Hey what's up guys? Last night i hooked up with someone for the first time in a few months and i found myself feeling like a fucking "noob" while doing so.

Started off with making out.....then under shirt.....kiss neck....make out...suck boobs....kiss around tummy/over/under breasts....back to making out...kissing side of face.....then i go for down the pants and i get LMR there.

Anyway i basically now am thinking "fuck! what do i do now?!" ...Can't finger b/c she doesn't want to now(which is fine)....but i felt like i was just repeating what i was doing for 15 min or so.


Can anyone PLEASE help me out? I felt kind of embarressed b/c i felt like i was "missing something" and that i looked like "wow he doesn't do this very often".

Any help/"direction" would be much appreciated!

i had the same thing with my gf that was like after 2 month of dating and i was 15 she was 14. we were making out in the forest then i went for the button on her jeans, she did a 'mnmn' sound and took my hand away. i told her: 'i will not force you to do something you don't want to do, but i want you to know that i'm ready.' next day we had great sex. that was her first time.

i can't give you any tips on that, because that happened to me only once, but i though i should share that story with you.

pardon my english. i'm ESL.

It's two steps forward, one step back my friend. You can say something to the effect of, "I don't want to do anything unless we are both comfortable with it." Reframe the situation so it seems like her fault. "I don't know why you are doing this to me. I just can't help myself. Stop it!"

The real key is to slow down the action before she does. The goal is to have her begging you to go further. I will usually say something like, "we shouldn't be doing this. What are you doing to me?" as I unbutton her pants.

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