially the one about her meeting another guy while you're out.

I agree - you should just leave it in the past and focus on the future.
I think it may be a little late.... :D

Good luck Joey.

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None of the above.

Sarging the ex is a fucking terrible idea.

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