| Lol well, the only way to really get over it (I'm assuming you're talking about the importance of looks) is to understand the difference between the male and female brain (not necessarily understand how the female brain works - cause it is F*ed up lol - but the difference).
Basically - guys are very Visual. Very logical. Very absolute and cut/dry about things. We see things in black and white. Which is why that when we see a woman, the first thing (whether we like to admit it or not) we take note of is looks. It's just the way we're wired.
Women are more responsive to suggestion, subtlety, and qualities about a person. It's funny because some of the girls to whom I've asked, "What do you find physically attractive about a guy," they'll often reply with - "I don't know." Which may seem like a stupid answer to guys, but not to them. Which isn't to say that looks don't matter at all, but just because you don't look like Brad Pitt doesn't mean you can't attract an HB10.
I vaguely recall a study done by doctors/scientists where they monitored the brain chemistry of males and females while showing them pornography. The male brain showed a huge shift in brain chemistry as they responded to the visual stimuli. The women, however, not so much.
I made a HUGE mistake with a girl (someone for whom I had some serious oneitis) where I tried to break out of the Friend Zone by trying to get her to start seeing me in a sexual context. Sufficed to say, it was less than classy. (Many) Girls don't respond to sexuality the same way guys do. Not at first, anyway.
I think it's really important for people to do their best to look after their bodies and physical appearance. It raises your own self-confidence (trust me, just stick with it and you'll start feeling a lot better about yourself), and raises your standards of others.
A good work out program is this program called P90X. I've tried it once, it's very difficult, but it's a regimen based off of push ups, pull ups, chin ups, and a few weights. They claim that you can get ripped in 90 days, and offers its own diet program. A little expensive (about $200) but cheaper than going to the gym. May be worth looking in to. I still recommend going to the gym, it's a great way to get out of the house.
Don't worry man I was once like you. I used to weigh only 100 lbs, and I'm 5'8". In the course of a few months I packed on enough muscle to bring that up to 145lbs, and feel a lot better about myself. And while my main motivation to go to the gym was to impress girls (lol), it eventually became more about making myself feel better about how I looked in the mirror. All this Pickup stuff should be about making yourself feel more confident about who you are. If you can do that, the women will follow.
Remember, the key to muscle gain is in your diet, not just working out. Talk to a nutritionist at your gym, or check out Men's Health.
Cheers,
Q.
PS - Q is for Qlass. Haha.
|
CHAT